call your mother. just held an elderly lady (80s) hand while she cried because her son doesn't call her. they were very close all their lives. she traveled with him extensively, helped him raise his family, now she's sitting in her apartment with her arthritis....except when she forces herself out to walk every morning.....waiting for a call twice a year. her pain was so huge, she couldn't keep it in any longer. made me glad i got screwed before i was so desperately old and lonely. made me glad we ran into each other so she had someone to tell. call your mother. she's a person, too.