I don't like the hashtag #rapegaze
Many people I otherwise get on with and think are pretty cool use it and I just don't understand why we make light of a matter such as this.
1 in 6 women in first world countries will experience rape or attempted rape at least once in their life. (1 in 4 women in the whole world) and I'd never forget the 1 in 30 men who will also find themselves in the same position.
It is believed 60% of sexual assaults go unrecorded and only 1 in 16 rapists see jail time.
Every time you make a joke about rape you make a joke about the people who have experienced it. You give them reason to not report it because it's just a fucking joke to you so it probably is to everyone else right? The fact that everyone jokes about it is the reason so many rapists walk freely. Because seemingly otherwise decent people think it's OK to trivialise it.
Think about the numbers a moment. One in six women. Do you have more than 6 women circled? If you asked a serious question for a show of hands from those in your circles you'd be surprised at those who raised their hands.
And those assaulted are usually done so by someone they know.
"Hey she was so drunk last weekend I managed to have sex with her, it was no big deal, perhaps I'll try it again next weekend."
I hope you or a loved one never finds themselves one of these statistics. A sister, a daughter even a son. Because surley you'll just laugh and ask them what their attackers face looked like. I've been present when someone I'm close to was trapped in a cubicle potentially moments from some kind of assault had I not got there when I did. I stared him in the eye and he didn't have some freaky grinning gaze. He looked quite normal.
I'm fine with a juvenile sense of humour, I can take it or leave it. But I'm sorry. This one is just wrong.
OH and this image shows what's happening in schools these days. Hope you enjoy the laugh at the thought of some girl who going to get plied with alcohol or maybe drugged and then sexually assaulted. Perhaps we could get her to take a photo of her attacker.
If you read this far thanks.
If you care to share, thanks again. Though it's unlikely for most of you because this is too grown up a subject.