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Regardless of whether an opinion is popular or unpopular, it is a mistake to assume that just because somebody has posted an opinion/position in public means that they’ve opened themselves up for debate on it.
 
Good article about having discussions (especially online), how to take a clue that you're being inappropriate etc.

ETA: some parts of it smell a bit of tone policing, but on the other hand others are very sensible advice and can also be useful to help you better focus your efforts if you find you're experiencing burn-out due to being engaged in a lot of discourse about racism, sexism, ableism and other -isms and have trouble saving up energies/disengaging when the conversation is going nowhere. So, I'd say the article is a bit of a mixed bag but the good parts are worth reading.

Another common mistake is to assume that just because somebody has stated an opinion or position means that they’ve opened themselves up for debate, even if it’s in a “public” space such as on YouTube or Twitter. While I’m a believer in “you have a right to what you can defend”, there’s a time and a place for challenging others – and many people wrongly assume that’s “any time”. The fact that somebody is having a conversation on Facebook or Twitter doesn’t mean that they’re looking to take on all comers. Yes, they may not have their settings on “private”, but simply being in a “public” space doesn’t serve as an invitation for anybody to put their two cents in. Restaurants or shopping malls are also public spaces, but inserting yourself uninvited into somebody else’s conversation there is still rude.
Part of not being seen as a dickhead means recognizing that you can pick your battles. Some arguments are simply not worth having. You may enjoy a lively debate; that doesn’t mean everyone else does and trying to drag other people into it is a quick way to end up alone. Being “right” is a hollow victory when it comes with a side of “…and this is why nobody likes you.”

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One of the biggest mistakes I see people make when they’re trying to express an unpopular or opposing opinion is that they aren’t having an argument, they’re having a fight. Arguments are about trying to change minds and bring someone around to your point of view. Fights, on the other hand, are about beating the other person either literally or metaphorically. (emphasis mine)
You have a right to your opinion, right? So why do people get upset when you disagree with them? Here's how to share your opinion without being an ass.
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"Restaurants or shopping malls are also public spaces, but inserting yourself uninvited into somebody else’s conversation there is still rude." I have a feeling many would feel this is not relevant to the online arena. Unfortunately...
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Argh, the HEY OUR CONVERSATION FROM TWO WEEKS AGO ONE... 

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I'd like to get most of those cards :) 
Especially that one about conversation. Sometimes in a "Our conversation from 10 years ago..." form :) 
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ABSOLUTELY LEGIT.
 
Before I vanish, I share this. 
#Legit  
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Wingardium menstriosa.
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Knowing anxiety is not rational does not really prevent it from escalating.

"Oh no, my car keys are gone! What if I don't find them? What if I try to get them replaced but it's not possible or it takes forever and something happens and I need my car and I can't get in it? What if the thing that happens is that I need to drive someone to the hospital? What if that person is my best friend? What if they're dying and the only way to get them to a hospital is my car and my keys are still gone? Oh, god, I LOST MY CAR KEYS AND NOW MY BEST FRIEND IS GOING TO DIE AND IT'S ALL MY FAULT."

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I often find myself thinking, "Man, this whole thing would be so much easier if you just knew a little more about anxiety."
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If one cannot find peace in the midst of chaos, then where is one to find it? ;)
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::dances::
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This is an excellent image.
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Don Dixon's art is already glorious, and this is fascinating.

http://www.cosmographica.com/spaceart/pluto-predicted.html
New Horizons photo of minor planet Pluto is remarkably similar to 1979 painting by Don Dixon
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I need to find one of these.
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Excellent!
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Porkpie snuck into my bed at some point and this is how I was greeted this morning, complete with kitten-rattlepurr.
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THE BEST. BEEEEESSST.
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MOAR CATSHOES.
 
This is what came to mind with all the #CATSHOE posts +Lillith Sullivan +Eve Sullivan +Pinkatron 2000 
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This made me lol.

The original GIF made me lol, too.
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This is the second best thing about today. 

MOAR CATSHOE.
 
Cat shoe: The second coming (or Cat-shoe-ception)
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I'm pretty sure that this reveals that there is no such thing as a platypus, but rather that Australia has a serious catshoe infestation.
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This is my favourite thing today. 

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I have no idea what I'm doing.
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As close as kitty can get to a hoverboard. And I should be able to get at least 6 instances without trying hard. Haven't tried it yet.
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Education
  • University of Phoenix
    CE, 2004 - 2004
  • California State University, Sacramento
    CE - Web Programming, 2000 - 2000
  • American River College
    Liberal Arts, 1991 - 1993
  • Casa Roble Fundamental High School
    Honors/AP, 1989 - 1991
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Daydreamer.
Introduction
"...We'll see who rusts first." - Arthur Dent-- Douglas Adams, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. 

 - I love to read posts about Reading and Writing, Music, MMORPGs, Role Playing Games, Fantasy/Sci-Fi TV and Movies, Science, Health, Weather, History, Technology, Distant Places, Geekery, Cats and Lolcats, Punny Humor, Art and Design Principles, Cooking, Organics, and Gardening.  

- I'm happy to circle people who interact positively and thoughtfully. Please consider promoting what you love instead of bashing what you hate! If you feel the need to bring negativity and arguments into my socialwebs, I'm not here for that, so please move along if that's the case. 

- This is my personal Google+ account. My views and opinions expressed here are mine alone and do not represent the views or opinions of any of my employers.

REASONS I MAY HAVE UNCIRCLED/NOT ADDED YOU BACK:
- Your Profile is mostly blank.
- Your User Photo is blank or a photo of someone/something else (cats are fine, though.)
- You don't post anything, or you don't post anything interesting to me. 
- Your Post History features controversial/stressful topics, discussions, and comments that I just don't want to get involved in.
- You regularly post other people's art without attributing it to the artist and source. 
- You have a lot of discussions with (or have been sharing +1s of) users I have blocked. 
- You don't write much in English or any languages I have a passing familiarity with. (I am happy to see posts in Spanish, Italian, German, French, and/or Finnish.)
- My notifications are messed up, I deleted a bunch of circles, and/or I had no idea you exist. (If you think I should have you circled, but I don't, let me know by tagging me into a post with a cat or a spider or both in it :).)

REASONS I MAY HAVE BLOCKED YOU:
- You share offensive NSFW content, ideals that are diametrically opposed to mine, or spam.
- You share pedantic, argumentative, inflammatory, impolite, or thoughtless comments.
- You share denigrating comments about something I really love, or your only contribution to any discussion about a post favouring a thing is a rant/screed against that thing.
- You share creepy, inappropriate comments or your profile makes you look like a creep. 
- I simply don't want to waste my limited time on your words, because my life is short.
Bragging rights
One-half of the Sullivan Twins, published artist and poet, superpowered mutant, Worrying Warrior
Work
Occupation
Legal Secretary
Skills
Pleadings, Transcription 80-100 WPM, Legal Solutions, Time Matters, Legal Ethics, WordPerfect, Adobe Acrobat, Abacus, Microsoft Word, Excel, PowerPoint, Google Apps, File Management, Legal Research, LexisNexis, E-Filing, Telephone Reception, A1-Law, Adobe Photoshop, OpenOffice, CopyTrax, CSS, HTML5, HotDocs, Pacer, PoserPro 2012, EAMS, Wordpress, Joomla, Outlook, Google Docs, Google Calendar, Google Voice
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Currently
Pollock Pines
Previously
Fair Oaks - Orangevale
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