We Need to Keep 'Our Business', 'Our' BusinessWe’ve all seen the posts or texts or tweets.
Some variation of “I’ve had it with [insert name here]”
or “Can you believe what she did now?”
They pop up on our friends’ accounts or, worse yet, maybe we’ve been guilty of writing them ourselves.
Whether it be through social media, our cell phone, or even our own mouth, it seems those things that need to stay behind closed doors are no longer doing so.
When we’re facing challenges within our relationship, the first person we need to discuss the issue with is our partner -- not our mom or our best friend or strangers out in cyberland. We need to keep 'our business,' 'our' business.
I know it’s tempting after a fight to whip out the phone and call a friend or jump on the computer and vent with a tweet. But these reactions aren’t healthy and don’t help us resolve the issues we’re having. Instead, we open ourselves up to a whole lot of ill-informed input and bad advice that's based on very limited information (140 characters, to be exact).
So the next time we feel tempted to involve others in our relationship strife, we need to stop and let the temptation pass. Instead we need to talk to our partner or to someone who can offer wise counsel based on all of the facts (such as a therapist or pastor). And above all, we need to keep 'our business,' 'our' business. #behindcloseddoors #relationshipadvice #kurtstips http://goo.gl/KPFUEi