The only difference between a pastor and elder is that the pastor is assigned by an SDA conference. A pastor is automatically an elder in the church they are assigned to. Elders on the other hand are just locally elected. Their position is both limited to one place, but one is assigned and the others are voted.
The responsibility granted to a pastor or elder doesn't come from some ethereal vague source. It is very clearly defined in the church manual. Otherwise what other source do we have? Some would say The Bible. That is false in this topic because the early church structure of the NT, and the Israeli nation's theocratic laws of the OT, are clearly done away with. But does that mean we should all just run around independent of each other? Should each individual church run around independent of each other? Should each conference run around independent of each other? In other words, should any organization at any level in our church be able to act independently of the will of others?
Who decides? You? Me? A bunch of old people raised in the church who went to Adventists universities before they really had any experience in life? They have been pastors all their lives and they can unilaterally meet amongst themselves at some conference or union office and decide policy independent of the wishes of the GC session elected presidents that represent the rest of the world church?
Who died and made these people God that they can make up new rules to break God's rules? Amazingly it is the people who preach grace the most that end up being most like Pharisee's. They put their own rules over God's rules, which rules are to obey the authority placed over us. That authority isn't your pastor, isn't your conference, isn't you elder, it is the manual.
In summary, the manual defines what a pastor and elder is. In the manual, those two positions are not similiar when it comes to this debate over making females pastor's. There is no need to bring up a different issue other than to confuse the debate and make any real discussion on this impossible. Perhaps other women will understand you, but you are confusing the hell out of me. I imagine most guys would agree, because guys don't bring up irrelevant issues like this. When other women are around these complex conversations inevitably become utterly impossible. This is what Paul meant in 1 Timothy 2.