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Gail Meyers
Gail is a mother, grandmother, JD and advocate.
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Are we unable to even see our own view counts now as well as them no longer displaying publicly? (Mine has disappeared and reappeared before)

Narcissistic Personality Disorder - One of the few conditions where the patient is left alone and everyone else is treated.


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Singer's Six Conditions for Thought-Reform (Brainwashing)

1. Keep the person unaware that there is an agenda to control or change the person.

2. Control time and physical environment (contacts, information).

3. Create a sense of powerlessness, fear, and dependency.

4. Suppress old behavior and attitudes.

5. Instill new behavior and attitudes.

6. Put forth a closed system of logic.

Cults In Our Midst, by Margaret Thaler Singer, p. 64. Find it in the bookstore at


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They will often attack and belittle the person who is being critical, instead of dealing with the points the person is making. They do this usually because they have no defense against the criticism, they have been found out. So it's easier to destroy the reputation of the critical person instead." — Dr. David McDermott, What Is Narcissism? A practical guide to protecting yourself.

What Is Narcissism? A practical guide to protecting yourself by Dr. David McDermott in the bookstore at


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Narcissistic Mothers Divide and Conquer

They use this to divide and conquer, even, or perhaps especially, among their own children. The narcissist will lie to Daughter about Son, then to Son about Daughter. If Daughter and Son are not wise to the tactics of Narcissist Mother, they will each be angry with or dislike the other based on the lie. This causes fighting or even severed relationships between Daughter and Son - as Narcissist Mother pretends to be innocent, referee or the pitiful mother worn out by such bickering kids. Gail Meyers

Read Tactics of a Narcissistic Personality Disordered Mother at


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Now none of us is immune to causing harm. Sometimes we can inflict pain on others out of sheer ignorance or even carelessness. But this is not the same as intentionally doing something to injure someone. And disturbed and disordered characters are unfortunately among those who hurt people intentionally and for a variety of nefarious reasons. While it’s almost unfathomable to most folks (especially the ”neurotics” among us), some of major reasons disturbed and disordered characters engage in malicious behavior include:

To punish. Disturbed and disordered characters don’t like it when you don’t see things their way, do the things they want you to do, or give them what they want from you. And they’re more than willing to make your life miserable as a way of coercing you to comply. They’re particularly vindictive fighters whose cardinal rule of engagement is simple: Give me what I want and you won’t get hurt. Defy me, and there’ll be some sort of hell to pay.

To feel powerful. Some characters just want to feel one-up and on top of you. And they’ll do whatever it takes to make you knuckle-under or remain in a one-down position. They hurt you because they can, and knowing they can makes them feel big and strong. Disturbed characters often build themselves up at the expense of others.

To take advantage. As I point out in In Sheep’s Clothing, Character Disturbance, and The Judas Syndrome (as well as in many of the blog articles), for disturbed and disordered characters, it’s always about position. And when they seek personal gain, it’s generally at someone else’s expense. Succeeding at the task of interpersonal exploitation also helps confirm for them their already problematic (inflated) sense of self-worth and perpetuates their attitudes of superiority and entitlement.

For the thrill of it. For the some of the most seriously disturbed characters, doing harm to others is a source of great amusement. It’s a most sordid type of fun. It actually gives them joy to relish in the suffering and misfortune of other. And there are some disordered characters (see also the three articles on the Sadistic Personality) who are particularly prone to this.

They lack the attributes of character that might motivate them to do otherwise. Some folks don’t have the kind of conscience or inner controls that might keep them from doing things that might hurt others. So when something happens that they don’t like and they feel like lashing out, they simply do so because there’s nothing in their makeup that makes them give pause or hold back. Some even have such deficits in empathy that simply doesn’t bother them enough to think twice when it comes to harming someone else. They’ll do what others generally wouldn’t dare simply because they don’t care.

Read the full article at
— with Joel Macalalag.

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder Diagnostic and Statistical Manual 5 Criteria:

"A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements).

2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.

3. Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).

4. Requires excessive admiration.

5. Has a sense of entitlement (i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations).

6. Is interpersonally exploitative (i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends).

7. Lacks empathy; is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.

8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.

9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes."

Watch Is My Mother a Narcissist?


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Narcissistic Mothers Know They Are Manipulating (C5) Video by Gail Meyers at


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In my experience some sick people love to try to beat you half to death with the Bible. Of course, it's usually some biblical text taken out of context being used as a pretext. That's what cults do, and in my opinion my family of origin, led by a narcissistic personality disordered parent, is a little cult family. Tactics of a Narcissistic Personality Disordered Mother by Gail Meyers at

The Cult Next Door: Twisting Scripture

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