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Sharlene Almond
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An author of historical/21st century psychological, international thrillers.
An author of historical/21st century psychological, international thrillers.

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Hi,

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Once a month I’ll send out a newsletter via email including updates about my novel and future novels, writing tips, lifestyle tips, using body language in writing and life. And I’ll include a Q&A at the end of the newsletter. People ask me questions about any of the above topics, and the following month I will answer a certain amount of questions.

I also encourage other authors and reviewer to make contributions as well. Any tips about writing, or what reviewers look for when choosing a book, and what they like about certain books.

As I’m studying Naturopathy Nutrition, I will be including tips and advice on that. And also answer any questions about this topic.

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Biography:

I’m an author and student living in Auckland, New Zealand. I’ve studied in a wide range of subjects; however, chose to concentrate on courses designed to learn more about the human psyche.
Having studied in Criminology and Neuro-Linguistic programming; in addition to completing a diploma course in body language, enables me to give an authentic feel to my characters, and the crimes committed. Because I’ve always been fascinated with human psychology, especially criminal psychology, I always include that element in every book I write.

I'm also a student studying Naturopathy Nutrition, and Body Language. Although I love writing, I am hoping to eventually start up my own business as a Complementary Health Therapist from home.

I have recently published a New Zealand travel E-book – Journey in Little Paradise, to inform travellers of what to expect when they come to New Zealand. And if you are interested in reviewing this as well, or instead, I can provide an E-book of your choice.
As an author of historical/21st century psychological, international thrillers, my books challenge readers to think beyond what they believe, as well as taking the reader on a journey throughout Europe and abroad.

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Thanks for your help in the past,

Regards,
Sharlene


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Check out my blog, and read a small sample of Initiated to Kill.
Initiated to Kill – A Psychological Thriller
Initiated to Kill – A Psychological Thriller
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Another review posted for Initiated to Kill on the Online Book Club.
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Unveiling the Mystery of Body Language – Article 3

Wielding your weapon with the general understanding of body language, can almost make you a mind-reader. So-called psychics use body language and facial expressions to allow them to get into the psyche of their client by making subtle suggestions, and watching the client’s reaction.
But body language can be used in a range of situations. Think about it. Perhaps you are at work negotiating a contract. Watch the people’s reactions when you talk about certain elements of the contract. Perhaps they react with anxiety – unconsciously biting their lip or shaking their head without them even realising they are doing it. The person’s jaw may clench, eyes slightly narrowed. All are signs that either they are anxious about the topic just discussed, or they disagree with it.
From this, you know that topic needs to be dealt with carefully in order to get what you want. In contrast, if an element of the contract seems to disinterest the other parties, then you may have the leeway to push a little harder with that area without opposition.
Remember though, if or when you decide to use these skills of observation, you need to make sure you do so from the beginning. The key in understanding another person’s body language is the change from their baseline. If you haven’t established the change from one expression to another, it will be very difficult to tell if their reaction is in context with what is being discussed, or something completely unrelated.

Influencing or Manipulating?
Learning and understanding body language can easily be misunderstood, along with Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Some may unfairly assume that both areas manipulate a person’s thinking, by using their skills to change or alter a person’s perception through suggestion techniques.
In some cases, that could be true. Both techniques combined make a powerful force to alter how a person thinks or feels. Merely by encouraging a person to stand straight, shoulders back, and relaxing tense muscles; can all contribute to changing how a person feels at that point in time. Linking that with NLP anchoring techniques, that person can literally feel better rapidly.
Being conscious of our own body language can be useful in a variety of situations. Whether it be in public speaking, wanting a roomful of people to listen to you. Becoming a newly, appointed boss, requiring you to appear confident. Or merely being in a social situation, and not wanting to appear out-of-place. Changing one’s body language to match what you want to feel puts out a message to others.
Even those that don’t understand body language, they can still pick up on low self-confidence. It is very rare for people to take notice of someone that slumps their shoulders, constantly looking down or away. Appearing confident dramatically changes another person’s perception, even if you don’t feel confident, concentrate on at least looking it. As the saying goes, ‘fake it until you make it’.
Even when we change our own body language, we can actually influence how another person perceives the situation.
Take the dating example again. The man/woman is clearly uncomfortable; their eyes dart around the restaurant, lips pursed, smile not going past the lips. What do you do? You want to make this person more comfortable to enable a better discussion to take place.
In order to revert their body language, you need to make sure you are displaying openness in yours. Give your date a genuine smile, allowing it to almost reach your ears. Body language should be open, arms wide, hands visible, body slightly forward to show you are interested in hearing what that person has to say.
This technique is very useful in two ways – one being the desired result. Your open body language encourages/influences the other person to be more comfortable with you, perhaps even mirroring your body language by giving you a genuine smile, opening up their body language like yours. Thus, automatically helping them relax more.
However, there is another reason to do this. And that is if the other person does not relax, if their smile remains fake, body language closed off, perhaps hands in their lap, eyes darting around, as though looking for an exit. You can pretty much tell this person has something to hide. Something is preventing them from properly relaxing with you.
Now, it may merely be they had a bad day, in which continually encouraging them to open up with you by keeping open body language may reveal that to be the case. Or simply they might not have interest in you. However, if the person continues throughout the date like this, not revealing much, but yet wants to see you again. There is a high likelihood they are indeed hiding something.
Remember, hidden hands can be a key to revealing that person is ‘hiding’ something else…
Body language and facial expressions are more than just tools in your toolkit of understanding someone. They are a means of changing perceptions, changing feelings; and ultimately, changing the influence you have on others.
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