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The balance between pleasure and pain needs to be perfect. The dominance of the only person you will ever completely trust. A love that burns with a passion that can't be dampened. Together you can go places that others can never reach. Soar through the sky and walk the edge of a universe only you can see, until carried over the edge and into an ocean of waiting tides. We all want to go there but only a few will. Are you one of the few? www.jlkramerbooks.blog
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Free Your Mind and the Rest Will Follow
I was talking to a friend about a story I was writing. The conversation moved to some of the aspects of the BDSM life style that some still believe to be abhorrent. I thought about it for a minute and then I asked a simple question.
After all the years you’ve been married would you let your husband tie you up?
The answer came immediately. NO! This person is a very good friend and she knows more about me than anyone. I know her and her husband very well also. They love and support one another and they have a good marriage. They’ve been together for a very long time, both before they were married and after. I believe they will be together for a long time to come.
This one question however didn’t need any thought. We’re both open minded and we’re both capable of hearing a reasonable sound argument and at least giving it enough thought to decide if we might possibly be missing something that could change our point of view. (Although we both do tend to dig in our heals when we believe we’re correct.)
My point I explained is that in this type of relationship trust is vital. To gain someone’s trust you must prove that you are a person of your word. You must prove that you will put the other person’s needs before your own in some cases. Mostly my point is that it is monumentally difficult to fully give yourself to another.
Most of the “vanilla” couples I’ve known over the years ended up leaving one another largely because of a lack of trust. I admit that I was a sub for a while and I did and still do enjoy the lifestyle but I never found the perfect Dom for me. I was never able to reach that point of complete trust. I have many theories on that but I won’t share them. Still I have to wonder. Who has this right and who has it wrong?
Both ways can work if everyone involved does their part. But in a BDSM relationship there are consequences for not doing your part. There is accountability and balance. There is respect and, believe it or not, it does go both ways. These are adults doing what they want to do in the privacy of their own homes or in a public dungeon where privacy is also safe guarded.
It seems to me that the best relationships are those that contain the trust, honesty, and safety that so many other relationships lack or lose somewhere along the way. After all who has the healthier relationship: the couple where one has enough trust to allow her/his partner to tie him up, gag him and then do wickedly fun things to him while he is totally helpless and then once released spend time talking and caressing one another. Or the relationship where there is an endless battle for supremacy and a lack of trust that probably can never be filled?
Everyone is different and everyone has something that turns them on more than anything else. But if you’re afraid to share that with your partner than you never get to have that fantasy fulfilled. Not everyone wants to be tied up, or be spanked or burned or choked or degraded. That is fine because not everyone wants a three minute romp in the missionary position and then left unsatisfied as their partner rolls over and falls asleep.
I’m not trying to sway anyone into or out of anything here. I’m just saying that as long as both parties agree to the activities taking place and both are old enough and sane enough to understand what it is that they are consenting too. And of course as long as there is a way that either party could end the activity with a single word at anytime. What’s wrong with what they’re doing?
Remember not every bell is rung by the same striker.
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Work in Progress
For the past month and a half I’ve been working on a story that I can’t wait to share with like minded readers.
It is a Erotic Romance/BDSM M/M
It’s a novella and although I’m not ready to reveal its title just yet I will say that the characters are very easy to love. It sizzles so if you’re not into anything too spicy this is not for you. However if you’re into something a little hotter than sweet kisses by the fire and walks in the rain this might be just what you’re looking for.
In a world full of uncertainty it’s difficult coming of age for a young man that never knew his father. His aunt raised and loved him but she couldn’t teach him how to be a man or how to figure out and accept what kind of man he could be.
Michael feels alone although I think we all know that he isn’t, not really. The world is filled with young people trying to find their place and decide who they want to be. For Michael meeting Mr. William Johns finally forces him to search for those answers. Hopefully together they can put the past to rest and set Michael firmly on the path to his future.
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If you want to read romance that is hotter than the a walk in the rain or sex on a beach. Come check out my blot
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