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Jaimal Yogis
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This is an image of Green Tara, a female Buddha and bodhisattva who is revered in the Tibetan Buddhist traditions. I’m posting an image of her because I’ve been thinking about all the courageous #MeToo posts in reference to what I’ve learned about biology and Buddhism.

When a guy is afraid, a typical response is to “fight, flee, or freeze.” Women also react this way but they’re also far more likely to adopt what biologists call a “tend-and-befriend” response – meaning look for ways to diffuse the scary situation through kindness, communication, diplomacy – exactly what we encourage our children to do when we say “use your words” and what we hope our world leaders (mostly men) will do.

I think it’s fair to say tend-and-befriend is the more enlightened response (all the more so in an era where violence is rarely needed for survival). And though this is an over-generalization, it comes more naturally to women. Literally, kindness is more baked in to female DNA.

In arguing why having a human life is the perfect opportunity for enlightenment, Buddhist sages throughout the ages have often pointed to the fact that we are not a big scary animal. Our fingernails are soft. We don’t have fangs for tearing flesh. We’re a species that is more suited to, say, making medicine, knitting sweaters, or becoming Buddhas (awake, happy, and compassionate) than making war. Obviously we (mostly men) have decided we should also excel in weapon-making to be the big, scary animal – and maybe that was necessary wandering the Serengeti. But it’s not now. It’s time to evolve past that. And in learning how we evolve past that, our teachers are easy to find. Our moms, sisters, girlfriends, daughters, and wives.

This isn’t to say Men don’t have enlightened qualities that women can learn from. But in building an enlightened society, kindness and compassion are clearly the place to keep our compass. So dudes, remember what mom (and hopefully dad) taught you and use your words.
http://www.jaimalyogis.com/me-too/
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In Honolulu for some book signings. Thanks for having me on KHON.
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Thanks to Antoine Wilson of the San Francisco Chronicle for this thorough review of All Our Waves Are Water.


"To each locale, Yogis brings a journalist’s eye for detail, depicting the world around him in an evocative and unpretentious style. In a book ostensibly dedicated to internal states, this is no small feat…Narrating it all with a wry but engaged hindsight, Yogis is candid about his doubts and failures. It’s hard not to root for him as he stumbles toward enlightenment.” ~ Antoine Wilson, The San Francisco Chronicle Book Review
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Thanks to the Press Democrat for this story. See you at Copperfields tomorrow night. http://www.pressdemocrat.com/lifestyle/7130836-181/writer-jaimal-yogis-talks-about?artslide=0
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Thanks Eastern Surf Magazine for the review: "All Our Waves Are Water is as fine a wave of candid, humble, raw, bare-it-all human wisdom as we have seen in quite some time. Through all of the roads, waters, and mountains Jaimal has traversed... with this work of shimmering prose, he has given us an immeasurably beautiful gift." - http://www.easternsurf.com/news/book-review-waves-water-jaimal-yogis/
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Enjoyed writing this piece for Lion's Roar. These are metaphors I've been using since college. Feels good to have finally written them down. Thanks Rod Meade Sperry at Lion's Roar for margin the piece so pretty.
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As you’ve heard, millions of children are starving to death in South Sudan, Yemen, and Somalia. “A month ago,” according to the NYT, “the secretary general of the United Nations, António Guterres, warned that 20 million people would fall into famine if his aid agencies could not corral $4.4 billion by the end of March.” They’re billions short.

On top of the Syria chemical weapons news, I don’t know how to wake up and feed my kids and deal with this news. How do we reconcile the fact that we have self-driving cars and will likely go to Mars soon while millions of children can barely walk they’re so weak? Since hearing the first NPR story on this, a few times a day I want to curl up into a fetal position and bawl or vomit. I want to run away. I want to drop everything and fly there to volunteer. I want to squeeze our boys and never let them go. I feel like the whole world should stop and say, “ok, nothing else happens until these kids are not eating grass and getting gassed.” (I know that’s Syria, but it’s all connected.)

We are struggling here too. Life is hard for rich and poor alike. We have responsibilities – our own families to feed and jobs to do. But I was thinking about it and my primary job right now is marketing my new book, All Our Waves Are Water, going on book tour. But even knowing the power of stories to do good, it feels strange to be putting so much energy into selling a book about world travel, surfing, spiritual fulfillment, and joy, when millions of kids can’t even approach these ideas because they are too weak to play. 51Tn0tTPAAL

I don’t know if this just a way to deal with my own privilege. But I know that I need to do something to pair this media / book selling push with helping at least one kid in South Sudan find food. I was offering a free children’s book for anyone who pre-ordered All Our Waves. I’m changing that. From today onward, anyone who pre-orders a book – which is available anywhere books are sold – send me a receipt to jyogis@gmail.com and I’ll donate the $1 I get from each book (and that’s ALL we authors get) to UNHCR’s Refugee program for South Sudan.

I know this isn’t much. And, of course, it’s better if you donated all $17 you’d spend on my book directly to the UN. But if you want the book and also want to make sure 100-percent of the author’s money goes to hunger relief, then this is the way to do it. I welcome other suggestions of what we all can do.

Also, I’m not going to donate $1 at a time, but at the end of each month I’ll donate, say, $100 for a 100 copies. And my friend Lisa Morris Frame has agreed to match this grant up to $250, so that will mean double for the first 250 copies.

Here's how to pre-order www.jaimalyogis.com/allourwaves/


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Pleased to announce that ALL OUR WAVES ARE WATER: STUMBLING TOWARD ENLIGHTENMENT AND THE PERFECT RIDE - the book I have been at for the last two years, the book that is by far my most honest and vulnerable - will be released by Harper Collins June 13th.

ALL OUR WAVES is a follow-on to Saltwater Buddha that tracks a comedic search for grace, a job, love, truth and surf through the Himalayas, Mexico, New York, Jerusalem, Indonesia and San Francisco.

It seems especially appropriate in this moment. The book is a 60,000 word meditation on how our darkest moments catalyze the greatest insight and compassion if we open them. The biggest storms yield the most beautiful rides.

Thank you so much to my friend and editor Karen Rinaldi for having faith in this project.

Also, please pre-order from your favorite seller at the link below. The number of pre-orders these days often determines how many copies get printed, how much marketing goes in etc.
http://www.harperwave.com/…/All-Our-Waves-Are-Water-by-Jai…/
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