Said the 36 week pregnant lady trying to order wine at the bar.
Sorry lady, but the waitress didn't know you from a bar of soap, you expect her to risk career so you can have a drink.....because you "look intelligent". Never mind the risk to the baby - think about others who might just be trying to look out for you or ensure they don't get fired for doing the wrong thing.
If I turned up at your house with a motorbike, and you were 36 weeks pregnant and asked for a ride. I would turn you down for that too - because it would be on my conscience if things went wrong.
Clearly having a glass of wine while pregnant is not on yours.