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Lillith Sullivan (Lilithiel)
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Regardless of whether an opinion is popular or unpopular, it is a mistake to assume that just because somebody has posted an opinion/position in public means that they’ve opened themselves up for debate on it.
Good article about having discussions (especially online), how to take a clue that you're being inappropriate etc.

ETA: some parts of it smell a bit of tone policing, but on the other hand others are very sensible advice and can also be useful to help you better focus your efforts if you find you're experiencing burn-out due to being engaged in a lot of discourse about racism, sexism, ableism and other -isms and have trouble saving up energies/disengaging when the conversation is going nowhere. So, I'd say the article is a bit of a mixed bag but the good parts are worth reading.

Another common mistake is to assume that just because somebody has stated an opinion or position means that they’ve opened themselves up for debate, even if it’s in a “public” space such as on YouTube or Twitter. While I’m a believer in “you have a right to what you can defend”, there’s a time and a place for challenging others – and many people wrongly assume that’s “any time”. The fact that somebody is having a conversation on Facebook or Twitter doesn’t mean that they’re looking to take on all comers. Yes, they may not have their settings on “private”, but simply being in a “public” space doesn’t serve as an invitation for anybody to put their two cents in. Restaurants or shopping malls are also public spaces, but inserting yourself uninvited into somebody else’s conversation there is still rude.
Part of not being seen as a dickhead means recognizing that you can pick your battles. Some arguments are simply not worth having. You may enjoy a lively debate; that doesn’t mean everyone else does and trying to drag other people into it is a quick way to end up alone. Being “right” is a hollow victory when it comes with a side of “…and this is why nobody likes you.”


One of the biggest mistakes I see people make when they’re trying to express an unpopular or opposing opinion is that they aren’t having an argument, they’re having a fight. Arguments are about trying to change minds and bring someone around to your point of view. Fights, on the other hand, are about beating the other person either literally or metaphorically. (emphasis mine)
You have a right to your opinion, right? So why do people get upset when you disagree with them? Here's how to share your opinion without being an ass.
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Amen to this.  
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I can always use a little more Star Wars in my Google.
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Who doesn't need more Star Wars?
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Bedcat says the night is dark and full of terrors, or at least the night is full of something small and excitable scrabbling noisily outside the window. #CaturdayEveryday
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I think (hope) it was a raccoon this time.
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I know, I'm late to the party.
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Bag butt!
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But the old Google+ was about all the stuff I'm into and the people who get me.

I'm meh on Communities -- they do not have good filter/display/moderating options -- and Collections don't do much for me. 
The new Google+ is all about the stuff you’re into and the people who get you. We can’t wait for you to start exploring.
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Me too, generally speaking. I have just noticed in the last few weeks that single collections of mine do get new followers every day.

Perhaps those are being recommended to people and some click on that. It has not increased interaction, but if people just like what I post, I am the last to complain. 
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Here, have a #Caturday Meade in a blanket cave, it helps. 
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It's the Meadlebee!
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Morning challenge: figure out how to get out of bed without disturbing Meade.

Also, how is it that a cat's weight inexplicably increases when they don't want you to get up?
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"achieve his weight on Jupiter" -- I can't stop giggling over that, +Natalie Mootz 
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Today's goofy screenshot brought to you by -- wait, are those FANGS on the night elf?
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Apparently this turns you into a hoarder.
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Ne'ermind, I found it! Yay!
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I'm pretty sure marshmallow stuffing improves any kind of cookie.

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Marshmallow Stuffed Cookies- The kids and I were in the mood to bake one day so we decided to put an extra special spin on regular chocolate cookies.
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OMG OMG I want this!
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It's just that your massive  (massassive?) gorgeous temple is a SITH TEMPLE.
#McQuarrieMonday - Of all the structures to have to convert for your base, a massive, gorgeous temple is definitely not the worst.
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Now that they're gone... Do you think I could move into the Yavin temple?
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This is probably the oddest and most completely random note I've ever received on deviantArt.
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Wouldn't need super powers. I'd get Lois Lane. *Steeples Fingers* Superman does the rest after that. 
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"...We'll see who rusts first." - Arthur Dent-- Douglas Adams, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. 

 - I love to read posts about Reading and Writing, Music, MMORPGs, Role Playing Games, Fantasy/Sci-Fi TV and Movies, Science, Health, Weather, History, Technology, Distant Places, Geekery, Cats and Lolcats, Punny Humor, Art and Design Principles, Cooking, Organics, and Gardening.  

- I'm happy to circle people who interact positively and thoughtfully. Please consider promoting what you love instead of bashing what you hate! If you feel the need to bring negativity and arguments into my socialwebs, I'm not here for that, so please move along if that's the case. 

- This is my personal Google+ account. My views and opinions expressed here are mine alone and do not represent the views or opinions of any of my employers.

- Your Profile is mostly blank.
- Your User Photo is blank or a photo of someone/something else (cats are fine, though.)
- You don't post anything, or you don't post anything interesting to me. 
- Your Post History features controversial/stressful topics, discussions, and comments that I just don't want to get involved in.
- You regularly post other people's art without attributing it to the artist and source. 
- You have a lot of discussions with (or have been sharing +1s of) users I have blocked. 
- You don't write much in English or any languages I have a passing familiarity with. (I am happy to see posts in Spanish, Italian, German, French, and/or Finnish.)
- My notifications are messed up, I deleted a bunch of circles, and/or I had no idea you exist. (If you think I should have you circled, but I don't, let me know by tagging me into a post with a cat or a spider or both in it :).)

- You share offensive NSFW content, ideals that are diametrically opposed to mine, or spam.
- You share pedantic, argumentative, inflammatory, impolite, or thoughtless comments.
- You share denigrating comments about something I really love, or your only contribution to any discussion about a post favouring a thing is a rant/screed against that thing.
- You share creepy, inappropriate comments or your profile makes you look like a creep. 
- I simply don't want to waste my limited time on your words, because my life is short.
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One-half of the Sullivan Twins, published artist and poet, superpowered mutant, Worrying Warrior
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  • University of Phoenix
    CE, 2004 - 2004
  • California State University, Sacramento
    CE - Web Programming, 2000 - 2000
  • American River College
    Liberal Arts, 1991 - 1993
  • Casa Roble Fundamental High School
    Honors/AP, 1989 - 1991
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