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Today were going to look at how an Enabler or Co-Dependent plays a very crucial role in an addict’s recovery.

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Supporting a loved one in recovery comes in many forms. There is one that seems to be rather unpopular and few choose to follow it.

The reason we find this principle of high importance is simply for the fact taught to us in Romans Chapter 14 verses 13-23.

Verse 21 states, “It is good neither to eat meat nor drink wine nor do anything by which your brother stumbles or is offended or is made weak.”

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Who wants to be a stumbling block for their loved one? I’m sure no one does.

Yet this stumbling block is something we see happening with families in recovery from addiction more often than not.

0:59 How can loved ones support those in recovery?
One of the strongest ways that a family member can support a recovering addict is by also giving up their right to use substances socially. This includes legal and acceptable forms such as alcohol.

It may be true that the family member may not have an addiction and can control their own use of alcohol,

but the very presence of alcohol in a recovering addict’s environment is not conducive to the addict’s recovery.

It gives room to temptation along with other forms of unnecessary psychological, physical, and spiritual battles.

The recovering addict may even suggest that they can handle it because it was not their “drug of choice” or that it doesn’t affect them.

This is both irrational and completely inaccurate.

In fact, this path leads to relapse.

1:48 Not everything is beneficial
First Corinthians chapter 10 verse 23 says, “Everything is permissible," but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible," but not everything is edifying.”

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We have to ask family members these questions:

1) Are your actions beneficial for others?
2) Are your decisions edifying your loved one?

We understand that this stance is not well received among many people, but we see firsthand the devastation it brings to families. It is real.

It takes the willingness of the family member to humble themselves and to deny themselves at the expense of someone else’s weakness.

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The loving and supportive family members are often the main source of influence for those in recovery.

Recovery is not an easy road, but it is one that can be filled with victory and freedom as God’s power is manifested.

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Today we will be discussing the DMI, also known as the Daily Moral Inventory. It is a tool that helps identify certain attitudes we have expressed throughout the previous day.

0:27 What is the DMI?

The DMI is a tool we recommend and utilize for the one recovering from addiction as week as the family members of the one in recovery.

When used consistently and properly, this resource acts as a mirror giving us valuable insight about what motivates our behavior by training our minds to be more aware of our way of thinking.
Ephesians 4:23 says we are to be renewed in the spirit of our minds.

0.52 In a chemically dependent family it is common to see the problems of others instead of recognizing them in one’s own self.
If we are truly honest, we will see that we spend very little effort monitoring our individual attitudes, actions and reactions.

The reason is that most family members pick up the same traits as those with the addictions by using defense mechanisms such as denial, blame, projection, rationalization and other characteristics.

These mechanisms can blind someone of their own character defects, but is quick to point them out in others.

What character faults we tend to pick out in others is also ones we struggle to overcome ourselves.

1:27 For a dysfunctional family to experience any degree of healing or restoration, they must first begin looking at themselves. This is not something that is often done naturally, but has to be learned.

1:50 Quiet Time

First we need to become still before God. This is accomplished by allotting for daily Quiet Time to focus on prayer and meditation.

1:59 Prayer

Prayer is an inner journey that draws us close to God. It is communication with God taking time to talk and listen.

2:10 Journaling

Another important factor is journaling. It is important to write down the impressions God give us, or the emotions and thoughts that we are experiencing.

We can use the journal later as a reference to see the struggles we encountered and how we overcame the challenges.

2:24 How to Conduct the DMI?

So, exactly how can one conduct a DMI on themselves? Using a provided chart, we simply inventory the last 24 hours of our life to record both the positive and negative attitudes.

We think about our relationship, or things troubling our mind and heart. We need to look beyond the offenses “caused” by others and examine our own reactions expressed due to someone else’s behavior.

2:49 The DMI Sheet

When we look at the DMI sheet we see a list of negative attitudes on the left and a list of positive attitudes listed on the right. Along the top of the chart are 31 columns for each day of the month. So one sheet will last you through one month.

Beginning with day 1, we move along each row and mark if you either had a positive or negative for that specific attitude. For example, “yesterday, did I have self-pity or did I experience serenity. You would be a check mark by one of the attitudes you experienced, then move onto the next attitude listed.

After completing the DMI, we need to take our negative reactions to God in prayer and ask Him to help us in our defects while thanking Him for the positive ones we experienced.

3:33 Conclusion

In Summary, the DMI will help us reflect the attitudes that we can change within ourselves rather than looking to change the faults in others. If we are proactive and consistent in this process, with prayer we will begin to see God change our mindset and how we see ourselves in others.

Here are the links to download your own DMI sheet:
DMI for Recovering Addicts - https://goo.gl/lsUw4u
DMI for Family Members of Recovering Addicts - https://goo.gl/DEhmgP
Commentary for DMI - https://goo.gl/W0tPTo

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The Bottle Family Part 1 – Portrait of a Dysfunctional Family with Substance abuse and chemical addition to drugs and alcohol.

I’m sure the majority of us are familiar with what a dysfunctional family looks like.

If it’s not our own, then you probably know someone in a dysfunctional family right?

Today we will be talking about such a family, called The Bottle Family.

The Bottle Family are our portrait of a dysfunctional family affected by substance abuse.

In part one we will start off by briefly taking a look at the husband and wife and the role they portray.

Each person acts out according to their own hurt suppressed internally.

1 - Let’s start with Willie, he’s the one with the chemical addition.

Now Willie’s addiction didn’t happen overnight nor did he plan on becoming an addict.

He is actually what we call a functioning addict. He has a job and family.

However, he doesn’t admit that he’s got a problem swirling out of control.

Others see this problem before he will see it.

Although Willie may have started drinking socially he has become dependent on it to control his mood and progressed past the point that it no longer makes him feel good.

When Willie gets high, he leaves his family feeling low.

Addiction is evident when the chemical use affects the normal existence of his family.

Willie doesn’t believe he is hurting anyone, but in reality his family is suffering.

Willie copes with guilt by getting high and blaming others.

It is unreasonable to expect Willie to see the problem unless something forces him to look.

2- Wilhelmina

She is married to Willie and is the typical co-dependent.

She is very loving and faithful to Willie and stuck by him through everything.

She believes she can help Willie overcome his problem, but it has not turned out like she hoped.

In her own ability, she protects, shields and rescues Willie from the consequences of his behavior.

She will bail him of jail for drunk driving if needed. Or she hides the fact from her parents or children.

She may be lying to Willie’s boss about him being sick because he is really drunk.

Willie is unable to hit bottom because Wilhelmina is always there to cushion his fall.

In her efforts to help, she is actually enabling.

She becomes obsessed with rescuing her spouse and neglects to take care of herself.

Can you relate to Wilhelmina? If so, tell us how?

Join us next time for Part 2 of The Bottle Family: A Portrait of a Dysfunctional Family with Substance Abuse by Reach Recovery


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Relapse Prevention Part 4 of #SubstanceAbuse #Recovery
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Part 4 of #Relapse Prevention - Overcoming the BUD in Substance Abuse Recovery
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In honor or #Alcohol Awareness Month here is our first in a new series on #RelapsePrevention
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New Video - Life of #Victory for #SubstanceAbusers, Love of God Part 1
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