Dick Talens, Fitocracy cofounder, on the topic of weight loss:
"One last thing I want to mention... Being overweight is not a character flaw by any means.
Too frequently will people think that they're overweight because "something is wrong with them" and that's the furthest thing from the truth. Unfortunately, when these people fail on their diets, they'll continue to think that something is wrong with them and beat themselves up.
In reality, weight loss is a skill... just like riding a bike. If you fell and scraped your knee the first time you attempted to ride a bike, you wouldn't beat yourself up and say "shit, something is horribly wrong with me... I just don't have the willpower and discipline required to ride this bike" would you? Nope, you'd realize that you just don't have that skill yet. You'll need to get better at it and learn how to control the bike when you hit different terrain... a bumpy road or a patch of grass, etc.
How silly is it that when people attempt to lose weight – often by reducing it to "eat less, move more" – then fail, they think that they're lazy? Undisciplined? They feel guilty and horrible about themselves, rather than think about what caused them to slip up – how to control the bike past a new terrain.
If there's one thing that you take away from all of this, it's that losing weight is a skill... a composite of underlying skills like mindfulness or nutritional knowledge.
There's one more important implication – You can go ahead and forgive yourself for any past slip-ups. It's important in this entire journey to be self-compassionate... in fact, research shows that this will actually make you more likely to succeed:http://www.heidigranthalvorson.com/2012/09/forget-self-esteem.html?m=1