the following is from a good friend of mine. please read it and PLEASE if you know of any suggestions or can point her to someone who might know of any suggestions....PLEASE let me know
My Story Thus Far
by Shellie Petunia Traylor on Tuesday, October 11, 2011 at 7:49am
I was 8 ½ months pregnant when my ex-husband, who I had sent through law school, filed for divorce asking for full spousal support and for me to be removed from the family home. He was able to evict me and my unborn child, since the house was his property before marriage. He also drove our bank account $1,500 into the negative.The first mediation was cancelled due to Joey’s mental state. The first court trail was continued, due to Joey’s class schedule. An agreement was reached. Joey was to pay for his half of the medical bill and his part of the health insurance which I covered.When my child was born, Joey refused to come to the hospital because he didn’t know if he wanted the child. His mother arranged for visitation with social services, however, he again refused. His father showed unannounced to my room, while I had just gotten out of recovery from an emergency c-section, demanding to see the child. He was asked to leave.His father then filed a complaint against me with their lawyer, saying I attacked him and hid the child in the room. (false)Five days after having surgery, I was dragged into court, because Joey had decided he wanted to see the child.A visitation schedule was set. Joey was to pay no child support b/c he was unable to work while studying for the bar.Joey refused payment on many of the medical bills. And, to this day has yet to pay for his half of his insurance.It is also interesting to note, that Joey wasn’t studying for the bar. He was never allowed to take the bar.A month later Joey became unhappy with the visitation agreement. And, requested another court intervention.While picking up my child at Joey’s parent’s house, Joey attempted to punch me in the face. So drop off/pick ups were moved to a Sheriff’s station.He also decided that before the courts could make a decision, he would simply just keep the child. He handed me a note in the Sheriff’s office parking lot saying he would give the child back when he felt like it. He and his father drove off, while I was holding onto the door handle.I went into the police department with our current custody agreement and the note. The Sheriff’s office refused to get involved in a civil matter.I contacted my lawyer who then contacted their lawyer. His lawyer advised him that he should try to work something out with me. His lawyer did not tell him to give back the child as per agreement.I received several texts from Joey stating when I was “good” I would get my child back.I finally received my child back.Gustav struck Baton Rouge and Joey told his lawyer he no longer wanted his child. For two weeks we had no contact.After Gustav, Joey decided he wanted his child and we went to court.At the time of this court appearance, Joey had approx 20 missed visitations.The judge ruled that the missed visitations showed how much he wanted the child and granted him extra visitations.While in court Joey cancelled in next visitation because he was busy that day.We then went to a co-parent councilor to work out issue and set a holiday schedule.Joey started paying his child support, however it was with checks written on a closed bank account. According to the DA’s office this is not a crime.Joey then started simply not showing for his visitations and I would sit in a parking lot at the Sheriff’s station waiting for him.It was also during this time that his house was cited twice by trash court. One citation was for a rat infestation. My child was present in the house.I would drop her off when he did show screaming and holding on to me. I would pick her up covered in filth, soaking in urine and crying.After several visitations, Joey started showing up regularly with his father. He was though becoming increasingly agitated.Joey at one drop off slammed the door into me while, I was holding my child. I took the brunt of the hit, because I didn’t want Lizzie to be hurt. It was then that I informed Joey’s father who was in the front seat, that I would not allow him to hit my anymore. And, that if this happened again, I would file charges.I filed a complaint with the Woman’s Batter Shelter. My arm was left bruised.Joey stopped showing for pick up instead his father and or mother showed saying they were picking up Lizzie for Joey.In April I received my child back from Joey’s father covered in a head to toe body rash and barely responsive.I asked what had happened. He told me his wife would email me with details.When we arrived to the ER my child was rushed to the back. The doctor asked me what she was exposed too. I was unable to tell him.I was in the ER when I received the email telling me my child was fine and there was nothing wrong. And, that she was completely healthy.The doctor had to do a broad spectrum treatment.My ex husband filed for bankruptcy. He tried to discharge is back child support in bankruptcy court.I became aware of this five months after the fact. The reason being was that they had given false information as to my address. So, I never received any of the mailings.When I finally became aware, I pulled all the past documents on the case. It was then that I became aware that my husband was in mental institution and had been for some time.I contacted his mother, who said he was coming home. She also mentioned that it was more of a rest and that my child was part of his therapy.Joey returned home, but did not contact me.His mother sent me several emails saying unless I gave her my child, she would go after me in court and break me financially.I then discovered that Joey attempted suicide in his mother’s house. She emailed me the next day saying what a lovely time my child would have over there.I then received an email stating the Joey qualified for full SSDI and that they wanted my child.The family then emailed me that Joey was no longer in their lives and they wanted his visitation.I went to SS office and found out that Joey qualified for benefits back dated a year from July and full benefit from then on. So, also did my child.His mother then filed a motion for Joey’s visitation as her own.I agreed to mediation because at the time, I was broke and fighting three different lawyers. Joey’s lawyer, his parent’s lawyer and the bankruptcy lawyer.After 12 hours we came to an agreement of no holidays ever and one day a month for visitation.After that agreement, my ex-mil admitted to forwarding my mail to her home. But, said she would not stop doing so.She repeatedly made false statements in a effort to gain my child’s ssn.I was required to send Strawberry milk, pull ups and clothing and other basic supplies because they didn’t wish to incur the expense.I was required by them to return all the toys they have given my child back.I was constantly harassed by strange and threatening emails from his mother.I received my child with several injuries. When I questioned them, they would not give any real response. When I asked my daughter, she said shhhh secret don’t tell.At first I would get my child hysterical and screaming. She would say she didn’t love me and why didn’t I love her.Then I started getting my child back unconscious. She would sleep for 16 hour and then wake up and say I don’t love you.She only exhibited this behavior when she was over there.Lizzie also started talking about how she was told secrets over at their house, but she could tell.Five months after the mediation and the agreement, I was again sued.My mother in law had me served at work, even though that was not necessary. It was simply another reason to harass me.They asking for every other weekend, all holidays and two weeks during the summer.My ex-mil then emailed me and said she wanted to take my child out of state for five days for an extended Mother’s day weekend trip.I refused and went to court.They did not show at court because they were on vacation.Trail date was set. I said I was ready to fight.For five months, I ran up legal bills and begged to go to court on this matter.The Castille family still was acting strange, such as:1) Placing a bag of dead bugs in her suitcase2) Refusing to drop Lizzie off early so she could attend a birthday party.3) Lieing about simple issues4) Refusing to supply basic necessitiesMy child continued to be return unconscious and drench in my ex-mil’s signature perfume. She would wake up saying she didn’t love her mother and talking about secrets.I finally told my lawyer, when is the court date to hear this matter. She said soonest was Jan/ March. Their lawyer had refused to set a date after three were cancelled.It had now been five months. My child was being harmed. And, due to all my research I realized that I had a very strong case to stop the visitations.My ex-mils lawyer filed contempt charges against me asking that I pay their legal bills and be punished.As part of the complaint against me they stated I did not give my child on Mother’s day. Their argument is Mother’s day wasn’t a holiday.And that is where we are today.I also have information packets that I have compiled on the questionable activities by my ex-mil and also on the bankruptcy fraud. I will be happy to supply the information if you send me an email address.