Here is the problem as I see it. Part of religion is the understood responsibility to "help spread the word", whatever that word may be. I always take note that Christians come under assault for their views, but followers of Islam do not, though their views are orders of magnitude more extreme.
There is nothing in religion about "mind one's own business" because if that ever happened, there would quite soon be no practitioners. No religion survives without peer support or pressure. Left to our own devices, we generally tend to get over such belief systems and become better at living and let others live.
A "good" Christian or Muslim is going to share and try to persuade via their own devices. Members of belief systems are simply the majority, regardless of what many of us want to believe. It serves no purpose to attack these people, for their positions do not come from an evaluation of what these issues mean to them individually, but how their attitudes will be evaluated spiritually.
So the attacks, the "bible thumper" stuff, might make one feel better for the release of anger, but it is not going to persuade anyone, and will likely cause others to dig in and not listen. I am not a Christian, and when I evaluated the issue based on MY belief system, which favors the individual, I could not defend Marriage for some and not for all, regardless of gender or orientation.
The point is, any suggestion that disagreement on a point means that one side is less intelligent, less capable of reason, or does not deserve their own opinions serves only to divide, which is exactly how ineffective politicians cause us to vote knee-jerk for one party or another. When we can begin to address each issue for its individual impact upon us, without demonization of where one stands, we might actually see progress with respect to these rights.
I will remind each of you that Obama has been President for 4 years. His stance changed the day AFTER a poll (of likely voters, not registered voters) was released that shows that as of now, he simply cannot win. Anyone who believes that he had an epifany on the issue is sadly naive, but in keeping with what I said above, they are entitled to that view without coming under assault from me.
I was not always civil on this forum, something I greatly regret, but I am now, and I invite others to give it a chance.