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Tammy Lenski
Works at Myriaccord LLC
Attended Middlebury College
Lives in Peterborough, NH
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Conflict and suffering are confederates working in painful alliance, each feeding the other as if to ensure its own continued existence. If I turn away from the suffering in conflict, I deny a part of my clients’ experience. If I try to fix suffering, I assume a task that is not really mine to shoulder. Here’s one way I’ve found it helpful to think about, respond to, and help ease suffering.
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Memory doesn’t exist to help us perfectly recall things in our lives. It’s there to help us survive. And to do its job properly, memory must evolve. Here’s a quick recap of the ways memory is flawed and why arguing about the accuracy of memories is like running on a gerbil wheel and expecting to get somewhere new.
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When we need to get out of our own way, there’s a simple yet powerful exercise we can use to help. It doesn’t take much practice — just commitment for a few minutes. Here’s one of my favorite conflict resolution activities for changing emotional state and tricking my mind into being more helpful in the heat of the conflict moment.
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Are you letting this common habit get in the way of effective mediating?

http://lenski.com/mediation-notes-and-note-taking/
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The importance of silence in conflict conversations

Whether we’re participants in a conflict conversation or mediating it, creating space for a question to be contemplated before answering is a powerful gift. When we fill the space out of our own discomfort with the silence, we inadvertently smother the possibility of a deeper answer.

http://lenski.com/silence-during-conflict/
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Before you start solving a problem, be sure you do this

Design thinking is helping designers, engineers, and entrepreneurs solve problems more successfully and develop better products. Here’s how conflict resolvers can use one of design thinking’s most powerful steps to achieve better outcomes.
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Keeping yourself (and others) out of conflict corners

It’s tempting to feel triumphant when we successfully back our nemesis into a figurative corner. But it’s ill-advised triumph. Cornering triggers our evolutionary baggage, leads to outcomes unlikely to stand the test of time, and leaves all sorts of debris in the personal or working relationship. Here are ways to address and prevent cornering in your own and others’ conflicts.
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Quick to blame but slower to give credit? Beware of this thinking error in conflict

When an action has bad impact, how you think about that impact can play a significant role in triggering and escalating blame and conflict. And despite how rational you believe you are, there’s a thinking error that can lead you down a very irrational path. It’s called the Knobe Effect.
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Failing to ask effectively for what we want is the stuff of low-grade irritation that, over time, can become a source of chronic conflict and tension. Here’s a ridiculously simple way to ask more effectively, be more persuasive without manipulating, and increase the odds a small favor will be granted. http://lenski.com/simple-way-to-be-more-persuasive/
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Conflict resolution strategist
Introduction
I help leaders be calm, creative, and agile in conflict, and teach conflict resolution professionals how to master their craft and business.

Building on almost two decades as a professional mediator, executive coach, speaker, and conflict resolution professor, I specialize in:

- Helping leaders, managers and mediators master the inner game of conflict resolution and negotiation.

- Teaching how to problem solve skillfully and creatively.

- Helping conflict resolution professionals succeed in business and resolve conflict masterfully.

Bragging rights
2012 Mary Parker Follett Award from the Association for Conflict Resolution, for innovation in the conflict resolution field.
Education
  • Middlebury College
    B.A. in Literary Studies, 1983
  • University of Vermont
    Masters in Higher Education, 1987
  • University of Vermont
    Doctorate in Higher Education, 1992
  • Woodbury College
    Certificate in Mediation & Conflict Resolution, 1998
    500 hours
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Female
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Married
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Conflict resolution and negotiation consultant, mediator, coach, speaker, educator and author
Skills
conflict resolution, negotiation, coaching, speaking, training, teaching
Employment
  • Myriaccord LLC
    Founder & Principal, 1997 - present
  • Trinity College of Vermont
    Vice President/Dean, 1992 - 1997
  • Champlain College
    Assistant Dean, 1987 - 1992
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Peterborough, NH
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603-203-6630
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Peterborough, NH 03458 USA