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On Saturday Sep 24th, 2016, the Nigerian community in UK organised an award dinner ceremony to honour 56 uncelebrated Nigerians in five different categories as part of Nigeria’s 56th independence anniversary.

I was proud to be nominated for the award and was really honoured to receive the Uncelebrated Nigerians Award for contribution to Legal, Security & Law enforcement.

In my acceptance speech, i dedicated the award to Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, Transsexuals and Queers in Nigeria and diaspora. Every Nigerian deserves to be free from discrimination regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. LGBT Rights are Human Rights.

As I have always maintained as coordinator of Nigerian LGBT in diaspora against Anti same sex law, and in my book- Freedom To Love For All: Homosexuality Is Not UnAfrican :

“Every Nigerian deserves the same right as every other Nigerian, irrespective of class, sex, race, gender identity or sexual orientation. Consensual adults do not deserve to have their love criminalized. Let us spread Love, not Hate.”
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1- “Was your last relationship with a man or woman?”
Whenever a lesbian shows a sexual/emotional interest in me, the first line of questioning is an inquiry about the gender of my last partner. “Was your last relationship with a man or woman?” they inevitably ask. Of all the questions lesbians ask when they first meet a bisexual they might be interested in, this is the one I find most irritating and highly annoying.

The gender of my last partner is not an indication of whether I am going to leave you for the opposite sex.

The gender of my last partner won’t tell you how i rate on the Kinsey scale or my fluid sexuality spectrum.

The gender of the last person I was in a relationship with is not a clue as to whether I would cheat on you.

The gender of my last partner will not tell you anything beyond the fact that I am bisexual.

Since you already know I am bisexual, why ask this annoying question?
The question is invasively scrutinising.

If I told you my last relationship was with a man, you start thinking “Maybe she really prefers men.” No, I am not experimenting.
If I told you my last relationship was with a woman, you start thinking, “Maybe she is actually a lesbian who has not accepted it yet.” No, I am not in denial.

We do not go around asking prospective partners if their last partner was black or white, tall or short. This would be considered distasteful as well as politically incorrect. So, why do we think it is OK to ask bisexuals the sex of their last partner?

This question always comes across as scrutinising and judgemental. If you want to be my lover, don’t start by asking me about the biological sex or gender identity of my last partner. What you need to know from the very start is that I am bisexual. If that makes you uncomfortable in anyway, work through your issues before trying to get it on with me. Thank you.

Happy Bisexuality visibility day! #BiVisibilityDay #Bisexuality #Bisexual #Biphobia
http://freethoughtblogs.com/yemmynisting/2014/09/23/5-things-you-should-not-ask-a-bisexual/
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Today is Bi Visibility Day and I am a proud to be a visible Bisexual! Below is a link to 5 things You Should Never Ask A Bisexual. Happy Bisexual Visibility Day!

5- “Maybe you are just confused?”
No, I am not confused, thank you. It is astonishing how many people still ask bisexuals this question, even within the LGBT community. Being capable of emotional and/or sexual attraction to persons of same-sex and opposite sex does not mean bisexuals are confused about their sexual orientation.

BISEXUALITY is romantic or sexual attraction toward males and females; it also encompasses attractions to all gender identities and biological sexes. Because Bisexuals do not fall into the normative heterosexual attraction or the homosexual narrative does not mean bisexuality is invalid or in any way confusing.

Bisexuals are people who are capable of sexual attraction to same, opposite and/or all genders. It really is as simple as that.
If you understand that heterosexuals are people who are sexually/emotionally attracted to people of opposite sex and that homosexuals are people who are attracted to same-sex, it shouldn’t be difficult to understand that bisexuals are people who are attracted to same-sex and opposite sex.

Please, do not dump the ‘confused’ label on bisexuals just because you are reluctant to think beyond the regular narrative. #BiVisibilityDay #Bisexuality
Blogpost- http://freethoughtblogs.com/yemmynisting/2014/09/23/5-things-you-should-not-ask-a-bisexual/
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My Genderless Love!
I don’t walk straight
Not even for the bait
I am merry yet not gay
I am bi and I can bray
But greed
Is not my seal
Yet you all snigger
Calling me a player
Our goal is acceptance
Where is the tolerance?

I am not gay enough
To be wholly enfolded
Not sufficiently lesbian
To be totally embraced
Should I even say Trans?
I can’t brace the rants!
You preach diversity
As community necessity
But are quick to sneer and leer
Whenever I am near

Yes, in the mall
I want it all
With the dick
I play and lick
And the boobs
Makes me swoon
The big breasted
Leaves me besotted
With the queers
I will play in the square

With the pussy
I get all fussy
The shaven sight
To suckle all night
Bouncy bums
I love to bump
Smooth balls
I like to smooch
With the Pecs
I need no specs

I am bisexual, not a player
Stop being my slayer
I am bisexual not confused
Like you I choose my companion
It is a natural attraction
Not just a mere selection
With love I embrace my lover
It matters not the gender
All I want is tenderness
For my love is genderless.
By (c) Yemisi Ilesanmi
Happy #BIVisibilityDay #Bisexuality

http://freethoughtblogs.com/yemmynisting/2013/06/07/my-genderless-love/
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September 23rd is Bisexuality Day, also known as Bi Visibility Day. Many always ask the question, ‘what does it mean to be bisexual?

I am aware that there is a lot of confusion out there about what bisexuality means. However, contrary to popular opinion, bisexuals are not confused. The confusion is from the many who simply do not understand what bisexuality means.

So what is Bisexuality?...Happy #BiVisibilityDay to all my fellow Bisexuals.
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"A society that stifles sexual and gender identities discourages the recognition of human dignity. A democratic State should be responsible for recognizing, respecting, protecting and enabling human rights of its citizens, not the limitation and violation of their rights"- Yemisi Ilesanmi
'Freedom To Love For All: Homosexuality is not Un-African' www.amazon.com/dp/1481864815
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September 23rd is Bisexuality Day, also known as Bi Visibility Day. It's Bi Visibility day today, I guess it is that one time of the year where I have to stop being so magically invisible and show myself in all my Unicorn glory; as a Bisexual!

Being Visible does come with its price, for example, I have to pay for things I bought in the stores today, cos well, I’m visible today. I have to bring out my oyster travel card and pay for bus, tubes and tram rides, like every other visible person cos I can’t ride for free today. I get to be a visible B within the LGBT rainbow community today and I’d say, it’s worth it.

I know I am happy the LGBT community would at least recognise my existence today, it isn’t fun being that invisible B within the LGBT rainbow family all year long!
#BivisibilityDay   #bisexual   #Bisexuality   #Biphobia  
September 23rd is Bisexuality Day, also known as Bi Visibility Day. It’s Bi Visibility day today, I guess it is that one time of the year where I have to stop being so magically invisible an…
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2- “Does this mean you are now lesbian/gay?” (When a bisexual dates same-sex)


“Are you now straight/Heterosexual?” (When bisexuals date opposite sex)


NO, the fact that I am in a same-sex relationship does not mean I am now a lesbian or gay.


The fact that I am in an opposite sex relationship does not mean I am now heterosexual.


My sexual orientation does not change with the gender of my partner!


My sexual orientation does not change every time my relationship status changes.


No, my sexual orientation does not change with the biological sex or gender identity of my partner, married or otherwise.


Also, not having a partner or lack of sexual activity does not change my sexual orientation.


Yes, I am still a bisexual whatever the gender, sexual or marital status of my relationship. #BiVisibilityDay #Bisexuality #Biphobia http://freethoughtblogs.com/yemmynisting/2014/09/23/5-things-you-should-not-ask-a-bisexual/
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Today is Bi Visibility Day and I am a proud to be a visible Bisexual! Below is a link to 5 things You Should Never Ask A Bisexual. Happy Bisexual Visibility Day!

5- “Maybe you are just confused?”
No, I am not confused, thank you. It is astonishing how many people still ask bisexuals this question, even within the LGBT community. Being capable of emotional and/or sexual attraction to persons of same-sex and opposite sex does not mean bisexuals are confused about their sexual orientation.

BISEXUALITY is romantic or sexual attraction toward males and females; it also encompasses attractions to all gender identities and biological sexes. Because Bisexuals do not fall into the normative heterosexual attraction or the homosexual narrative does not mean bisexuality is invalid or in any way confusing.

Bisexuals are people who are capable of sexual attraction to same, opposite and/or all genders. It really is as simple as that.
If you understand that heterosexuals are people who are sexually/emotionally attracted to people of opposite sex and that homosexuals are people who are attracted to same-sex, it shouldn’t be difficult to understand that bisexuals are people who are attracted to same-sex and opposite sex.

Please, do not dump the ‘confused’ label on bisexuals just because you are reluctant to think beyond the regular narrative. #BiVisibilityDay #Bisexuality
Blogpost- http://freethoughtblogs.com/yemmynisting/2014/09/23/5-things-you-should-not-ask-a-bisexual/
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It is sad when people say things like
• Bisexuals are confused
• Bisexuals are greedy
• Bisexuals do not know what they want
• Bisexuals just want it all.

Oh no, these are not true. Bisexuals are not confused, Bisexuals are not greedy. Just because I am bisexual does not mean I want to sleep with you or I want to sleep with everyone that crosses my way. We always say that Love is tender and knows no gender and this is what applies to Bisexuals and also Pansexuals. For us, it is not just about gender, it is about the person. It is about seeing beyond body parts and loving the person irrespective of the gender package they come in.
Happy Bi Visibility day! #Bivisibilityday #bisexual #bisexuality #lgbt #diversity
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Heterosexuality is common not because it is normal, but because it is widely practised. ‘Normal’ is fluid and could change with time. What is termed ‘normal’ today could easily be seen as abnormal tomorrow and vice versa.

When same-sex adults are in a relationship, they exhibit the same traits when they are in love as heterosexual couples do, it does not matter whether it is with same-sex gender or opposite sex. We only see an imaginary difference when our brain is socially programmed to believe that only opposite sex partners should be in a sexual relationship. Until we are able to break the shackle of limitation placed on our brain by society especially influenced by religion, we won’t be able to explore and reach our full potential as humans.

If you are in an opposite-sex relationship, spare a minute to ask yourself what your reaction would be if:

• You were told that you could not hold hands with your lover in public.
• You cannot marry the love of your life.
• You will lose your job or livelihood if you engaged in a heterosexual relationship.
• You cannot form an organization to support opposite sex relationships.
• You are banned from entering a club because of the gender of your partner.
• Your landlord could evict you if you were suspected of having a consensual sexual relationship with your adult opposite sex partner.
• You could be stoned to death if you have sex with your opposite sex adult partner.

Would you just shrug and declare that there are more important things in life than the freedom to love and marry your consensual adult partner or would you declare a war on your dictatorial government? Tell me these are not fundamental violations of your rights, maybe I will consider keeping quiet about my Right to Life, Live and Love!

If after being provided with scientific evidence that homosexuality is not a disease or a disorder, and is in fact as natural as skin colour, eye colour or left-handedness but for religious, personal or cultural beliefs, you still chose to ignore all the evidence provided, and still demand that lesbians, gays, bisexuals be victimized and criminalized for engaging in a consensual same-sex adult relationship that does not inflict harm on anyone, you are the one who has a phobia, it is known as Homophobia. Education, enlightenment, an open mind, tolerance and acceptance are known cures for homophobia, biphobia and transphobia
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Human Rights are not the exclusive privilege of Heterosexuals; every human being is entitled to Human Rights. When you discriminate against lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transsexuals and eagerly support ‘Kill/Jail the Gays’ bills, you are no better than the KKK or Nazi Adolf Hitler. LGBT Rights are Human rights, Get Over It!
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"Africans now defend the same holy books that were used to justify the slavery, exploitations and indignities suffered by their ancestors. Many religious Africans now use the ‘holy’ books to justify the oppression of members of their own society. Even when the original owners of the religion inform them that the book has been updated and some parts are no longer applicable, Africans still insist that it is must be applicable because it says so in the book they were given. How pathetic. - Yemisi Ilesanmi
Excerpts from 'Freedom To Love For All: Homosexuality is not Un-African'
www.amazon.com/dp/1481864815
www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1481864815
www.amazon.de/dp/1481864815
www.amazon.es/dp/1481864815
www.amazon.fr/dp/1481864815
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Yemisi Ilesanmi is a Nigerian woman, resident in UK. She holds a Master of Laws (LL.M)  degree in Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights. She is a trade unionist, human rights activist, author, poet and blogger.
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