When a guy ask a lady saying: will you marry me? What do you think he is saying?
And when the lady says: yes! What do you think she is saying?
I can authoritatively tell you that a lot of guys that ask that question don't know what ask for. Likewise the lady that answers. Before I go further, let me recommend a movie for you. It's Up In The Air . Main actor is George Clooney. Please try and see the movie , especially the scene where George's view of marriage was questioned.
And the Lord God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him. (Genesis 2:18 NKJV) Please underline the phrase a helper comparable to him. To be continued tomorrow. Good night friends.
George didn't believe in marriage because he thought it is all about sex, children and the burdens thereof. Also because he could get sex alternatively outside the marriage without any commitment. I don't blame him because when you walk outside the will and the law of God, what you get is minor and little things confusing you. May be a reprobate mind at work.
Perhaps, the most dangerous thing is to assume or believe you know something. But, when you are questioned about your believe, it turns out that you have actually been using assumed mean method. This can destroy your faith seriously if not totally and that is what happened to Anna Kendrick in that movie. Do you know why you do what you do and can you genuinely defend what you believe about Christ, marriage, law of God e.t.c?
"a helper comparable to him." this phrase means your guy or boyfriend or husband or partner is not who you think he is. He needs just A HELPER. Yes, he looks strong, working class, not leaving with his parent but on his own , he goes to church, respect you, bla bla bla bla! But the word of God says he's not what you see now.
He needs HELP. He is WEAK. He can COMPROMISE. He can't do it all by himself. He's fragile. This is what he meant when he asks for your hand in marriage: Babe, You know we've been together for sometime now and I love you. You know it. See, I'm not what you think I'm. I can't make this remaining journey all by myself; I'm weak and I need your help. Will you be there for me when my weakness shall be laid bare before you and, may be, the whole world?
Hahaha, he's never going to go into details like that. He would probably just ask you straight( though most times romantically) either in the public or private on his knees(another symbol of submission and not of love. Don't mistake it): will you marry?
And your response? Yes I will! Do you know what you have just done? In any marriage, the woman is the strongest. Whether a marriage would survive or not, it depends on the woman. Proof me wrong! This is why you, woman, should never try to propose to a man. He's the one that needs help. How many of such marriage last! As for me, if any girl propose to me, I would take to my heels. He who finds a wife has......what? No be me talk ham; nah Bible. It didn't say she who finds a husband. You, woman, can never waste away. With good character and godliness, he shall and must look for you. That's the design!
Let me make it easier for you. What you are telling him is that, "I will be there for you when it your weaknesses shall manifest." What a commitment! This is the mystery some of our ladies don't understand! If this is what you said to him when he asked you for marriage, which is true anyway, why then do we have more divorce? Why do some women, if not most, don't want to help their husbands when they are faltering apart or away; when they stop making money; when they cheat on you e.t.c?
Look at the divorce rate in America, Europe, Asia and even Africa and you will be surprised. That is what happens when you walk outside the will and the law of God. Choose right and understand that you are his helper no matter how strong he think he is.
And the Lord said, My Spirit shall not strive with man forever, for he is indeed flesh; yet his days shall be one hundred and twenty years. (Genesis 6:3 NKJV)
Our life span, according to this verse, suppose to be 120. But let us say a 100. How old are you now? Remove that from 100. What is the balance? When do you think you are going to get married? Add it the period to your age and remove it from the balance. You should have new balance now. Right? Whatever the balance is, it is still more than the time you have spent with your parent, time spent schooling and the likes. You are going to spend more than 50% of your lifespan with your husband or wife. Why don't you choose right?
I'm 29 years old and I intend to marry by 30.
100 - 30 = 70
70/100 * 100 70%
If Christ tarry, it means 70% of my lifespan goes with my wife. Who will help you bro and who are you going to help sis?
"a helper comparable to him." This is where the issue of compatibility comes in. But I will not go into that for now. Let me stop on the "a helper". I'll talk later on "comparable to him". Let us pray.
Love you all
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