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Kathryn Joyce (author of The Child Catchers​) has another thought-provoking piece exploring the fine line between #adoption and human trafficking.

There is soooooo much work to do in the interest of ethics and adoption reform.
Adoption is embraced in the Marshall Islands, but in the Ozarks, it means something very different. The tragic consequences of cultural misunderstanding.
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What starts out as an interruption -- and my huffy reaction to it -- quickly turns into something quite different.
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"Every kid needs a journey mate–someone stronger and wiser to help her learn how to conquer the fears of childhood and move on toward maturity. Someone who knows when to validate an emotion and when to respond lightheartedly. Someone who oozes with empathy and encourages her to aim high. Someone who is there for her, no matter what.

Ideally, the journey mate is a healthy parent–one who has worked through her own issues of abandonment and therefore does not project her unresolved pain onto her children."

--  From my friend, the wonderful +sherrie eldridge, author of Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adopted Parents Knew (excerpt).
Imagine yourself in sunny Florida boarding a ghost mobile for a ride through Disneyland's Haunted Mansion. Adults and children clutch the safety bars of their vehicles as they twist their way through the darkened house. Screams of horror break the silence as ghosts adorned in elaborate finery ...
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For your next warm-weather day. Cheers!

#cocktail #nonalcoholicoption
Let me introduce you to the 2015 summer drink, a cocktail called Little Ray of Sunshine. Only 3 ingredients and oh-so-refreshing. Yum -- and cheers!
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"Protecting our children doesn’t always mean jumping to their rescue, so lead by example and teach your children to be slow with their tongues, patient in their expectations, and forgiving with their love. We love people for who they are, exactly where they are."

From +Adoption.com  and +Melissa Giarrosso .

http://adoption.com/managing-open-adoptions
Open adoption relationships can be so tough sometimes, mainly because emotions are so high and there’s a lot at stake. How do you keep your children safe?
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BOOK GIVEAWAY. Been wanting to get a copy of my book, The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption? +Addison Cooper has 3 to give away, which means you have 3 chances to enter (by Saturday).

The first one is here, on Adoption At The Movies, with Part 1 of our interview. Entry is easy.

Two other links are in the comments section of this G+ post.
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And enter a third time on LavenderLuz.com for Part 3, in which we discuss Betty Jean Lifton's idea of the Ghost Kingdom in adoption.

http://lavenderluz.com/2015/04/ghost-kingdom-adoption.html
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"When I was 13 my mother, grandmother and I travelled to England to meet my grandmother's cousin. The trip was steeped in history, visiting gravesites and castle grounds where "our" ancestors had worked (we didn’t stumble across any long lost royalty, just a couple of gardeners). About halfway through the trip, I had a complete breakdown one night before bed. "I" had no ancestors. I didn't have any people that I came from. These stories and this history wasn't mine." -- from +Andy Drouin
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Ways to attune with your child and avoid triggering shame.
Photo Found Here When our sons came home their behaviors were alarming and our responses were destructive. Finally, we learned our children were communicating with us through their behavior, and it was our job to get to kn...
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"My life was much simpler before I found my birth family. It added layers of complexity nobody needs. But I would do it again as there's a primal need to find your birth family and understand—I'm not sure what. Something to do with that Roots fervor I talked about earlier."

The ambivalence of search and reunion, from +pia savage on +Psychology Today .
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Excellent advice from +Dawn Davenport of +Creating a Family  . And highly doable, too!
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3 Chances and Only 1 More Day

Have you been a bit curious about "The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption" but didn't want to shell out $30 for the hardcover version?

+Addison Cooper of Adoption at the Movies has 3 copies of my book to give away. There are 3 chances to enter, 1 each on 3 different sites that hosted our interview this week. Drawing will be tomorrow, so throw your name in the ring, whydontcha.

Click below for chance #1, in which we talk about, among other things, what I'd change in the book now that I have 2 more years of parenting (teens!) under my belt.
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Your 3rd chance to enter the book giveaway is on LavenderLuz.com. Part 3 of the interview talks about Betty Jean Lifton's idea of the Ghost Kingdom of adoption.

http://lavenderluz.com/2015/04/ghost-kingdom-adoption.html
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"If regular old parenting takes courage, adoptive parenting takes super-courage. Did you know that the word courage comes from the same root as coronary? Ha — no coincidence!"

The last in the Parenting GPS series.

#adoption #openadoption #donorconception #thirdpartyreproduction  
Where to root parenting decisions has a profound effect on the lives of both parents and children, so it's wise to make such decisions mindfully.
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Denver-based author of The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole (check out what people are saying about it).

Yogini & yin-yanger. Wordsmith & wine-sipper. Wife of one & mom of two. Diarist & open adoption advocate. Visit me at LavenderLuz.com.


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  • LavenderLuz.com
    Documentarian, 2007 - present
  • The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole
    Author, 2013 - present
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