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For immigrants, job search and actually getting a decent job that commensurate with ones’ qualifications is certainly not made easier by the constant side servings of racism or its full-frontal version which immigrants, especially black immigrants, are slapped with daily.

It breaks my heart to read the hostile words UK politicians use to describe immigrants, especially pertaining to the Syrian immigrants arriving on the borders of UK from Calais. David Cameron and his ilk must understand that immigrants are not “swarm of people” invading borders. Immigrants are not pests or insects. If only we all could see immigrants as human beings and not just as statistics.

We all want a better life. For some a better life could mean fleeing from the jaws of death, escaping starvation in war torn countries, seeking freedom to live free from discrimination because of gender, sexual or religious identities. For many, it is a matter of life and death, and certainly not a case of looking to enjoy welfare benefits as right-wing politicians, uninformed voters and die-hard racists love to believe. Show kindness to an immigrant today, they need it, and it is the humane thing to do.
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I am grateful for four amazing decades on planet earth. I am eagerly looking forward to new challenges and more amazing experiences in the coming years!
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OMG, this list is so me! No 2, oh yeah, No 7 so fucking yeah, I love butts, i cannot lie and No 8, oh damn yes!
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2- The assumption that every single woman wants to be in a relationship
Please stop making that nasty, sympathetic sound when a woman tells you she is single. Being single is not something that should elicit sympathy, especially not from strangers.

Single women should not need to reassure anyone that they are happily single just so the pitying looks would stop. Do not immediately jump in to assure a single woman that they will get a man soon.

Single people who wish to be in a relationship do not need a sympathetic look or hasty assurances from you. Being single is nothing to be ashamed of; it is not a shortcoming. Unless you are planning on asking the person concerned out, their relationship status should not be of any concern to you.

Never assume everyone wants to be in a relationship. I don’t like it when people, especially strangers, assume that as a single woman, I must necessarily be looking to get hooked up. There are single women who are seriously not interested in getting into relationships, just as there are those who are seriously looking to get into relationships. It is a personal thing and the generalisation that being a single woman translates to “desperately looking to get hooked”, is just not right.

I hate having to qualify my ‘singlehood’ with the words “I am happily single”. However, asserting that one is happily single seems to be the only thing that takes away the pitying looks people dart our way when told we are single.
It is OK not to be happily single. I can be single and be looking to get into a relationship, but just have not found the right person yet. However, this does not mean I need to be pitied.

It is also OK to be single, ready to mingle and not seriously searching. This should not evoke pity from anyone.

Relationship status is a personal issue. We should not assume we know the reason for the relationship status of others. As a single woman, I definitely do not need anyone assuming the reason for my relationship status.  I don’t need anyone reassuring me that it will get better. ‘Singlehood’ is not a disease that needs to be cured or an appalling status that must be rectified!
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3- The assumption that everyone is heterosexual.
Assuming that everyone is heterosexual gets on my nerves. With all the enlightenment going on about lesbians, gays, bisexual and transgender issues, i find it rude when people just assume the sexual orientation of a stranger. 

Yes, we get it; heterosexuality is the default setting. However in this day and age, we should make an effort to acknowledge that there are other sexual orientation besides heterosexuality.

When someone says they are single, we should not assume they are looking for opposite sex partners. For all we know, they might be gay, bisexual, pansexual or just queer. If we must refer to their relationship status, it is safer and non-assuming to use the word “Partner”.
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2- The assumption that every single woman wants to be in a relationship

Please stop making that nasty, sympathetic sound when a woman tells you she is single. Being single is not something that should elicit sympathy, especially not from strangers.

Single women should not need to reassure anyone that they are happily single just so the pitying looks would stop. Do not immediately jump in to assure a single woman that they will get a man soon.

Single people who wish to be in a relationship do not need a sympathetic look or hasty assurances from you. Being single is nothing to be ashamed of; it is not a shortcoming. Unless you are planning on asking the person concerned out, their relationship status should not be of any concern to you.
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I am grateful for four amazing decades on planet earth. I am eagerly looking forward to new challenges and more amazing experiences in the coming years!

I am especially looking forward to starting a new job as a union organiser with one of the largest trade unions in UK. I missed being a full time trade unionist and I am so looking forward to working with union activists and organising workers again!

I started working for the labour movement in my early twenties and with the responsibility of fighting for workers’ rights came many opportunities to see the world from different angles. The views can be very depressing especially when it comes to class stratification, oppression, exploitation of labour, crass capitalism and its uneven division of wealth built on the backs of the long-suffering majority who toil every day to earn a living wage but never get to enjoy the wealth created by their labour.

However, sometimes the view can be very exhilarating, especially when the voiceless find their voices through union organising, and against all odds, conquer to achieve great successes, fuelled by strength in unity and propelled by hope in a better tomorrow, while demanding for a better today.
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Grateful for four amazing decades on planet earth.,eagerly looking forward to new challenges and more amazing experiences ahead! 
Time to dance and shake my booty! 

"I throw my hands up in the air sometimes,
Saying ay-oh, gotta let go
I wanna celebrate and live my life,
Saying ay-oh, baby let's go
'Cause we gon rock this club,
We gon' go all night,
We gon' light it up,
Like it's dynamite
'Cause I told you once,
Now I told you twice,
We gon' light it up,
Like it's dynamite"

Music- Taio Cruz - Dynamite
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I watched the ‪#Cara‬ Delevingne's interview and cringed right from the beginning. These anchors were simply obnoxious, nasty, bullies! They were very unprofessional from the very start, the nasty woman couldn't even be bothered to pronounce her name correctly. and to think Cara is the one that is being called a "rude bitch" on social media!

These bullies parading as anchors were no doubt jealous of #Cara ' s successes and were determined to put her down from the very second the interview started. How dare they imply she didn't read the book she starred in? What was all that shit about her looking exhausted?

The patronising anchors acted very unprofessionally, I surely give this 22 year old successful young woman a thumbs up for not calling these nasty anchors what they were; assholes! 

This video blogger has done justice to all the rage i felt watching that obnoxious interview, he makes excellent points.
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I was working out at my gym when two gym regulars decided to strike up a conversation with me.

Gym regular (Male) – You have lost a lot of weight

Gym regular (Female) -Yeah, I told her so too.

Me – Oh, yeah, thanks, the hard work is showing.

Gym regular (Male) – I am sure your husband will be happy

Me – I don’t have a husband. I am single

Gym Regulars – What, you mean you are single?
I am sure you will not be single for long!

Me– I am happily single.
And you know it does not have to be husband.
Maybe i have a wife, or a girlfriend. Maybe i have both.

Gym regulars (both) – Hmm, i guess that is true.

Me – Yeah, just don’t assume it has to be a husband.

Gym regular (Male)- Well, you are right; it could be a husband, a wife, husbands and wives with Mistresses or Misters and a butler too.

Me – Now you get the idea

Gym regular (Male) – Well, if i had all these i wouldn’t come to the gym!

Me- (Laughing)-I suppose one would be too tired performing marital and extramarital duties.

I found this random but interesting exchange full of assumptions I wish I did not encounter daily.
Below are 5 assumptions and lessons from the above conversation-
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2- The assumption that every single woman wants to be in a relationship
Please stop making that nasty, sympathetic sound when a woman tells you she is single. Being single is not something that should elicit sympathy, especially not from strangers.

Single women should not need to reassure anyone that they are happily single just so the pitying looks would stop. Do not immediately jump in to assure a single woman that they will get a man soon.
Single people who wish to be in a relationship do not need a sympathetic look or hasty assurances from you. Being single is nothing to be ashamed of; it is not a shortcoming. Unless you are planning on asking the person concerned out, their relationship status should not be of any concern to you.

Never assume everyone wants to be in a relationship. I don’t like it when people, especially strangers, assume that as a single woman, I must necessarily be looking to get hooked up. There are single women who are seriously not interested in getting into relationships, just as there are those who are seriously looking to get into relationships. It is a personal thing and the generalisation that being a single woman translates to “desperately looking to get hooked”, is just not right.

I hate having to qualify my ‘singlehood’ with the words “I am happily single”. However, asserting that one is happily single seems to be the only thing that takes away the pitying looks people dart our way when told we are single.
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Affirming my beauty is not vanity. Asserting that I am beautiful does not mean i am stuck up, it only means i am beautiful and i know it. No one else can tell me otherwise because my opinion of my body is the only one that matters.

Self-love is important. Many assholes especially on the internet live to chip away at a women’s body worth, we should never give them the satisfaction of seeing us crumble.

Society has invested so much in instilling in women that unless we meet the beauty standard set for us, and act the script prepared for us, we are worthless and not real women. Therefore, it is pure, undiluted joy and freedom to be able to look society in its patriarchal, sexist eyes and tell all its enablers where to stick their opinions and stereotype scripts.

Nothing is more of a turn on than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin. Walk the earth like the goddess and achiever that you are. After all, you were the fastest swimming spermatozoon to get to that ovum that developed into the amazing person you are today. You are one in a million, so walk the earth like you own it, cos you are a goddess.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. See the beauty in yourself and all who disagree can kiss your ass and that is only if they are worthy to kiss your feet.
I Am Beautiful and I know It
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Yemisi Ilesanmi is a Nigerian woman, resident in UK. She holds a Master of Laws (LL.M)  degree in Gender, Sexuality and Human Rights. She is a trade unionist, human rights activist, author, poet and blogger.
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