So, I have this group of friends and acquaintances on FB, some of whom I have known for decades. Some of them are people that I have met on social media and who I communicate with because we are all parents of children who are "special." I do not mean that they are disabled, I mean that they are academically gifted, in many cases far beyond their chronological age. Some of us in the group are adults with Asperger's Syndrome, who are now dealing with children who also have Asperger's. We coordinate and communicate to make sure our children receive the advanced academics that they deserve, without being labeled as "Autistic Spectrum Disorder" at public schools and without having to deal with the excessive bullying that so many AS students have to deal with. (For a good, if exaggerated, idea of what a child with AS is like, observe Sheldon on Big Bang Theory. That character is an example of AS: socially awkward with all but able to get along with a lmited number of people, highly intelligent, and typically suffering from a few obsessive-compulsive disorders, which is why before Asperger's became widely known, AS students were typically labeled as "above average intelligence and suffering from bipolar disorder.")
As with most people with AS, my son has a small group of friends, but will always be considered odd by most peers his own age. He's interested in things far above his grade level, and bored with things that are considered age appropriate.
So, now we are testing him for skipping a few grades. Studies show that students with very high academic skills do better socially in a class with older students. My hope is that we get it on the record that he gets to legally skip these grades without the school system insisting upon putting the AS diagnosis in his official record where it will follow him for the rest of his life, and without insisting on him taking medications or therapy that are not proven to be helpful with AS at all, but seem to be the capstone of public education in Arkansas.
So, in discussing this with my friends, I was stupid and allowed the conversation to follow me onto my main wall. This of course left the discussion open to people that really should not have been involved in the discussion at all...including a public school teacher who accused ME of being a pushy, bullying parent who is "making the kid weird" rather than understanding that I do not push at all, and that I have waited for years to accelerate him in the hope that he would get better at dealing with "normal" kids his own age and it simply has led to a child who is frequently depressed and completely unmotivated at school. What is really truly sad though, is that this person is supposed to be a teacher who SPECIALIZES in gifted and talented children. I surprised that there aren't students in her school feeling suicidal if her answer to academically gifted students is to insist that they shoe-horn into the existing grade and "try not to be weird" rather than trying to adapt the situation to the child's needs!