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melissa fondakowski
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Attended Union Theological Seminary in the City of New York
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Hopes and Heartaches
Sometimes I get sad for every single person who has to do a job they can be quite accomplished in and good at, but that is not the thing they really want to be doing. I think of star athletes who want to be stay-at-home parents, or web coders who want to be...
Sometimes I get sad for every single person who has to do a job they can be quite accomplished in and good at, but that is not the thing they really want to be doing. I think of star athletes who want to be stay-at-home paren...
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Ok, so let's start by saying that after I titled this blog entry, I let out an enormous sigh. I don't even know where to begin. First of all, this isn't a book about the future of God. It's a book about how Deepak Chopra feel...
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Lest We Forget: "Marriage Equality" Is Not Equality
The Associated Press is reporting today on a "unique federally funded study [that] offers a detailed look at the lives of gay, lesbian and transgender youth in New York City who cope with homelessness and poverty by engaging in what the researchers call "su...
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The Next Four of the Fifty-Two
I felt like reading and I had some time to kill so instead of sitting down with a good book, I bought four new ones. I have to tell you I'm most psyched for The
Thorn Birds... My only knowledge/memory of it is a made-for-tv Richard
Chamberlain who I wasn'...
I felt like reading and I had some time to kill so instead of sitting down with a good book, I bought four new ones. I have to tell you I'm most psyched for The Thorn Birds... My only knowledge/memory of it is a made-for-tv R...
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What a good book can do
In the middle of the night I got a text from my sister-in-law that she'd finished reading The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt, which I had given her, with a raving review, for Christmas. I saw the text when I woke up this morning and laughed - The Goldfinch is exa...
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I am still reading William James, while also reading Steven Pinker...but am "straying" once again (sorry, I just had to) to this mem-WAH (as Gwyneth Paltrow likes to pronounce it) by Cheryl Strayed, Wild.  My hon bun read ...
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1-800-FREUD ME
Dreams are weird. They defy conscious narrative. Sometimes when you are in them you think damn I'm in this weird dream , or this is fun, what next . When you wake up, sometimes you want to go back into the dream. And sometimes, you're just dying to tell som...
Dreams are weird. They defy conscious narrative. Sometimes when you are in them you think damn I'm in this weird dream, or this is fun, what next. When you wake up, sometimes you want to go back into the dream. And sometimes,...
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The Thorn Birds in my side...
I finally finished The Thorn Birds . It took me exactly 6 days to read the first 500 pages, and 7+ to read the last 200. What began as a compelling epic, slowly and painfully commenced in a predictable, long-winded ending that included details so boring I j...
I finally finished The Thorn Birds. It took me exactly 6 days to read the first 500 pages, and 7+ to read the last 200. What began as a compelling epic, slowly and painfully commenced in a predictable, long-winded ending that...
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The Thorn Birds...Romance?
So I'm not done with The Thorn Birds yet, but I love T he Thorn Birds so far (page 250 of just about 700). So I'm trying to figure out what exactly it is that the author is doing that makes the book so compelling. And I realize it's many things: One, massiv...
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The Empathy Exams
The fourth book I've read in 2015 is The Empathy Exams by Leslie Jamison. I have to admit I avoided this book for a while. I had a deep sense of contempt prior to investigation which was based mostly on the fact that it got a lot of critical acclaim from th...
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It Is Finished
The uppermost left hand windows were my kitchen About 12 years ago, I started writing a book. I remember the time I started it quite fondly. I was living in a tiny flatiron building at the intersection of Market and 18th Streets in San Francisco with Kitty....
The uppermost left hand windows were my kitchen About 12 years ago, I started writing a book. I remember the time I started it quite fondly. I was living in a tiny flatiron building at the intersection of Market and 18th Stre...
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Getting Older--Friends Issue
For those expecting a book review: I'm reading Varieties as well as Steven Pinker's Better Angels now, so it could be a while...about 1,400 pages. Do I get to count Pinker's as two books? Anyway... Aside of the usual physical surprises that have accompanied...
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Nonprofit Program Development and Fundraising Strategy Consultant
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Development program audits and feasibility studies; • Development communications assessment; • Board, staff and volunteer engagement; • Fundraising plan and processes implementation; • Fundraising basics workshops and presentations. • • Areas of Expertise: Database tracking and systems management; • Grant and individual proposal development; • Partnerships and collaborations; • Donor research and analysis; • Foundation and individual major gifts solicitation; • Online giving; • Event planning and production.
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  • Fundraising and Development Strategy Consultant
    Client List: Give Toxics the Boot • Cooperative Food Empowerment Directive (CoFED) • Redford Center • Center for Resource Solutions • Simons Institute, UC Berkeley • Global Footprint Network • The Barbarian Group LLC • New York Intern Program • Castro Country Club • Episcopal Church Foundation •
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Easthampton, MA - Brooklyn, NY - Oakland, CA - San Francisco, CA - Long Island, NY
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Introduction
I live in Brooklyn, New York and am a recent graduate of Union Theological Seminary in the City of New York, with an MA in Psychiatry and Religion, and Certification in Nonprofit Administration. I will probably call myself a recent graduate until such time as what I learned there no longer bothers me on a daily basis (bothers in a good way). I also received an MFA from Mills College in 1997, and went to Adelphi University--once mispronounced on an episode of Glee--for my BA. Clearly, I have too many letters after my name and the debt to show for it. I earn a living through fundraising and development strategy, and I also help other writers write their books, then sell them to agents. I've published a few things and am at work on a novel that I started in, mmmm, 2002 maybe? It's going to be a while.
Bragging rights
My chapbook of poetry, Impatiens, was published by Sow's Ear Press in 2001 and can be purchased directly from my blog by clicking the "published" link above..
Education
  • Union Theological Seminary in the City of New York
    Psychiatry and Religion, Nonprofit Administration, 2013
  • Mills College
    Creative Writing, Poetry, 1997
  • Adelphi University
    English, Creative Writing, 1993
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Deepak Disappointment in The Future of God
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Ok, so let's start by saying that after I titled this blog entry, I let out an enormous sigh. I don't even know where to begin. First of all

James vis a vis Pinker vis a vis Strayed
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I am still reading William James, while also reading Steven Pinker...but am "straying" once again (sorry, I just had to) to this mem-WAH (as

November Eighth, When I Remember I'm Not the Only One
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Today, someone gave me a polished stone and said to place all my burdens and worries in that stone, and then give that stone to God. I will

Praying for Others on November Seventh
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Dear God, A lot of things will be happening today - some I'll be involved in, others I will not. Please take care of the one who is in pain,

Sodomy, Inhospitality, and Pride
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The repeal of DOMA got me thinking about history: That a bunch of events (as Lily Tomlin and Jane Wagner's facebook page nicely tribute) inc

An attempt at tonal drawing
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i feel so old school with a blog. Wednesday, June 12, 2013. An attempt at tonal drawing. Posted by teru at 5:22 PM · Email ThisBlogThis!Shar

Fun Facts 2013!
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After a LONG spell of neglect, I am posting some fun facts and interesting stats about the past two years on this here very appropriately ti

The Soporific Effect of Doom
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As a fundraiser who writes a fairly large number of mail appeals, I know that gloom and doom, while it can make it easier to present the cas

My Grandmother Smoked Pall Malls, the Red Pack
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On Sunday I spent the first part of my morning staring out the window trying to concentrate on writing my thesis, then spent the rest of the

Do People Change?
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I got mad the other day because I read a wildly popular and industry-beloved poem by a hot new white male poet--barely mid-20s--and it sound

The Trouble with Her Comfortable Shoes...
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Perhaps it is because I spent my most formative years in the Queer bubble of the Bay Area that I never experienced people taking issue with

I Wish I Had a T-Shirt that Said "Ask Me About My Ashes"
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This morning marks the first time I have gotten ashes then made my morning commute on the 2/3 and 4/5 to Grand Central in New York. People s

Hella Forrest Gump
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One of my life lessons is learning how to take care of myself. I do this thing where I will take care of everyone else around me, but I won'

The Arc of My Mother’s Brow : Ms. Magazine Blog
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We called ourselves the Dead Mothers Support Group or DMSG for short. If there was a touch of the macabre in the name, that was okay with us

False Evidence...
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I've got a bad case of writer's fear. I don't believe in writer's block, because I know I can write, and it's not like the words won't come

Humility in a Celebrity Society
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I don't know about you, but if I'm recognizing my own humility, I'm not exactly in a state of humility. It's usually only when I am on my wa

The Purpose of Purpose
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On Friday, I took the Barclay's Center Shuttle to Manhattan to go to work. The regular schedule of life starts up again tomorrow, and I want

Varieties of Poetic Experience
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When I was young (by both maturity and age standards), maybe about 26 years old, I knew I was going to be a poet when I grew up. I wasn't su

Tiny Paintings Strikes Again
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This time I wrangled another tiny painter to join me...turns out she's a pretty fantastic tiny painter! This is Finn - wild puppy of 2012. N

Quietude
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I want to change the subject. I want to change it not because I do not wish to see, but because there are some things which cannot be talked