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"MOM AND DAD DON'T HAVE A CLUE!"

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There comes a time in the life of many teenagers when they reach the conclusion that Mom and Dad don’t have a clue about much of anything … especially them! Many teenagers start suspecting this around the age of 13, but it’s not until they are closer to 16 that the realization gets embedded in their consciousness. After that, every interaction with their parents confirms it: “Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!”

The Mantle of “Independence!”

At Parenting Your Teen for Life, we see this all the time. We take it very seriously, but we recognize it as simply a phase that virtually all teenagers go through. Think of it as a Rite of Passage – your teenager leaning toward Independence. The “Upside” of all this is your teenager wants to start taking more responsibility for him or herself. This includes making more decisions … Independent of You. There is nothing uncommon about this. At every stage of development, our children want more Independence than we are willing to give them. If the truth be told … even toddlers want Independence!

The Power of Influence with Our Teens

The most parents can hope for during their teenager’s Rite of Passage is to continue to have Influence in their son or daughter’s life. Our ability to maintain this Power of Influence will depend on whether or not we have a strong emotional Connection with our sons and daughters. That Connection will evolve naturally from us performing the 8 Transformational Parenting Practices. The eight Practices are characterized by our Statement of Commitment:

“I will Love my teenager Unconditionally.
I will Communicate with my teenager Responsively.
I will be Wise, Watchful, Patient, Prayerful, Stouthearted and
Stay Actively Involved in my teenager’s life.”

When parents of teenagers around the world band together, share our wisdom and celebrate our parenting victories … we all will have more “Juice to reach our mutual End Goal!”
At Parenting Your Teen for Life, our “End Goal” is simple …

To Help Parents

“Establish a Sacred Bond between themselves
and their teen-children that is rooted in the
8 Transformational Parenting Practices.”

These Practices enable Parents to continue to have Influence with their sons and daughters when they no longer have Control over them. Try not to bristle at this statement. The two truths below cannot be disputed or denied … no matter how much we resist accepting them.

(1) Parents simply do not have the same level of control over their teenagers as they did when they were young children and early adolescents. This is neither a Myth nor a Mystery. It is simply a fact. We cannot be with our teens or track them throughout their day 24/7.

(2) The most we can hope for is this: Their upbringing will kick in at crucial moments when they have to make “character defining” decisions. We hope that our guiding Voices remain in their head and heart … and that our Prayers will strengthen them in those crucial moments.

Our Commitment!

At Parenting Your Teen for Life, we are committed to helping every parent raise emotionally healthy, well-adjusted, hopeful, confident teenagers who are excited about their future.
Parents who adopt the 8 Transformational Parenting Practices discover “first hand” what it takes to make their teenager Tick, Talk & Transform … and in that process “They Get a Clue!”

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There comes a time in the life of most teenagers when they reach the conclusion that Mom and Dad don’t have a clue about much of anything … especially them! Most teenagers start having indications of this around the age of 13, but it’s not until they are closer to 16 that the realization gets embedded in their consciousness. After that, every interaction with their parents confirms it: “Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!”

The Mantle of “Independence!”

At Parenting Your Teen for Life, we see this all the time. We take it very seriously, but we recognize it as simply a phase that virtually all teenagers go through. Think of it as a Rite of Passage – your teenager leaning toward Independence.

The “Upside” of all this is your teenager wants to start taking more responsibility for him or herself. This includes making more decisions independent of you. There is nothing uncommon about this. At every stage of development, our children want more Independence than we are willing to give. If the truth be told, even toddlers want Independence!

The Power of Influence with Our Teens

The most parents can hope for during their teenager’s Rite of Passage is to continue to have Influence in their lives. Our ability to maintain this Power of Influence will depend on whether or not we have a strong emotional Connection with our sons and daughters. And that Connection will evolve naturally from performing the 8 Transformational Parenting Practices.  The eight Practices are characterized by statements of Commitment:

“I will Love my teenager Unconditionally.
I will Communicate with my teenager Responsively.
I will be Wise, Watchful, Patient, Prayerful, Stouthearted and Stay Actively Involved in my teenager’s life.”

When parents of teenagers around the world band together, share our wisdom and celebrate our parenting victories … we all will have more “Juice” to reach our mutual “End Goal!”

At Parenting Your Teen for Life, our “End Goal!” is simple …

To Help Parents

“Establish a Sacred Bond between themselves
and their teen-children that is rooted in the
8 Transformational Parenting Practices.”

These Practices enable Parents to continue to have Influence with their sons and daughters when they no longer have Control over them.  Try not to bristle at this statement.  The two truths below  cannot be disputed or denied … no matter how much we resist accepting them.

(1)  Parents simply do not have the same level of control over their teenagers as they did when they were young children and early adolescents.  This is neither a Myth nor a Mystery.  It is simply a fact.  We cannot be with our teens or track them throughout their day … when we are not with them.

(2)  The most we can hope for is that their upbringing will kick in at crucial moments when they have to make “character defining” decisions.  We hope that our guiding Voices remain in their head and heart … and that our Prayers will strengthen them in those crucial moments.

Our Commitment!

At Parenting Your Teen for Life, we are committed to helping every parent raise emotionally healthy, well-adjusted, hopeful, confident teenagers who are excited about their future.

Parents who adopt the 8 Transformational Parenting Practices discover “first hand” what it takes to make their teenager Tick, Talk & Transform … and in that process “They Get a Clue!”

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Here’s my official DARE
I “D-Double Dare you” to leave me a message below!
Until next time … Hang In There!
Your Teenager is Worthy of all your Love and EXTRA Effort!

Shalom!

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Parents! You'll want to pay close attention to this post. There's still time to ARM your teenager with information and prepare him or her to deal with peer pressure and teen culture. They still need to give a strong "NO" to Drugs!

No matter what your teen is learning about Drugs in school or on the street ... it's critically important that he or she hear YOUR VOICE on the subject. Nothing will ever take the place of our teens having the strength of OUR words in their mouth ... to build their Confidence and Courage to defend their desire to remain Drug-Free!

No matter what our teen-children say out loud ... what WE think still matters to them. There's a good body of research on Parent-Teen relationships that confirms this truth. Never doubt that YOU still make a difference in your teenager's life.
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Day Two of The Trump Reality Show!

It’s a “Done Deal!” But some still can’t believe it. Welcome to “The Trump Reality Show Extraordinaire!” It is Day Two after the Political Firestorm or the Ravenous Electoral Tsunami … whichever describes the hell you think the country is now in because President-elect Donald Trump is our Reality.

No matter what your feelings … be they embedded in negative emotions or steeped in cold hard logic … Donald Trump did what virtually no other Presidential candidate has done. He alienated just about everybody … while at the same time reeling many into his unique brand of “Let It ALL Hang Out” rants.

Let’s imagine for a moment. Wouldn’t it be lovely if “What you see is what you get” DOES NOT apply to Donald Trump? Allow that notion to wash over you. That one thought could assuage a multitude of despairing thoughts running rampant throughout this country.

My point here is this. You must not give into the appearance of gloom and doom that presently looms large in your Mind’s Eye. The truth is we don’t know with certainty what lies ahead. And as finite beings, we never will.

Think about it … we’ve never really known the Heart of any President we’ve elected. We made our decision to elect based on what we thought we knew. That fact alone won’t buy you a candy bar anywhere other than the Dollar Store!

In virtually every case study of the American Presidents we thought we knew … we were disappointed, blindsided or mortified at some of the things they said and did. Donald Trump will be no different.

Still, it would not be wise to overlook some of the reprehensible things Donald Trump SAID or FAILED TO SAY that shocked, petrified and polarized us. And Yes … his alienating remarks did expand the Divide between us as human beings living on the soil of this Nation.

But again, we must not surrender to the despondent negative drumbeat that haunted us on the campaign trail. Rather, let us be vigilant and guarded in ways we’ve never felt compelled to be at the election of a new President.

Clearly, we NOW have reason to be.

Have you watched and listened to Donald Trump’s Acceptance Speech? No, seriously … have you really watched and listened! Who was that Man? He had the face and body of Donald Trump, but nobody can really tell who that guy is. More unsettling … nobody knows if that guy will stick around for the next four years.

During his Acceptance Speech, President-elect Trump extended an Olive Branch to the Nation.

Taking his speech on face value … I urge each of us to rally around President-elect Donald Trump’s cry for help in moving America forward in a positive way.

I urge each of us who knows the value and efficacy of prayer to call on Almighty GOD to hold America in the palm of HIS hand and bring about the “Highest Good” of this Nation.

I urge each of us to pray that we as a Nation will orchestrate “Good” in the world … for ourselves and others.

Amen! Shalom!
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“Sleep is Non-Negotiable!” So says Arianna Huffington, co-founder and editor of The Huffington Post. Her new book (“The Sleep Revolution”) is a wake-up call on how dangerous sleep deprivation is to our health and success in life. The book is aimed at adults, but the message is essentially true for teenagers whose Sleep deprivation numbers have reached epidemic proportions … according to sleep experts across the country.

The most recent Sleep Recommendations for children and teen-children were released by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine and published in the June 2016 issue of the Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine. The medical findings of the Academy are unequivocal … Teenagers Need More ZZZ’s! I have no doubt that parents of teenagers everywhere agree. There is also broad agreement among sleep experts and government agencies that monitor Sleep in every demographic, including teenagers.

How Much Sleep do Teenagers Need?

According to the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, the recommended Sleep Requirement for teenagers ages 13-18 years … is 8-10 hours, with the Sweet Spot being 9 hours. The experts want parents to know that helping their sons and daughters achieve the Sleep recommendation is directly associated with “better health outcomes like improved behavior, memory, learning, attention, quality of life, emotional regulation and physical and mental health.”

If you’ve been hanging out on this blog, you know that I don’t believe teenagers are cookie-cutter Clones of a mythical Adolescent Prototype. My point here is that ALL teenagers may not need 9 hours of sleep every night to function well throughout their day. Some teens may need more, some less. But I do believe it is prudent to conclude that 8 hours of sleep every night should be a Minimum Goal … while consistently shooting for 9 hours of sleep – a well-established Target. Parents should keep in mind that if their teen is not well rested, he or she will not have optimum health.

Why Teens have Weird Sleep Habits!

In my last blog, I promised to write about the “Legitimate Biological” reasons teens don’t get sleepy until very late in the evening. Here’s why …

A teenager’s Internal Body Clock performs the same functions as those of other age groups. But the rhythm of those functions, including the 24-hour Sleep/Wake cycle, is unique to teenagers. Where sleep is concerned, teenagers do not share the Sleep/Wake cycle of their biological or adoptive family. Instead, their Sleep/Wake cycle is aligned with their peers – other teenagers whose Sleep Habits reflect their own. I know … this boggles the mind!

I find this fact more than a little intriguing. Think about it! Teenagers across the country, who are strangers to each other, share the same Sleep/Wake cycle. It’s hard to get more personal than that. This phenomenon plays out every evening without fail, as teenagers across the country settle in for their 40-winks two hours or more AFTER their parents and younger siblings are fast asleep.

Puberty Changes Everything!

As our teens move through Puberty, massive changes occur in their body and brain. One major change is that teenagers start getting sleepy later and later at night. This is the work of Melatonin, the Sleep Hormone produced by the brain. Melatonin is often referred to as The Dark Hormone and it is produced naturally by the pineal gland located in the brain. The production and secretion of Melatonin in the brain is critically important to Sleep. Why is that?

Melatonin regulates our Sleep/Wake cycle. Darkness causes the brain to produce more Melatonin, which signals the body to prepare for sleep. Light decreases Melatonin production and signals the body to stay awake. Teenagers who have trouble sleeping … have low levels of Melatonin. Why is that?

Normally, Melatonin levels rise in the mid-to-late evening hours. They remain high throughout the night and then drop off in the early morning hours. This is where teenagers have difficulty. The onslaught of Puberty causes the brain to produce Melatonin two or more hours LATER than before teens reach Puberty. Why is that?

Teenagers have growth spurts and hormonal surges that require extra Sleep. It is during Sleep that their bodies are equipped to regenerate Growth Cells and accommodate their changing biological needs. This is true for no other age group. For all the reasons above, it is virtually impossible for teenagers to naturally go to sleep early. Once puberty sets in … teenagers are biologically predisposed to staying up late at night and sleeping late in the morning.

The Sleep/Wake cycle of teenagers is typically very stressful to parents who are saddled with the job of waking them up each morning. When yelling doesn’t do the trick, we “shake-rattle-and-roll” their bodies out of bed in time for school or whatever extra-curricular activity starts at the crack of dawn.

Sometimes nothing works as well as “the laying on of hands”. Parents know the drill up-close-and-personal, but the early morning ritual is never a picnic. What could be worse than that? Parents get to do the reverse of the struggle at night when they try to get their teens to hit the sheets at a reasonable hour.

Consequences of Inadequate Sleep!

Here are just a few of the areas in which teenagers are adversely impacted by insufficient Sleep:

Mood/Temperament: Teenagers who get adequate Sleep are still susceptible to moodiness and ill-temper … because they’re experiencing surging hormones and intense emotions. Imagine what your teenager experiences WITHOUT adequate Sleep. Do these words ring a bell? “Freddie Kruger is in the House!”

Relationships: Without adequate Sleep teenagers are often irritable, impatient, angry or depressed. These emotions negatively impact the way teenagers interact with family members, friends, teachers and the rest of the world.

Academic Achievement: Getting fewer than the recommended hours of sleep is linked to teenagers having problems with learning, memory, behavior and attention span.

Physical Health: Inadequate Sleep tends to increase the appetite. Teenagers who don’t get sufficient Sleep tend to snack more and eat foods high in calories. The consequence is their bodies have more difficulty regulating glucose, blood sugar and other hormones for a healthy metabolism.

Mental Health: Sleep experts have found that teenagers who get insufficient Sleep are at greater risk of depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, ADHD and self-harm.

Parents are “Sleep Opportunity” Enforcers!

The universal Goal of parents is to protect the health, safety and well-being of their children and teen-children. Too often, however, our teen-children make this virtually impossible to do this with any degree of efficacy or consistency.

Poor Sleep Habits have major Negative Consequences. But the good news is … Parents CAN HELP their teens develop good Sleep Habits.

Each week I will offer at least one option you can use to help your teen get adequate sleep. Here’s the first one.

Call to Action!

♦♦ Enter into an Agreement with your teenager that the two of you will Monitor his or her Sleep Habits for two days. The Monitoring period will run from the time your teen gets home after school to the time he or she turns out the lights and goes to bed.

During this experiment, you will NOT enforce your rules about when he or she is to go to bed. You will not remove or block access to electronic devices (cell phone, smart phone, tablets, digital Games, etc. Your teen will decide when he or she will shut down for the night and go to bed.

Here’s the tough part. During the two-day experiment, your teen must take responsibility for waking up and getting to school on time … no matter what time he or she decided to go to bed the night before. We both know this will not be a walk in the park for you. But the Goal of this experiment is well worth the chaos it will likely cause.

Fallback Position: If you do not want your teen to miss a day of school, be prepared to do the following: Use a spray bottle of cold water, if your teen refuses to get out of bed in time to prepare and leave for school. Spray the cold water directly in his or her sleeping face or anywhere on bare skin. That should do the trick!

In this experiment … DO NOT RELY solely on your teenager’s notes … use yours as well. At the end of two days compare notes. Ask your teenager what he or she learned from the experiment. It should be obvious: Your teenager needs to develop a Sleep Hygiene that supports his or her getting adequate Sleep.

My next blog will include the next three steps to take to help your teenager get adequate Sleep during the week. We will not immediately tackle the Weekend. We will need to develop “Emotional Muscle for that!” The “Weekend Sleep-In” has a challenge and stench all its own.

But You can handle it!

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Here’s my official DARE:

I “D-Double Dare you” to leave me a message below!

Until next time … Hang In There!

Your Teenager is Worthy of all your Love and EXTRA Effort!

Shalom!

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Sleep Deprivation is a growing issue and can have devastating effects on the physical body, the learning process and the general health of our teenagers. Most parents agree that it’s a Serious Problem.

I’m currently working on an eBook that will feature the most recent medical and scientific facts about Sleep Deprivation in teenagers.

I expect my eBook to be published in the Amazon Kindle Store by September 22. If you post a question about teen Sleep Deprivation in the Comment Box below, I’ll answer the question in this blog post Series and in my eBook.

To stay connected with me and know when I’ve posted a new blog or published a new book, please do the following:

Leave your name and email address on the Sign Up form in the upper right corner of this website. I’ll send you a free copy of my eBook titled “Fire Up your Parental Engine!”
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You can connect with Sheila at the following sites:

amazon.com/author/sheilalyonhall

www.ParentingYourTeenforLife.com
www.facebook.com/parentingyourteenforlife

www.facebook.com/sheila.lyonhall

https://www.linkedin.com/in/sheila-lyonhall

https://twitter.com/SheilaLyonHall
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Have you noticed that Summer Break is winding down? Of course you have! The 2016 Fall Semester is no longer on the horizon … it’s racing toward Parents at full throttle! Some school districts have already sounded the Death Knell on “Goofing Off” and are gearing up for the next Crop of Kids. If this school year is anything like last year’s … you’re going to have to deal with Teenage Sleep Deprivation! We don’t need a Crystal Ball for that one!

If there’s a teenager in your house, you’re probably making New “School Year” Resolutions … like a house on fire! I’ll bet one of them is to have NO more battles with your teenager about his or her poor Sleep Habits.

Your teenager will be Going to bed at a Reasonable Hour!

Your teen will be Getting out of bed each morning without your Intervention!

I’ll bet your “Resolutions” sound something like these …

“Sleep is going to be a Priority in our house!”

“Everybody’s going to get 8 hours!”

“I’m NOT going to drag my teenager out of bed every morning like last year!”

“It’s Lights Out at 9:30 every Night!”

I’ll also bet that even while you’re saying these words out loud with Conviction … there’s a sarcastic little voice in the back of your head saying, “Yeah … Right!”

Obvious Answers to Teen Sleep Habit Questions!

I always like to lay out Questions that point to Answers … that are irrefutable! That way I can quantify and qualify what is more than apparently True. Here goes …

→ What other age group can regularly stay awake naturally into the wee hours of the morning … because they’re just not sleepy? Teenagers!

→ What other age group is incapable of getting out of bed in the morning without someone with thick skin and a cattle prod to nudge them into Morning Light? Teenagers!

→ What other age group nods and yawns and catnaps their way through First, Second and Third period … and doesn’t snap out of it until lunchtime. Teenagers!

No other age group on Planet Earth has the same (or even similar) Sleep Habits as teenagers. Their peculiar nocturnal behaviors are foreign to the very people who gave birth to them! That’s why our teenagers complain that … nobody “Gets them!”

No parent likes to admit these things, but our teens are right. When we try to understand their Sleep Habits … we don’t have a clue … so we “Don’t get them!

Teenagers have Peculiar Sleep Habits!

The Sleep Habits of teenagers can be frustrating to parents because they bear no resemblance to the early sleep patterns of the children we raised. Most parents find it mind boggling that such dramatic changes can occur for no apparent reason. No earth shaking or emotionally traumatizing events happened … that would account for such diametric changes in how our teenagers catch their ZZZ’s!

So how does a bright-eyed energetic little “Morning Person” transform into a dopey-eyed, sleep-deprived “Night Owl” who gets his or her Second Wind around 11:00 o’clock at night when everybody else in the house is ready to hit the sheets? Did we slip into another dimension?

These are not “Trick” Questions … and parents need Answers!

STOP beating yourself up! You and virtually all other parents of teenagers are dealing with bits & pieces of the same challenges:

“How can I get my teenager to Sleep like a normal person?!!”

Let me lay some “Truth” on you. That’s probably never going to happen! Not because you’re not a conscientious parent! Not because you’re not a vigilant parent! And Not because you’re Not pulling down gold medals for your parenting skills. The “Reality” is this:

Helping your teenager get the Sleep that he or she needs … is a battle that most parents are simply NOT winning!

Why is that?

The truth is a high percentage of teenagers suffer from Sleeplessness – Sleep Deprivation! In addition to their undisciplined lifestyle behaviors … including poor Sleep Hygiene … there are legitimate, biological reasons why teenagers can’t fall asleep when their parents think they should.

It is important for parents to be aware of these legitimate biological reasons because they affect virtually everything in a teenager’s life.

Quite frankly, there are simply too many things warring against everything that you and other parents do to protect your teenagers against Sleep Deprivation.

Parents Can Be: “Sleep Opportunity” Enforcers!

The universal Goal of parents is to protect the health, safety and well-being of our children. Too often, however, our teen-children make this virtually impossible to do this with any degree of consistency.

Poor Sleep Habits have major Negative Consequences. But the good news is: Parents CAN HELP their teens develop good Sleep Habits.

In upcoming blog posts in this Series, I’ll write more about what some experts have characterized as a national “Sleep Epidemic!” Throughout this Series, I will share some of the latest research on Teen Sleep Deprivation … and what parents can do to support their teenagers getting the Sleep they need for optimum health and better academic performance.

Let me caution you here that you will no doubt meet with major resistance from your teenager. But nothing is more important than his or her health and well-being. Sleep Deprivation is a serious threat to this.

But as our teenagers move toward the Goal of adopting good Sleep Habits … including a “Sleep Hygiene” regimen, they will start getting the Sleep they need to maintain good health, academic vigor and general well-being.

So be patient as your son or daughter moves toward our Goal!

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Here’s my official DARE:

I “D-Double Dare you” to leave me a message below!

Until next time … Hang In There!

Your Teenager is Worthy of all your Love and EXTRA Effort!

Shalom!

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Because the 2016 Fall School Year will be starting soon, I’m turning my attention to issues that continue to plague parents and their teenagers. Sleep Deprivation is a growing issue and can have devastating effects on the physical body, the learning process and the general health of our teens. Most parents agree that it’s a Serious Problem.

I’m currently working on an eBook that will feature the most recent medical and scientific facts about Sleep Deprivation in teenagers. I’ve written a number of articles that now appear on this website in the lower right corner, framed in Red and titled EzineArticles.com because that’s where they were first published. I wrote those articles a couple years ago. This Series of blog posts and my upcoming eBook will contain new research results and information on Teen Sleep Deprivation.

I expect my eBook to be published in the Amazon Kindle Store by October 1. If you post a question about teen Sleep Deprivation in the Comment Box below, I’ll answer the question in this Series and in my eBook.

To stay connected with me and know when I’ve posted a new blog or published a new book, please do the following:

Leave your name and email address on the Sign Up form in the upper right corner of this website. I’ll send you a free copy of my eBook titled “Fire Up your Parental Engine!”
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You can connect with Sheila at the following sites:

amazon.com/author/sheilalyonhall

www.ParentingYourTeenforLife.com
www.facebook.com/parentingyourteenforlife

www.facebook.com/sheila.lyonhall

https://www.linkedin.com/in/sheila-lyonhall

https://twitter.com/SheilaLyonHall
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For the past several weeks, I’ve pointed out some of the Dangerous Games our teens and tweens participate in during Summer Break and at other times when they have less supervision and more free time to goof off. Chubby Bunny: Dangerous Game! is my last blog post about the popular but life-threatening “Games” our sons and daughters can get involved with during the summer when they are …

1. Looking for thrills … in all the wrong places
2. Suckered into … “I Dare You!” challenges
3. Curious about … how something “Feels”
4. Just plain BORED!

In any one of these four states of mind, a number of tweens and teens have turned to Chubby Bunny, a “Game” with a cute name … but like so many others – IS Dangerous!

Here’s the Chubby Bunny definition offered by IceBreakerIdeas.com, a website that provides “everything you ever wanted to know about icebreaker games and activities”:

“Chubby Bunny is a popular, fun game, frequently played by campers around a campfire. Players put an increasing number of marshmallows in their mouths and attempt to clearly and audibly say the phrase “Chubby Bunny”. The winner is the person who is able to say the phrase with the most marshmallows in his or her mouth.”

Chubby Bunny is Dangerous and Dumb!

If you watch The Doctors, America’s Medical Dream Team, you know they dispense life-saving educational information that their audience can rely on. The show is hosted by ER physician Dr. Travis Stork and co-hosted byplastic surgeon and reconstructive surgery expert Dr. Andrew Ordon. They are joined by other physicians who also share their expertise.

The Doctors agree that Chubby Bunny can cut off the air supply and induce “choking” in those who play the “Game”. They characterize the “Game” as Dangerous and Dumb! Here’s the link to the show and the video that explains the dangers of Chubby Bunny … in stark reality.

http://www.thedoctorstv.com/videos/chubby-bunny-dangers

Veil of Secrecy in Teen Culture

There is an unspoken “Veil of Secrecy” that overshadows certain areas of Teen Culture. As parents we know this is a fact that we must get savvy about. It is this “Veil of Secrecy” that prevents parents from knowing and understanding what their teens are doing and experiencing. How else can we explain the numbers of times a parent has been blindsided with inconceivable circumstances … such as life-threatening injury, drug addiction, “accidental” self-imposed death or suicide?

Call to Action!

Parents … I urge you to gather your sons and daughters and watch this Video. Then have a conversation with your tweens and teens about Chubby Bunny and all the other dangerous and life-threatening “Games” that so many young people are drawn to. These dangerous games are tagged “Crazy Fun” so most teens don’t have a clue about how really dangerous they are. “Curiosity, Peer Pressure and Wanting to Fit In” can spawn fatal decisions that they may not (or not easily) recover from!

It’s important that your sons and daughters know what you think about the “Games” … and have the wisdom that undergirds your opinion. In some cases, teenagers simply don’t have access to the whole truth … without their parents giving them “the good, the bad, the ugly and the deadly” about the “Games” … and the practices and behaviors they may be attracted to.

Don’t allow the “Veil of Secrecy” to prevent you from taking action to protect your son or daughter. Get savvy about Teen Culture and Stay Vigilant … so that you’re not caught off guard. If you’ve had an experience with any of the dangerous “Games” I’ve written about over the last few weeks, please leave a message in the Comment section below. Sharing your experience will increase awareness … and might save a life.

Parenting is an enormous challenge that requires all the “Helps” (seen and Unseen) that we can call on to protect, nurture, love and guide our sons and daughters in this life. Single parenting can be twice as hard. That’s why I’ve always welcomed access to The Network of Solidarity. The Network is a vital part of the Parenting Arsenal we need to protect our sons and daughters. When you finish reading this blog, click HERE to read about The Network of Solidarity.

As a divorced parent raising a teenager, I actively looked for relevant information and opportunities to involve certain Members of my Network of Solidarity. Equally important to me as a Believer, I relied on Divine Intervention that trusting in the GOD of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob provides. Not everyone reading my blog is Christian, but I believe most who come here have a spiritual practice of some kind. I encourage you to blend your Faith with your parenting skills … to enlarge your capacity to fully prepared and guide your teenager to his or her “Highest Good!”

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Here’s my official DARE:

I “D-Double Dare you” to leave me a message below!

Until next time … Hang In There!

Your Teenager is Worthy of all your Love and EXTRA Effort!

Shalom!

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Because the 2016 Fall School Year will be starting soon, I’m turning my attention to issues that continue to plague parents and their teenagers. Sleep Deprivation is a growing issue and can have devastating effects on the physical body, the learning process and the general health of our teens. Most parents agree that it’s a Serious Problem.

I’m currently working on an eBook that will feature the most recent medical and scientific facts about Sleep Deprivation in teenagers. I’ve written a number of articles that now appear on this website in the lower right corner, framed in Red and titled EzineArticles.com because that’s where they were first published.

I expect my upcoming eBook to be published in the Amazon Kindle Store by September 1. If you post a question about teen Sleep Deprivation in the Comment Box below, I’ll be sure to answer the question in my eBook.

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In many ways, parents of teenagers are all in the same boat. If you doubt me, keep reading.

We are approaching the mid-point of Summer Break. Some of you parents are feeling kinda “Blah!” about what your teenager has experienced so far. Most likely that’s because you’ve not taken Action on my earlier blog posts titled “Summer Break – Make It Count!” (Parts 1&2). Here’s a nudge in that direction:

http://www.parentingyourteenforlife.com/summer-break-make-count-part-1/

http://www.parentingyourteenforlife.com/summer-break-make-count-part-2/

Summer Break: Fads, Trends and Risky Behaviors

A little over a week ago, I promised to give you a list of some of the dangerous activities that teenagers are reportedly getting involved with during Summer Break. Even though many of these activities can result in life-threatening consequences … they are tagged “Games” to make them sound less threatening. Nothing could be further from the truth. These “Games” can be Deadly!

It’s important to keep in mind that many of these “Risky Behaviors” hide in plain sight and are made to look like the playful antics of fun-loving teenagers. It is for this reason that so many parents don’t have a clue about “the dark details surrounding the Choking Game!”

What Parents Should Do!

As you learn more about what’s really going on in Teen Culture, ask your teenager if any of their friends talk about or have tried the Choking Game. Educate yourself about the various “pass-out Games!” Talk with your son or daughter and share your learning process with him or her. Invite your teen’s friends over to learn what you’re teaching your son or daughter. Share information with the parents of your teen’s friends, spread the word in your community and with officials at your son or daughter’s school.

Do Not Panic … Be Aware and Vigilant!

The Choking Game

The Choking Game is NOT a Game. It is a potentially deadly “practice” or “technique” that allows tweens and teens to GET HIGH without taking drugs. The Game is “played” by intentionally cutting off oxygen to the brain with the goal of inducing temporary euphoria. The Game has been around for decades … and has developed a reputation for being a “Safe” way to get High. Teens justify getting their “non-Illegal-Drug” High by saying:

“At least I’m not doing Drugs!”

The Choking Game should be on the radar of every parent, along with abuse of drugs, alcohol and prescription medicine. Studies indicate that 75% of tweens and teens surveyed have heard of some form of “pass-out Game” … and that 20-32% admit to having participated in these activities. Unfortunately, 82% of those who admit their participation … reported that they were unaware of any danger involved with their activities.

How to “Play” the Choking Game

When learning the Choking Game, kids “play” in groups, one on one and by themselves. When not “playing” alone, at least two people are involved. One person cuts off the oxygen and blood flow to the brain of the other person by putting him or her in a choke hold. The desired effect can be achieved using a towel, belt, scarf or rope. The same result is also brought on by hyperventilating to the point of passing out. When pressure is released on the neck, blood and oxygen rush back to the brain … creating a “Euphoric High!”

Signs of Choking Game Activity

Here are some of the “Signs” that your tween or teen may be involved with the Choking Game:

◊ Locked doors

◊ Knots tied in the room

◊ Wear marks on bedposts, closet rods, etc.

◊ Any kind of strap, rope or belt lying by your child for no apparent reason

◊ “Thud” sounds, such as from falling from playing the game alone

◊ Internet use history (website, chat rooms, blogs, etc.)

Once tweens and teens believe they know how to Get High on the Choking Game on their own … they begin administering the strangulation techniques on themselves. This can result in death the first time these young people play the Game while alone. One such case gained national attention several years ago.

Erik Robinson … Victim of the “Choking Game!”

Erik Robinson was a 12 year old from Santa Monica, California … good kid, good student, good athlete and a proud Boy Scout. One of his friends taught him the Choking Game on the playground. The day after Erik learned the Game, he tried it on his own at home after school using his Boy Scout rope. His mom, Judy Rogg, came home and found her son dead in their living room. Judy’s life purpose soon became saving kids’ lives and keeping families from losing their children to the Choking Game and other “pass-out Games!

Erik’s Cause!

Erik’s Cause promotes skill-based education that teaches kids and families the dangers of “pass-out Activities”. Erik’s Cause also reinforces skills for kids to resist peer pressure as well as provide parents with ways to talk with their sons and daughters about the Choking Game.

I urge all parents to visit the amazing website that Judy Rogg and her team have put together for parents everywhere:

http://www.erikscause.org

While you’re at the website, be sure to read Judy’s compelling story about her son Erik and her work since his death. Check of the Resources and the Interactive Chart that shows thousands of “How to Play” videos that tweens and teens can easily access by searching a few of the popular names for the Choking Game. Finally, please sign the Petition calling on Congress to stem the Choking Game death toll on young lives!

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Here’s my official DARE:

I “D-Double Dare you” to leave me a message below!

Until next time … Hang In There!

Your Teenager is Worthy of all your Love and EXTRA Effort!

Shalom!

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You can connect with Sheila at the following sites:

amazon.com/author/sheilalyonhall

www.ParentingYourTeenforLife.com
www.facebook.com/parentingyourteenforlife

www.facebook.com/sheila.lyonhall
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