Well, no matter how someone explains surgery, it still sounds, bad. But then again surgery always involves needles and you learned from my sister what my thoughts are on that subject.
I found my mind immediately racing on all the possibilities and on all the unknowns when the Doctor explained what was expected to Sarah. Fear immediately showed up but I found comfort in that moment when my sister just smiled and said “OK”. Which is what we both began focusing on together. Being “OK”. Everything was going to be “OK” and we were going to be “OK” by making the best of it.
You saw how we did that together by finding something to keep ourselves in good spirits. We posted our thoughts together and shared it with all of you. Many of you were able to spend some time writing back to us through out the night as we both slept to face the day and the surgery that was required to move forward. Not something that rests well when you try and fall asleep.
I arrived in the lobby of the hospital again today and before heading up to see my sister I picked up some food and a hot cup of coffee. I sat down to eat before heading upstairs. Admittedly, I was worried about the surgery my sister was going to experience. But I was determined and had my mind set to be the strong one meanwhile I was scared beyond belief for her. Game face was about to go on.
As I sat preparing myself a man moved towards me as I sat eating my sandwich. The man was in a wheel chair and looked to be in his late 60’s. As I looked up I saw that had lost both legs but funny how he was still smiling at people. He looked over and asked me why I was here so I shared with him the reason. He told me about how he loved his job and missed doing the work he used to do before circumstances in his life changed. He told me how he has to visit many times a week due to his illnesses. He said the people here treat him well despite the workload he sees them face that could have them losing energy over their work. New faces arrive at hospital every week. Many scared and most sad. He shared some words with me and said I should be sure that I enjoy my work and to simply smile as much as possible. Sounds simple right? But then I found myself smiling. The man reminded me of my grandfather, which brought some comfort in the moment. I bought the man a coffee and thanked him for sharing some of his stories with me. He thanked me back and then said he would “pay it forward” and wished me well. The whole conversation lasted only a few minutes. But those minutes counted for what they were supposed to count for in my opinion.
I took away that no matter how bad our situations might be we have to be grateful. That quite often others have circumstances way worse than what we’re faced with. That even during challenging circumstances we can seek out comfort by knowing that it’s just “OK”. The man had no legs and would not ever walk. I had both mine. Do we take our gifts for granted? Perhaps.
As I stood up to leave, I looked over to see a 4-day-old baby. The babies eyes lit up with life. Then not known to me right away was a friend I went to high school with. told me he knew why I was at the hospital and said everything was going to be “OK”. So in only a few moments I saw someone overcoming adversity and a baby about to begin life. In only a few minutes I saw friends and strangers sharing simple things that are available to most of us to share as well. Those simple things are their words of encouragement and a little bit of time.
So I guess no matter where we find ourselves there’s always going to be something called STRUGGLE. In the moments of struggle what I know now more than ever is that we are never alone.
There is always someone to turn to for support. Sometimes that someone is someone you haven’t even met for more than a few minutes. And often without knowing it we are that someone.
I sat today sharing stories. Stories that some of YOU all helped me to share. It helped as you can see get a thumbs up before heading into surgery. I laughed and cried with my sister today (she just didn’t see me to the crying part). I told her about all the people sending her love and thinking about her and our family. It allowed us to be “OK” with everything. I know so many of you too have stories. If you’re reading this perhaps it’s time to create a couple new chapters. I know that’s my case and my sisters.
I’ll conclude with this. When the world takes a turn for the unexpected for yourself or someone you. Get really clear on what matters to you. Remember to be grateful and find comfort in knowing it’s going to be “OK”. Don’t spend so much time trying to figure it out. Let some things in life be a mystery. Be curious and get busy taking care of yourself and encouraging the people around you to do the same. Find a way to laugh and let loose on a cry once and a while too and then re-frame and get busy.
Thank you for allowing me, my sister and family be vulnerable and share real life as it is for us right now. Thank you for sending your thoughts, prayers and energy over.
My sister Sarah is now in recovery room and she’s still got a road ahead to travel on. No matter what challenges show up you all proved there’s a lot good in the world and passengers willing to go along for the ride to. Start to celebrate the people in your lives and most of all......
BE #GRATEFUL. I AM. WE ARE.
Thank you for showing my sister that together we can inspire lives even at the worst of times and I hope our story is shared with those who may need to hear it where ever they find themselves looking at the world wide web.
PPS - Let's all take more selfies. Like this #selfie with a plane. I think I scored an extra 100 points on this one and have my cool guy look going big time. You ain't seen nothing yet!
Thanks to all of you for all the messages, calls, cards, posts, visits and the other ways you let me know I'm appreciated. Life is fun. Make more friends. Get with the program. It's so worth it!
I can't wait to share more with all of you. Much love.
PS - Would also like a tour at #Google to see what is all about. :)
I’m spending time with my sister this weekend. While it’s certainly not on the best of terms, we’ve been talking about what we can share with family and friends while awaiting those Doctors with all those world class skills that will help her get out of here in tip top shape.
Sarah and I decided it would be a good idea to share what she has been chatting about with each of the various nurses who have made an appearance over the past couple of hours:
1) How she is beyond stronger than her brother and has proven that she can tolerate more pain regardless of any uniform that her said brother might wear
2) How she doesn’t mind needles and must make a point to tell anyone within ear shot how her brother has passed out or required candy to recover from even the thought of them.
3) “Watch, there he goes” as her said brother slowly slides out of the room each time a nurse shows up with some potion in one of those pointy things. (Funny now how the nurses make it a point to show me the needles to see my face and make my sister smile a little. Hmmm?)
4) How that even with limited lung capacity she will always make more sense than her brother who is known for having enough hot air to fill up a blimp along with every news and media channel that will listen to his “updates” that come flowing from his mouth as a "media guy"
Well, it’s all truth here in Weltonville tonight folks.
On a serious note, Sarah wants family and friends to know that she’s doing ok, all things considered. We might not always find ourselves in good places but we can always try to be in good spirits no matter how loud you may hear a Welton face plant. I guess it’s just the way we roll.
Sarah and I think while some days are tougher than others we should always fight tooth and nail for something to be grateful for…. (Like a couple brownies she’s just been approved to eat) and we challenge everyone to reach out to someone to simply check in and say “Hi” or “How’s it going?” after you read this.
Would you take just a moment to pause tonight or this weekend. Send some good energy and prayers to my sister.
Thanks for letting my sister and I share real life through the world wide web as we are experiencing it tonight while those Welton's you know make the best of it.
Ice cream moments are every where.........
Life has a way of keeping us busy doesn't it? You know those days where you're racing to all those "important" places and you move around so fast that you barely remember how you got there? Moving so fast that those real important things and people can sometimes..... Go unnoticed. Or unappreciated. Or worse, we put off doing and enjoying life saying things like "I'll do that later" or until "one day when_______".
I paused in the middle of that "important stuff" today to remember a man and share my thoughts about a person after friends and family reached out to me. Without knowing it this man influenced my life and inspired me. A man who inspired me to continue working on myself and giving life my best. I suspect he did the same for others. Actually I know he did.
The last time him and I connected it was after I was speaking in London about appreciation and marketing. After I was done speaking he approached me and said "I see an unlimited potential in you to influence and inspire peoples lives for the better" and "don't you ever doubt yourself even for a second". "Keep using your energy to help people and don't quit because people count on you". I remember writing down those comments in a journal I often use to remember quotes, stories of my life experiences and to stay connected with people I meet along the way.
Without knowing it at the time, this past Friday September 4th, 2015 duty called upon me at work. I was sent to Stoney Creek to do my part as a media relations officer at the scene of a plane crash where a man had died. I met with a number of media teams who came to cover the tragic moments we were faced with that day.
The man that died that day inspired lives by the way he LIVED and it's no doubt in my mind that he will continue to inspire people through his legacy and memories as people start to recall and share their personal stories about him and how they remember him too.
My story is just one of thousands. This man was a natural networker. Making friends every minute of the day. He chose to do little things for people that he had no idea made big impacts. He was a catalyst for fun and loved life, his friends and his family. He loved to live a little fast now and again. His friends will attest to it. He also believed in people. He was kind with his words and quick to share positive comments. If you ever met him you knew he was a man of action. You could feel him in the room no matter where he stood. He stood out. He cared about all the right things. Life has a way of reminding us all of just how delicate each moment is.
A friend just shared with me that just last week his girlfriend watched Rob reach into his pocket and pay for another mans ice cream who was struggling to find enough money to buy ice cream. Rob took notice seeing the man really down on his luck. Knowing he was looking for his break. He couldn't leave it unnoticed. He knew it was for him to see. He ran back and paid for the mans ice cream. Rob then returned to the car to his girlfriend. Smiled at her and said
"ICE CREAM SHOULD BE FREE FOR ALL THE UNFORTUNATE".
We all miss that smile......
If he were reading my words right now...... Rob you can count on me to remain true to your words and one day we'll see you again. Rest well. We celebrate your life now and your family and friends will be taken care of. We won't forget the moments we shared with you.
Meet Rob Cranston.
He would have paid for your ice cream too.
We'll share more of your stories with the world and you'll inspire us all.
Always an Eagle.
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