Profile cover photo
Profile photo
Mitch Amiano
138 followers
138 followers
About
Communities and Collections
View all
Posts

Post has attachment
Mitch Amiano commented on a post on Blogger.
Not incidentally, now it is over 31 years.

I know four people in the last year who are going through divorce; one had a spouse who lacked affect due to a personality quirk, one had a spouse who developed an out of control addition, one had a spouse who became detached from untreated depression, and one became disillusioned with a marriage made for what was at the time thought to be pragmatism rather than love. Each has relationship has kids. Having date nights or making little romantic gestures out of chores, as commonly advised, would not have been enough to make those relationships beneficial to either spouse. Nor would constant monitoring. But establishing an ability to stand on one's own, makes decisions to do what is right less influenced by the power and economics of the situation.
Add a comment...

Post has attachment
Mitch Amiano commented on a post on Blogger.
Incidentally, the link above is broken. Wayback Machine has the article at
https://web.archive.org/web/20100403092905/www.divorcepeers.com/dating-after-divorce-wait.htm . The recommendation of the author is, if you've just lost a spouse for whatever reason taking a year off from attempting any other romantic attachments will allow you to get beyond the influences of that last relationship that may blind you and others to incompatibilities.
Add a comment...

Post has attachment
Mitch Amiano commented on a post on Blogger.
Karen, I have to say thanks for reminding me of this post. I also have to admit that when I hear of one spouse monitoring every action of another, with a stated intent of controlling everything, I have an impulse to respond negatively. This may be because my own belief is that a non-trivial level of independence from others, confidence in one's self, and trust in the choices of others, is essential for a healthy human mind. If such monitoring were a precondition, I believe I would terminate the relationship.

So I believe that such a level of control is undesirable. My own life observations suggest that periodic accountability is absent when people are apathetic and lack caring, but constant monitoring tends to drive a wedge of distrust between people. The best connections are always made through face to face interaction anyway, and short of illegal NSA level surveillance it is not possible to monitor every channel of communication possible on the internet. The level of control you seek may be an illusion.
Add a comment...

Post has attachment

Post has shared content
Disruptive technologies are often subtle and surprising.
My TEDxABQ talk  "Starting a small revolution in medicine" was just uploaded to youtube.  In my talk, I describe my son's illness, and the work we are doing to develop smaller, safer, cheaper medical technologies that could revolutionize medicine, and help my son and others like him.  As this talk was being filmed, Ryan was in the audience sitting in a wheelchair, with his complex regional pain syndrome (CRPS) flaring up again after a minor accident a few weeks before.  A week after my talk, we tried using a mouth-guard with him, not knowing if it would help.  Within a few minutes, Ryan got up and started walking, for the first time in nearly a month!  The mouth-guard reduced his pain enough to start physical therapy and as of today he is mostly pain free again. His doctors are astounded.  Our website at http://www.smaller-medicine.org has more information if you are interested.  We need to start thinking about using smaller medicines to help improve the lives of the millions of people who aren't being helped by the "big" technologies and drugs currently employed in modern medicine.  Its time to start a small revolution in medicine.
Add a comment...

Post has attachment
FYI, to my friends - I'm shutting down my AgileMarkup.com email - the business as an LLC was closed as of Jan 1st and the email is nothing but spam and LinkedIn recruiter messages now.

I can be reached at my ncsu.edu (day job) address or my personal gmail which is associated with this Google+ account.

- Mitch
Photo
Add a comment...

Post has attachment
Mi mi mi mi mimosa
Photo
Add a comment...

Post has attachment
How's it hanging?
Photo
Add a comment...

Post has attachment
Bombs away!
Photo
Add a comment...

Post has attachment
It's going around
Photo
Add a comment...
Wait while more posts are being loaded