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Tom Head
Happiness is a warm truth.
Happiness is a warm truth.
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"The consuming desire of most human beings is deliberately to place their entire life in the hands of some other person. For this purpose they frequently choose someone who doesn’t even want the beastly thing." — Quentin Crisp, The Naked Civil Servant (1968)

I think most unhappily single people are not as worried about being loved as they are about being worth loving, and "worth loving" is a concept that, if we really lay it out on the table, makes no sense at all.

Everybody is worth loving in a healthy way; nobody is worth loving in an unhealthy way. I don't mean to quote Auden every day (or maybe I do; he's my Shakespeare and Milton), but I like this bit:

"[T]he error bred in the bone
Of each woman and each man
Craves what it cannot have,
Not universal love
But to be loved alone."

Most of us are surrounded by very unhealthy and unrealistic models of what love is and how it functions, so it's reasonable to ask ourselves on some level: how can I be good enough to be worth loving in this kind of unhealthy, unrealistic way? But I can't; nobody can; nobody should. Nobody is ever "worth loving" enough to justify a bad relationship.

Every time you accuse someone of playing the "race card," you imply that people of color are stupid and easily manipulated. Every time you refer to "the gay agenda," you imply that lesbians and gay men are more concerned about the lives of strangers than their own. And every time you say abortion is murder, I know exactly what you're saying about sexually active American women. You want a more civil political dialogue? Find a more civil political movement.

When the world disappoints a friend, I often react as if I've personally disappointed them and try to make amends. Since I'm not the Messiah, this doesn't usually work.

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I decided Twitter @tomheadlovesyou needed its own profile pic (since I discovered Photo Booth's "Hearts" feature), then decided I liked it better than the mean-mugging one I was using for G+.

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This is what happens when Cleverbot talks to Cleverbot. Hilarious and a little scary.

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"A scary thought regarding the Republican presidential primary: Voters eventually might nominate someone who questions evolution, has no use for the Environmental Protection Agency, believes climate change is a scam cooked up by data-fixing scientists and is willing to suspend reality when it suits."
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