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Lillith Sullivan (Lilithiel)
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Regardless of whether an opinion is popular or unpopular, it is a mistake to assume that just because somebody has posted an opinion/position in public means that they’ve opened themselves up for debate on it.
Good article about having discussions (especially online), how to take a clue that you're being inappropriate etc.

ETA: some parts of it smell a bit of tone policing, but on the other hand others are very sensible advice and can also be useful to help you better focus your efforts if you find you're experiencing burn-out due to being engaged in a lot of discourse about racism, sexism, ableism and other -isms and have trouble saving up energies/disengaging when the conversation is going nowhere. So, I'd say the article is a bit of a mixed bag but the good parts are worth reading.

Another common mistake is to assume that just because somebody has stated an opinion or position means that they’ve opened themselves up for debate, even if it’s in a “public” space such as on YouTube or Twitter. While I’m a believer in “you have a right to what you can defend”, there’s a time and a place for challenging others – and many people wrongly assume that’s “any time”. The fact that somebody is having a conversation on Facebook or Twitter doesn’t mean that they’re looking to take on all comers. Yes, they may not have their settings on “private”, but simply being in a “public” space doesn’t serve as an invitation for anybody to put their two cents in. Restaurants or shopping malls are also public spaces, but inserting yourself uninvited into somebody else’s conversation there is still rude.
Part of not being seen as a dickhead means recognizing that you can pick your battles. Some arguments are simply not worth having. You may enjoy a lively debate; that doesn’t mean everyone else does and trying to drag other people into it is a quick way to end up alone. Being “right” is a hollow victory when it comes with a side of “…and this is why nobody likes you.”


One of the biggest mistakes I see people make when they’re trying to express an unpopular or opposing opinion is that they aren’t having an argument, they’re having a fight. Arguments are about trying to change minds and bring someone around to your point of view. Fights, on the other hand, are about beating the other person either literally or metaphorically. (emphasis mine)
You have a right to your opinion, right? So why do people get upset when you disagree with them? Here's how to share your opinion without being an ass.
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Amen to this.  
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I love Star Wars, but getting this article from my boss has ruined my day.

With a new Star Wars movie on the horizon, the next few months are going to be an overwhelming onslaught of merchandising. But thankfully we’ve already hit rock bottom now that you can buy fur-lined Chewbacca Crocs—and not just in kid sizes.
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Ewok slippers, hmmm. That's how all Ewoks should be: dead, skinned, and crushed underfoot. Stupid teddy bear fucks.

I really don't like Ewoks.

As an aside, I saw one at a Star Wars exhibition - they are actually surprisingly large. Still stupid though.
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I still really like this idea.
This article I wrote a few years back remains, sadly, relevant: 
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Books + #Caturday + Bed = Peace
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I'm pretty sure I need to see this.
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If you stand in the fire I probably hate you.

Laughed so hard I cried, though.

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Pretty much any MMO :-)
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Nom nom nom... If yer not gonna eat that...? Hee hee! 
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#Throwback all the way to yesterday.

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This is what playing #WoW  with my twin is like.
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This song, I like it! ANOTHER!
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NO REZ 4 U. Probably because you stood in the fire.

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I always scared the healers in WoW via Life Tap. Lots of Life Tap. 
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Attention +Eve Sullivan .
Feel like you need a vacation? Consider hitting the road.
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I'm pretty introverted, and it's definitely in my nature to just let friendships lie sort of fallow without a lot of contact for long periods. But then I'll pick them right back up when we are together like there was no time in between. 

I feel bad because I was in Sacramento for 3 whole months and never hung out in person with +Eve Sullivan or +Lillith Sullivan, who I have considered to be friends for almost 4 years now. 

Being in the RV makes that sporadic contact a little easier - like, I miss my friends Jason and Kristin, too - but it's not that I'm "being a bad friend" by doing my own thing too much and not taking advantage of relative proximity (like I did with Eve and Lil and fam damily), it's that Jason and Kristin have spent all summer IN ALASKA!
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Black cats are wonderful.

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  • University of Phoenix
    CE, 2004 - 2004
  • California State University, Sacramento
    CE - Web Programming, 2000 - 2000
  • American River College
    Liberal Arts, 1991 - 1993
  • Casa Roble Fundamental High School
    Honors/AP, 1989 - 1991
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