OK, time for me to speak my piece. Guys, if you are insulted or uncomfortable about what I say, tough. Also, much vulgar language will follow.
Seems a lot of folks think YesAllWomen is about one psychopathic asswipe. It's not, he was just the trigger, not the cause.
And many, many more see this as some kind of indicator of the "mental illness" issue. It's not. In fact, playing the mental illness card is poorly disguised means of making men
the victims. Fuck that.
The guy who shouts "nice tits!" at a passing woman is not mentally ill, he's a jerk.
The guy who pinches a waitress is not mentally ill, he's an asshole.
The guy who says "come on baby, you know you want it" while trying to get his hands in his date's clothes is not mentally ill, he's a dick.
The guy who takes advantage of/gets a girl drunk or drugged as a means of sexually using her is not mentally ill, he's a fucking asswipe.
Each one of these fuckwits does it due to a sense of entitlement, and a reasonable belief that they will not be punished for it. That's not mental illness, that's a severe cultural flaw.
If a woman turns you down, that doesn't make her a "bitch". She may not want company, she may already have a date, or she just might have incredible insight into the fact that you are an ass.
And for the shitbirds at conventions who tell women they're not "real geeks/gamers/whatever" just because they're female? Seriously, fuck you. You are not the gatekeeper of geekdom/fandom, you are merely a poster child for the shortage of soap and deodorant in the world.
YesAllWomen is about that fact that I can dare you to find a female over the age of 18 in the US who has not felt denigrated/extremely uncomfortable/outright threatened just because of her gender, with a reasonable belief that you will not succeed.
This is not some problem we can assign to an agency somewhere. This is a problem that begins at home and in our communities. Each one of these douchebags had a mother/father/guardian/teacher/friend who failed to instill proper social behavior. It may have been through their own actions, but mostly, it's due to inaction. It's not enough to not tell kids it's OK
to harass women. You have to tell kids it's not OK
to harass women. I still get cold chills just thinking about what my father would have done, had I showed disrespect to someone just for them being female. It was instilled in me to the point that I truly cannot fathom the mindset needed to behave that way. If your friends act like this, don't ignore them, dope slap them. Would you want someone treating your mother/sister/girlfriend/wife like that? (If yes, you are frankly, an asswipe.)
Enough for now, I could stay on this soapbox forever.
Guys, it's all really simple, follow the Wheaton Principle, "Don't be a dick"#YesAllWomen #dontbeadick