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Steven Fogel
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To live a life of honor, we must be authentic.
To live a life of honor, we must be authentic.

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For more information, check out my website: http://stevenjayfogel.com/
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Stop and take a moment to “pause your machinery.” The concepts and techniques I present throughout my latest book, Your Mind Is What Your Brain Does for a Living, require mindfulness to learn and master, and this brief written exercise will give you the opportunity to rest, step outside the pattern of passive reading, and bring yourself into the present moment to reflect and see how the information I want to share with you can be integrated into your own life.

http://stevenjayfogel.com/pause-your-machinery-wisdom-pages/

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This Guiding Principle reminds me that people often dump their problems onto one another. It reminds me to not allow other peo­ple to put their bad feelings into me so that I’m stuck with them. 

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This Guiding Principle reminds me that when I experience a situa­tion in the present that my mind interprets as similar to a past situa­tion, my amygdala will generally kidnap my common sense and cue me with my old default programming.

One of my most valuable tools for staying in the present is what I call my Guiding Principles. Once I was able recognize my Organizing Principles and see their self-defeating aspects, I began to formulate new Guiding Principles to replace them. These new principles remind me what I’ve learned about living life without being held captive by my judgments and interpretations and expectations.

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medium_15821823118“Feelings are not facts.”
This Guiding Principle reminds me that no matter how strongly I feel about my point of view, it is still a feeling; it’s not an objective statement of reality. http://stevenjayfogel.com/guiding-principle-feelings-are-not-facts/

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A friend recently told me a story about needing a Time Out when driving with his wife to meet another couple for dinner. He thought he knew where the restaurant was but found he was mistaken. He asked his wife to call the restaurant but she hadn’t brought her cell phone. Learn more in this excerpt from my recent book, titled "A Tale of a Needed Time Out”: http://stevenjayfogel.com/a-tale-of-a-needed-time-out/

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Identifying how your default programming activates you in response to certain situations or issues is a crucial component of parenting yourself. It is the point in the process where you commit to making mindful choices in connection with these triggering situations and issues so that, more and more, you’ll make sensible choices in response to them instead of always being at their effect.

Learn more about how in this excerpt from my recent book, titled “Pause Your Machinery: Giving Yourself Time Outs”:

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It’s crucial to remember to reflect mindfully on your thoughts and actions. When you realize you’ve acted on automatic pilot and in a self-defeating way, with your new mindfulness you can view yourself and your actions with the COAL qualities of curiosity, openness, acceptance, and love rather than judging yourself for the very fact that you are human.

The process of becoming more mindful requires committing to the goal of mindfulness and, equally importantly, to the effort it takes to be mindful, and not condemning yourself for being human and sometimes acting mindlessly.

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It’s crucial to remember to reflect mindfully on your thoughts and actions. When you realize you’ve acted on automatic pilot and in a self-defeating way, with your new mindfulness you can view yourself and your actions with the COAL qualities of curiosity, openness, acceptance, and love rather than judging yourself for the very fact that you are human. 

The process of becoming more mindful requires committing to the goal of mindfulness and, equally importantly, to the effort it takes to be mindful, and not condemning yourself for being human and sometimes acting mindlessly.
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