Interesting article, and clearly a story that most people would be familiar with from one side or the other.
Of course there'll be a bunch of people saying there's nothing more alluring than an emphatic verbal consent,
and there's people who consensually enjoy the role playing of feigned non-consent or playing coy.
But what this is really about is a culture where women are conditioned to say no, even when they mean yes, and men are conditioned to pressure and continue with initiating sex, even when they hear "no" and even when their 'partner' isn't really complying.
While this author's story isn't particularly damaging, it's far too familiar and the result of this cultural conditioning is that while there are men like "Dave" (who would stop if a woman really emphatically said no); there are plenty of men who aren't like that, and despite persistent unending rejection, they'll keep pressuring, eventually will force themselves onto a woman, and it will be unequivocally rape.
And they do it not because they're 'rapists'; the vast majority of those men would abhor the idea of rape and vocally denounce rapists and genuinely believe that what they've done isn't rape. But it is.
The fact that this situation in the article is so hazy, such a grey area is very telling.
At the end of the day, the cultural conditioning needs to change.
To all people: stand up for your boundaries. Speak clearly and never let anyone cross your boundaries; not without a fight.
To all people: get that emphatic consent. Nothing's sexier than a heartfelt YES!
(Well, there's still room for pre-consented role play, but the point remains).
#humanrights #sex #consent #rape
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