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(prologue: I can't tell if you're actually satirizing people who say these things, or you actually believe them, since I don't really know your biography. Given the tenor of the article and the way it's presented, I'm going with the latter: you can say you 'got me' if it was actually the former.)

Of course, you have the power and freedom to make your own decisions for your own reasons. My only real issue is that any teenage girl could have written this exact article.

It takes only a modicum of self-gift (which is a sign of adulthood) to offer the opportunity of life to another person. It's not particularly heroic to have a child - even a parcel of them - nor is it particularly heroic to raise him or her or them well, although society has that odd duality where parenthood is both vastly overrated and the greatest thing anyone's ever done ever. The truth is somewhere in between.

Using your #2 item, you seem to be striking at the very human dignity of the deaf, the blind, the physically handicapped, the mentally handicapped, and the just plain stupid who decide to have children. You are saying that because they are what they are, they ought not risk communicating their defects to their children - which directly implies that you necessarily think they shouldn't exist either. Short people got no reason to live. 

However, will you or nil you, you, dear Kathy, were personally loved into existence out of absolute nothingness by an infinite and utterly transcendent God, with the cooperation of your parents (who, hopefully, had at least a bit of love for you in the act - at least, they were open to the possibility of you).

One key truth of that is: compared to nothingness, there's a level at which you're only a small improvement. (If you internalize this fact, it is what we call 'humility') And on that spectrum, the severely mentally handicapped, the physically profoundly disabled, the suffering, and the stupid are all not that far away from you. And we tall people who have none of those problems aren't really that far away from you either. However, on the spectrum of transcendent human dignity (that 'something' is infinitely far away from 'nothing'), the differences in expression of that humanity - between the short or autistic and the NBA players and vos Savants - are entirely in the noise.

There is a famous Latin saying: nemo dat quod non habet - you cannot give what you do not have. Since you have both existence and essence (a body and a form in your genetics), you could give those things to another.

Given that, it seems, the thing you might be missing - is love. 

Specifically, that sort of love that is self-sacrificial (which is, in the final analysis, the only love worthy of the name). Authentic love, the kind that doesn't get you anything for yourself but permits you to empty yourself, to give everything - and take joy in the giving. 

The secret of life is that when we empty ourselves - whether it's a parent for our children, or as a religious teaching in schools for all their days, or as a Priest self-sacrificing his desire for his own family to better serve the Family of God, it is in this self-emptying that we find the fullness of humanity, a fullness of love that can be found only - only - on the Cross.
 
I don't think Aspie is an argument for or against as far as the genetics goes, but the other things you listed, I can understand not wanting to pass on. Not my place to make your decisions for you, anyways, so my opinion on the subject doesn't really matter.
 
I was replying to her, not to you. Didn't read your comment, actually.
 
The world population is increasing, but the birth rate is actually dropping!  That is because people are living longer.  Population will decline precipitously in about 30 years, toward the end or our lives.
http://overpopulationisamyth.com/
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