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Gail Meyers
Gail is a mother, grandmother, JD and advocate.
Gail is a mother, grandmother, JD and advocate.
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Joanna Ashmun (1948 - 2009) was ahead of her time writing about narcissistic personality disorder on her site. May she rest in peace. Read It's a Good Life on Joanna's site at


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Happy Spring. If anyone needs to message me, please do so on Narcissistic Personality Disorder Mother Facebook Resource Page at

Thanks! - Gail

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The rights of others end where my nose begins. I will affirm and defend my God-given boundaries. Dr. Paul Meier. You can find his books in the bookstore at

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What if My Mother or Father Dies Before We Resolve our Relationship? by Darlene Ouimet on Emerging From Broken at


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I think EVERYONE should see this movie, which is where the term originated. It is a psychological thriller that beautifully demonstrates how gaslighting is used to target and break down a person. It is in the context of a romance and marriage in this movie, but can be used in any relationship. This movie will help you recognize if it is being or has been done to you.

For a more in depth movie review, watch this video at


Watch it now or bookmark it for later - free.

Gaslight Movie, Part 1

Gaslight Movie, Part 2

What is Gaslighting?
The term gaslighting derives from the 1938 stage play Angel Street, and the 1940 and 1944 film adaptations Gaslight. This is an absolute must see movie because it so clearly demonstrates both the techniques and the effects of gaslighting.

Ingrid Bergman won an Oscar for her performance in this psychological thriller, playing the wife and gaslight victim of her greedy, manipulative husband. The three stages of gaslighting articulated by Dr. Stern in The Gaslight Effect are also clearly demonstrated in the film, which are discussed momentarily.

In true narcissistic style, the gaslighting husband has a hidden agenda as he begins the whirlwind romance with Ingrid Bergman’s character, Paula. The whirlwind romance began with love bombing, a tactic often used by both individuals and cults with hidden agendas. As the movie continues the relationship progresses through the three phases of a relationship with a narcissist. The three phases include the idealization, devaluation and discard phases.

He sweeps her off her feet during the idealization phase, proposing very early in the relationship. Once married, the relationship quickly moves into the devaluation phase as he isolates her and begins to intentionally and systematically drive her insane with gaslighting techniques.

He insists she is hearing things when what she is actually hearing is him sneaking around in the attic. He intentionally moves things so she cannot find them. Then when she comments on it, he responds to her in a way designed to cause her to doubt her perceptions. He continues moving things as he then tries to convince her she is the one misplacing things. While he is doing all of this, he simultaneously tells her she is forgetful, before escalates into telling her she is mentally ill.

He is now speaking condescendingly and at times angrily to her as the relationship approaches the discard phase with him threatening to have her committed. He gets the housemaids to join in on the gaslighting, which coupled with the imposed isolation results in her being unable to receive validation from anyone for her perceptions - which are 100% accurate by the way.

When she insists on accepting an invitation to a party in an attempt to break out of the isolation, he intentionally ruins the event while causing her to look unstable to the others at the party. She is nearly convinced she is losing her mind and giving up. However, you will have to watch the movie for yourself to see how it ends! Gail Meyers


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The only people who get mad at you for speaking the truth are those invested in the lies. Keep speaking the truth. Gail Meyers

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My account says "currently being used in 1 other location." I have been signed on for several hours, not having signed out and back in. Additionally, I have been signing in from the same IP address, (exclusively), for several days now, after finally recovering and accessing my account (AGAIN). - Gail


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Controversial Study Defending Child Molesters Is Debunked
Leading Mental Health Experts Charge that "Bad" Science is being used to Justify Exploiting Children

NOV. 29, 2001 -Shock waves reverberated through the public, political and scientific community two years ago, when a controversial study claimed that consenting children aren't harmed by sex with adults. Now this conclusion, along with the methods of its authors, has been debunked by a new scientific critique published this week in Psychological Bulletin.

Described by one member of Congress as the emancipation proclamation of pedophiles, the paper by authors Bruce Rind, Robert Bauserman and Phillip Tromovitch, published in the July 1998 issue of Psychological Bulletin, launched a firestorm of public debate. Rinds paper has been cited by fringe groups like the North American Man-Boy Love Association (NAMBLA) as providing support for their efforts to decriminalize sex between adults and "consenting" children. Child molesters have also used the paper to argue that they shouldnt be held legally accountable for abusing children.


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How Many Children Are Court -Ordered Into Unsupervised Contact With an Abusive Parent After Divorce? on The Leadership Council at

Contact: Joyanna Silberg, PhD, Executive Vice President
tel: (410) 938-4974 or email Joyanna Silberg

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