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Stephanie Spencer
trying to change the world for the better, right after I get some caffeine
trying to change the world for the better, right after I get some caffeine
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to curate
We have such visions when our clear as fresh glass newborns are handed to us as if we are trustworthy curators. We see in an instant the smiles, the grasps, the first steps, the first days of swimming lessons, soccer, school. We can hear beyond their foreig...
to curate
to curate
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so many questions
In the past few years, I have been only a few degrees separated from young men committing suicide. Every time I feel gutted, not just for the loss of a life in the world - though that is not nothing; the universe is elementally changed without their thought...
so many questions
so many questions
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writing for real
I'm more than halfway through my 50 things before 50 quest  and have only included a couple of lame-ish activities plus about half a dozen concerts, though my list of Things To Do during sabbatical is still overflowing with ideas I haven't yet started to pu...
writing for real
writing for real
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the paradox of perspective
Sometimes when students ask how old I am (after I give them a silent pointy raised eyebrow to remind them that not everyone loves this question since guesses about age usually skew to elderly and no one wants to be associated with that too soon) I give them...

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relating in retrospect
As a teacher and mom, I know I'm expected to remind people that nothing is impossible . If I were a motivational speaker or Oprah or an abnormally perky optimist like I'm pretty sure Reese Witherspoon is, I'd point out how the word even says I'M POSSIBLE! I...

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50 things before 50
I will have lived half a century by next August and would like to diminish the societal weirdness of being 50 - having to check a new demographic box on forms,  knowing most women begin to be dismissed at this age  - by mindfully engaging in activities that...
50 things before 50
50 things before 50
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permission
I will not be teaching this year; I prefer to call it a 'sabbatical', evoking a noble adventure, instead of a 'leave of absence', which sounds like illness, defeat, or sad emptiness. It has taken a significant amount of mental energy for me to first decide ...
permission
permission
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memories dull the edges of my mind
I wasn't exactly a mean girl when I was younger, but I was definitely an accessory to mean girls. My little sister might say I was an actual mean girl sometimes, especially regarding possessions. But, for example, I maintain that since I'm 9 years older tha...

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things we forget to remember
I went to my 30th high school reunion this past weekend, and I not only loved every minute of it but I've looked forward to it for years. Somehow I had a childhood that left me unscathed and even happy, and I still enjoy being around the people I grew up wi...

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mom of bad mom, revised
I wrote most of this for my mom's birthday a few years ago. Today I revisited & revised it thinking I might share at her retirement party, but we were laughing too much about this woman's shenanigans as lunch lady for 31 years for me to step in and squelch ...
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