Teaching our child at an early age not to get out of our house without us knowing is ideal and advisable
This is Sofia. She came and knocking twice in our door at noon yesterday. The first time I opened our door, I asked her if she’s lost and if needed help to find her mom.
“No, I am looking for someone’s house” she replied.
“You got the wrong house sweetie and where’s your mom?”.
“Oh, she is in our house just in the corner” she answered. Then, she took off. I was thinking probably the new neighbor just in the corner and maybe they are just over at the next door park. This is not the first case that some kids come and knocking in our door if they can play with my daughter. But these kids I know them at school and they know me because sometimes I do volunteer at school.
Anyway, after several minutes, Sofia came and knocked again, and this time she introduces herself to me.
“Hi, I’m Sofia. Can I play with your daughter? I just live around the corner”.
“Oh, ok. But where’s your mom? Is your mom supposed to be here and talk to me personally?” I asked.
“My mom knows I am here to play with your daughter. I don’t speak bad words and I play nicely”, she said.
Then I asked, how old she is and replied back that she is 5 years old.
Then I figured that she must have just got out of the house without her mom knowledge and just wandering around the neighborhood. What I mean, a curiosity mind of a child is working.
Then, I invited her inside the house and went outside and check if there’s a car park next door. Maybe her family is over the park but I see none.
I told her I have to change my clothes and we’ll walk over at her house and need to talk to her mom.
Before we get out of the house, I talked to Sofia that I think her mom does not know where she is and that she just sneaks out of the house. I can see that I was right because she kind of thinking deeply. I then, told her that is not good idea at all to get out of the house at the very young age without telling her mom to get out of the house. Some bad things might happen to her.
After passing several houses, her mom is calling her behind us. She just came from the park and I saw the worried look on her face and almost cried when she saw her daughter. She even parked her car the wrong way for being worried. She asked me if her daughter came and knocking in our door and I said yes. It looks like this is not the first time that her daughter has done it – get out of the house without her knowledge. I found out that their house is three streets away from us.
On the other hand, not a first case a kid came and knocking in our door. A fourth grader is supposed to go and play with his friend’s house but got lost in the direction. He knocked in our door and asked me very nicely if I can help him with some directions. Other times too when two boys came and want to play with my nephew (when my nephew still lives with us), and turned out that their parents does not know that they get out of the house. One time too, a two or three years old boy came and knocking in our door as well.
When Sofia said that she wants to play with my daughter, I already knew that something is wrong.
It just occurred to me and wonders why the kids landed in our doorstep instead in my neighbor’s house? To think that our house sits in a corner lot and our courtyard is gated. When it is gated, you are more reluctant to come in.
Anyway, I am grateful
taught my daughter at the very young age not to go out beyond our gate without asking me first. I would have been so freaked out and worried sick about her if she has done it this way too.
Teaching our child at an early age not to get out of our house without us knowing is ideal and advisable especially nowadays. Life is not that simple anymore. It is not the way it is used to be.
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