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When you give service to others not only are they blessed but your blessed too.
 
I have looked for but been unsuccessful in finding the positive in those situations, great to see someone has been able to. Worth remembering!
 
I remember people when I am both sad and happy. I think we all need people from time to time.
 
tnx but i don't wanna be a candle!!!
 
what about a candle that cannot be blown out ... EVER !!
 
Yes it's sad , I try not to be this way , we need to appreciate our friends there is never to many of them especially if they are you good friends . I'm lucky to say I have some of great friends they will do ant thing for me and I will do same for them .
 
I'll remember this next time someone wants to borrow money. -_-
 
thanks now i know what to think of every day of my life . :/
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Very well said...
Love the quote..
 
Here is a somewhat more rational perspective:

“Do not confuse "duty" with what other people expect of you; they are utterly different. Duty is a debt you owe to yourself to fulfill obligations you have assumed voluntarily. Paying that debt can entail anything from years of patient work to instant willingness to die. Difficult it may be, but the reward is self-respect.

But there is no reward at all for doing what other people expect of you, and to do so is not merely difficult, but impossible. It is easier to deal with a footpad than it is with the leech who wants "just a few minutes of your time, please—this won't take long." Time is your total capital, and the minutes of your life are painfully few. If you allow yourself to fall into the vice of agreeing to such requests, they quickly snowball to the point where these parasites will use up 100 percent of your time—and squawk for more!

So learn to say No—and to be rude about it when necessary. Otherwise you will not have time to carry out your duty, or to do your own work, and certainly no time for love and happiness. The termites will nibble away your life and leave none of it for you.

(This rule does not mean that you must not do a favor for a friend, or even a stranger. But let the choice be yours. Don't do it because it is "expected" of you.)”

― Robert A. Heinlein, Time Enough for Love
 
My friend whom I've been unable to connect for three past 5 years just called me to see if he could stay with me for a while; relationship problems. Thus angered me at first, but now I'm reconsidering.
 
+Brett Burton Well, all can say is, good luck with that. In the end, I suspect he will eventually move on (or you will kick him out), say "thanks" ... and you won't hear from again until the next time he's in trouble.

If a person is unwilling to make even a minimal effort to maintain a relationship, I submit that there isn't one.
 
I'm usually a contentious asshole, but I have no rebuttal for this one. It holds quite true.
 
that is very true and if people are like that then they can go get their head out of their a**!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Thank you.
Christ told us this: to be the light in the dark world.
 
And in the process, get melted and be gone for ever
 
This proverb hits home. Very powerful and convincing, thank you.
 
+Brett burton if it isn't gonna be an emotional burden after & you're indifferent towards that person, by all means why not? Be that candle..
 
i love thinking like that. so + (positive)
 
great advice i hope everyone sees the message your trying to give
 
It seems wise because it was written on a picture on the internet, but actually this is kind of bad.
 
feel privileged that your not good enough to be there real friend just someone to mooch off of you when they need lol
 
I can completly relate to that quote it's so true.
 
And it's hard to hold a candle, in the cold November rain. - Guns N' Roses.
 
+Sheila B. DuBois This is true ,but if you are only remembered in the darkness, it is not a good thing to happen, As I well know, being needed sometimes is not a good thing, but a darkness in your own life,
that overshadows the bright parts of their lives
 
This has so much to do with my PROBLEMS OMG 'Well readinq this brinqs baqk all tha BAD thinqss :(
 
its great thought but every time being like a candle is nt useful dear.......................
 
Sorry I don't know how to do all that +stuff, but my front door is always open; that policy has made me a doormat at times, yet I've never regretted it, and continue with this policy. I guess I do it out of love, and knowing that by making one person better off, I made a positive difference for the world.
 
it depends on your way of thinking lol
 
A candle spring brightness everywhere but alongside on its place there is darkness..........!!!
 
Its indeed a privilege pple comin 2 u in dia time of trouble...it really portray u as a problem solver&a solution giver. U r damn right
 
i allways say that!!i totally agree........
 
This is SO true TOO often...reminds me of this poster I had as a kid that I related with so well...it said "When I do good nobody ever remembers, when I do bad, nobody ever forgets." Same principle at work...Sad, but true.
 
JESUS, SAID, " I AM THE TRUTH, THE LIGHT, AND THE WAY. NO ONE COMES TO THE FATHER, EXCEPT BY ME." IF YOU ARE THE CANDLE THAT A FRIEND NEEDS TO LIGHT THEIR WORLD A RIGHT. GIVE IT STAYING POWER. DO IT IN THE LOVE OF, CHRIST JESUS. BLESSED BROTHER SIRVANTE.
 
Lol, he also said he came not to bring peace, but to bring a sword. To pit father against son, daughter against mother-in-law. Basically to divide us. That doesn't really sound like love to me...
 
nah if you only reach out to me when you're up to your neck, you'll find the phone will go to voice mail.loyalty has to go both ways..
 
Nice way to turn a potential negative into a positive. =)
 
actually its negative to negative
 
agree with Canadian Bud ! nice Thought and Its True!
 
Xo inspirational...'light up your candle.,show it 2 the darkness..,..'
 
The real sadness is that no one remembers you, even if they need your help.
 
I needed to read it that's how I truly feel 
 
feel great when people forget y they want u and levity
 
Okay, now I feel soo much better about myself. Thank you!
 
It's only for selfish reasons that we would feel "bad", especially when it's for being asked for help by someone.

I don't think one can take it to the extreme that they are being "used" for the simple reason that only you can allow that to happen, it's not done by the other person.
You make the choice to help or not, the statement in the picture merely shows that we can consider ourselves honored that another would look to us for help regardless of whether we're their first choice, or last.

Just my 2¢.
 
it also becomes a gd time for to know your value
 
good thought..
no no. ....!!!!!!! Great thought........
 
This isn't a universal rule, by any means. There are plenty of people in this world that thrive on taking advantage of others. Don't victimize yourself because your read something poetic on the Internet.

By the way... What the hell is going on with the spelling and grammar on this thread?
 
i would't help them any way
 
Right Now it is really bright.
I wish it would get dark soon
Im So alone right Now
 
That sounds like a horrible outlook on being a sycophant to exploitative people.
 
I must be a jumbo pack of candles then ; )
 
Yes, let people abuse their "friendship" status so you can be a candle.
 
That's a horrible saying. People who only remember you when they need you are simply using you.
 
it was so nice and optimistic, but it's impossible because i hate this type of people
 
IDK. People just use me 'cause I'm smart... They need me only when they are studying for exams. I, personally, do not feel like a candle LOL
 
sweet its nice that u remind us that
 
Don't forget what happens to a candle when there is no more wick to burn...

it gets thrown away
 
That's a nice way of looking at it. Thanks I need to hear that sometime's I feel like i am being taken for granted. :0)
 
I prefer to think of myself as an LED flashlight. Give me some fuel and I'll show you the way. Otherwise I'll just sit around and stare at the walls while you try to push my buttons.
 
That is how I try to think about it, it is great to feel needed. I do have to say it does get hard when you have too many people who need you and your flame starts to get smothered. Then you worry about those who are like moths and try to destroy themselves on you, thinking they are headed in the right direction by the light of the moon. It is good practice to keep this as a reminder, you are needed because you are worth being needed!
 
So inspired,reffers me to the Bible .Tnx
 
I'm proud to be the candle for those whom they live in darkness ,, on the other hand I will be stupid when I burn my self for those lives in bright . 
 
what if they 'never' seem to have me in mind?
I mean, i was not-invited, for the 5th consecutive general party.
Maybe they have a good reason....
 
I would have to say it varies widely on situation and history. More times then not, a friend who is only there when they need something from you, a true friendship is a 2 way street. Someone who avoids you when he/she isn't seeking a favor but comes to you when they need one, is usually a symptem of the person being a selfish person looking to have a favor done without indebting themselves to anyone they actually want to be around.
 
search dustin burch on youtube everybody :)
 
people do that to me all the time, and this is the way i've always felt. st least i know i'm not alone.
 
But the truth is GOD ALWAYS GIVES US LIGHT WHEN WE ARE IN THE DARKNESS....But the sad thing is people didn't remember HIM when the time of HAPPINESS....But still GOD always there for us.....
 
I feel sorry for women who are so indoctrinated that they worship a male patriarchical god.
 
Jovelyn Empanado are you a Christian? If you are than you are totally right, Go Christianity. God will remeber you. In Jesus name, Amen.
 
This made my day! been upset since lastweek I've been thinking and asking my self,(why do people use me? why do they loook for me when they're sad or have a problem or even when hey need somethin! Usually girls that I date take advantage of that and cheat on me cause they know they can get back with me anytime and its my fault for bbeing to nice. But thank you I know I can say that I've lighting many people on theeir darkness. 
 
More true than it seems, I asked myself, "Why do people come to me only when they need help?" Seems I've found my answer. Thank you whoever wrote this. :)
 
I really like that posting. It is so true.
 
nice....hey yh they do...they burn!!! :/
 
Thank you Sheila I honestly do! I remember one of me ex's told me at first your too nice don't let anyone or any take advantage of that not even me after three yrs that we were together she told me <remember the time I told you to not let any not even me to take advantage! well to bad you let your self and now its to late. It runs in my genetics my dads like that too.
 
I have to agree with a lot of the responses here... Even though you help others. Sometimes you have to help yourself..... You cannot let yourself burn out..... Because when you don't take care of you.... There won't be anything left to help others.
 
I never thought about it this way
 
That's a very nice way of looking at it
 
Wat does that mean? I have an exuse for asking that qestion:D lol
 
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That's pretty... I really like it
 
You really make me think about in a good way.☀thank's☀
Lija N
 
Cool ....i love being the candle
 
yeah i'm a lot of people's candles!
 
hmmmm...
didnt think of it that way :)
 
Being like a candle when their in darkness is ok, it's the being blown out and shoved back in the drawer without any thought of Appreciation that's Irritating.
 
i hope i don't burn them to death.
 
there is 7 billion people in the world don't let 1 ruin your day.
 
i agree thats how people rr
 
love this comment cause its soo true
 
thats cool i like that i want to hang it in my room lol
 
i think i will too lol!!! but i love to sing and i want to be notice!! anyone have advice??
 
100% SURE about the post
 
Yeah, feel like a candle that is always outshone if anything else is around.
 
sheila,that is absolutely truth,real.
 
+Bailey Norris  Wow thank you....... You went back to May for this?         that was a lot of More and More :)
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