1- “Was your last relationship with a man or woman?”
Whenever a lesbian shows a sexual/emotional interest in me, the first line of questioning is an inquiry about the gender of my last partner. “Was your last relationship with a man or woman?” they inevitably ask. Of all the questions lesbians ask when they first meet a bisexual they might be interested in, this is the one I find most irritating and highly annoying.
The gender of my last partner is not an indication of whether I am going to leave you for the opposite sex.
The gender of my last partner won’t tell you how i rate on the Kinsey scale or my fluid sexuality spectrum.
The gender of the last person I was in a relationship with is not a clue as to whether I would cheat on you.
The gender of my last partner will not tell you anything beyond the fact that I am bisexual.
Since you already know I am bisexual, why ask this annoying question?
The question is invasively scrutinising.
If I told you my last relationship was with a man, you start thinking “Maybe she really prefers men.” No, I am not experimenting.
If I told you my last relationship was with a woman, you start thinking, “Maybe she is actually a lesbian who has not accepted it yet.” No, I am not in denial.
We do not go around asking prospective partners if their last partner was black or white, tall or short. This would be considered distasteful as well as politically incorrect. So, why do we think it is OK to ask bisexuals the sex of their last partner?
This question always comes across as scrutinising and judgemental. If you want to be my lover, don’t start by asking me about the biological sex or gender identity of my last partner. What you need to know from the very start is that I am bisexual. If that makes you uncomfortable in anyway, work through your issues before trying to get it on with me. Thank you.
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