Bossing people around does not make one a good leader. A true leadership role is earned with the respect of the team. Having a title or placing oneself in a position above others is no guarantee of becoming a good leader. Leadership can only be earned with the respect of others. It is earned through hard work, experience, observation, expertise and loyalty.
Leadership is not gender specific, it is not conferred either. It has to be learned and earned. When one combines those traits there is potential for leadership.