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Darius Cikanavičius
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I just published a new guide to self-harm and its relation to unhealed childhood trauma.

"Nobody is born wanting to hurt, harm, or neglect themselves. Nobody is born wanting to act against one’s own interests or to ignore their basic needs."
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My new article that is a brief guide to toxic, chronic shame and other things related to it.

"Children who experience trauma often feel shame. Since this shame is not usually identified and addressed, the person grows up into an adult who suffers from a chronic shame."
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My new article on common unhealthy relationship patterns we learn in an adverse childhood environment.

"Our childhood environment and relationships with the most significant people around us, mainly our primary caregivers, teach us different relationship models and dynamics that we later enact in our adult relationships."
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My new article on common painful childhood lessons and messages that haunt us long into adulthood.

"Many people grow up in an environment where they are mistreated and taught harmful beliefs. When we are developing, our caregivers’ and other authority figures’ opinions and treatments of us are extremely impactful to our development."
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My new article on how traumatic childhood experiences teach us to lie and self-erase by hiding who we are.

"By being treated in these damaging ways, the child learns that being yourself is dangerous, that in order to survive and be at least marginally accepted by your caregivers, you have to hide who you really are: your thoughts, observations, feelings, and preferences."
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My new article where we explore common toxic techniques narcissists and other manipulators use in conflicts, disagreements, discussions, and similar interactions.

"A narcissist sees interaction as a win-lose situation. To “win,” they try to dominate, bully, deceive, demean, humiliate, and hurt others."
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My new article on how narcissists manipulate others by lying and playing people.

"People with strong narcissistic tendencies are known for certain destructive social patterns. Anybody who has had the misfortune of dealing with these types of people may notice that whenever there’s a conflict or any type of disagreement, they tend to act in an abhorrent yet predictable manner."
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My new article is out! Here, you can learn about some alternative perspectives and exercises on how you can accept yourself more and feel good enough.
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My newest article on the perils of perfectionism and always feeling not good enough.

"No matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, no matter how good of a person you are, no matter how much you achieve—it’s never enough."
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My newest article on how you can deal with toxic situations in a healthy manner.

"Verbal abusers, manipulators, narcissists, and otherwise toxic people wittingly or unwittingly use language to hurt and exploit others...So let’s look at some more common things toxic people say and how you can look at the situation and examine the words without getting too overwhelmed, confused, or manipulated by them."
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