If you start typing "first impressions" into Google and follow most of the suggested links, you can read myriad articles explaining the importance of a first impression, and how they can colour a person's judgment of you, forever.

It is not quite fair to maintain a negative perception of another just because of that first impression, and I think we have a social responsibility to give others more of a chance to express their natures.

Such was my experience at Birds & Beans in Toronto, where the owner's initial response to my question about whether I could order a single-origin brewed coffee was to explain that they only had a blend on, adding that they "did not disclose" what was each blend.

This answer was immediately off-putting to me, reminding me of the two or three cafes that I've called over the years that refused to tell me the name of their coffe's roaster, making me feel as if I were some industrial spy out to steal their secrets, rather than a coffee enthusiast.

Rather than simply taking my coffee and leaving in a huff, however, I took another moment to acknowledge the owner as I was leaving, and we then chatted about coffee for a few minutes, during which she warmed up to me and actually did tell me more about that blend that I was drinking.

In reality, she turned out to be quite pleasant and eager to discuss coffee, and I left able to focus on the positive aspects of the cafe, like the beautiful bird-themed decor, and their focus on bird-friendly coffee, rather than stewing over a negative initial impression.

The coffee itself did not work for me, because the owner does not buy into the super light roast philosophy that a lot of those American West Coast roasters follow, but I can still see myself taking Lisa back to the cafe, because I think that she would enjoy the atmosphere.
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