I hear some of you asking an important question: But if I am brutally honest all the time, feelings will get hurt and I will alienate people. That is a very real risk.
(1) Would you like to live a life of giving other people the benefit of the doubt to feel what they are going to feel about your truth and then deal with the feelings?
(2) Delivery. There are a thousand ways to deliver your truth that can be respectful, non-blaming, non-guilting, and non-demanding. So yes, it is possible to deliver your truth in a way that is not an attack and then, yes, still, it is their choice to get upset or not. So please do not see this is black & white (soft lie or brutal truth).
(3) There is soft truth and there is response-ability. Let's encourage people to be responsible for how they take things rather than walk on egg shells around people.
(4) Knowing each other. When you are courageous enough to reveal your truth, even when you know it might hurt the other person to hear, it is important to consider they may feel pain... and then to still tell them the painful thing. This leads to knowing each other better. If you tip-toe and suck it up and say nothing in order to spare their feelings, you forever avoid the lesson that could have been learned as well as the information that could have been conveyed to cause a deepening of your mutual understanding of each other.
(5) Resentment. When you hold back on saying something, that thing you wanted to say doesn't just go way. Part of you remembers it. It may be a small thing. Small things add up.