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What are your rules for success? These are the guidelines that will help you get from where you are to where you want to be; without them your success is in jeopardy.

Les Brown, an international motivational speaker, has ten rules that will help you live your life on purpose. While I think those rules are necessary I want to focus on the most important item:

Rule #1. You Must Believe in Yourself.

That rule is the foundation and without it, all your other endeavors will fail.

The issue at hand is that the belief in yourself is in large part governed by Resistance. Steven Pressfield, the author of the War of Art, explains, “Most of us have two lives: the life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”

So Resistance is the invisible bogeyman that terrifies you into believing that you can’t do it. You can’t do it because you're not good enough. Or you can’t do it because who do you think you are? Unfortunately, will power alone is inefficient to claim victory over Resistance.

But the bogeyman can be managed. Your internal dialogue of “I am not good enough.” can be hushed to a whisper, but you will need a few tools.

Here are some questions that I use to manage my Resistance:

Will the consequences of this action increase or decrease my self-esteem?

That is perhaps that most important question you can ask yourself. Why, because it’s the tool that allows you to filter (out) those actions that will not help you build your belief in you.

If I video me for 24 hours 7 days a week would I hire myself or date myself?

This question is a compelling investigative question because if you would not date yourself or hire yourself, then why would anyone else. So make a list of what you need to do to date yourself or hire yourself.

And do that every day.

What are my bad habits and how do I change them?

Changing bad habits into healthy habits is critical to re-programming your mental state for success. Charles Duhigg, author of The Power Of Habit explains, “Rather, to change a habit, you must keep the old cue, and deliver the old reward, but insert a new routine.”

This strategy helps you to break a bad habit and form a healthy habit.

I hope that you can take these tools and use them with success. I have been using these questions, and they have allowed me to focus less on my internal dialogue and more on the vision of where I want to be.

http://www.ramonbnuezjr.com/blog/2016/9/13/you-must-believe-in-yourself

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What are your rules for success? These are the guidelines that will help you get from where you are to where you want to be; without them your success is in jeopardy. Les Brown, an international motivational speaker, has ten rules that will help you live your life on purpose. While I think those rules are necessary I want to focus on the most important item: Rule #1. You Must Believe in Yourself. That rule is the foundation and w...
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Leadership is often misunderstood as the fancy title that immediately follows your name. Unfortunately, titles have little value in identifying leadership. Why, because leadership cannot be awarded through a promotion, or inherited because there is a vacancy or won because of a good interview; it must be earned.

I have worn many fancy titles in my career that declared, “I am now your leader, follow me!” I unconsciously assimilated that leadership was about telling others what to do. I was fed an institutionalized lie that everyone is a replaceable part and that my job is to focus on maintaining the system; the status quo.

The institution is wrong so I am wrong, and painfully so.
In later years, I was taught that leadership has little to do with telling others what to do. Leadership with all its layers of complexities is based on one simple reality – influence.
John C. Maxwell, author of The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, explains that “The true measure of leadership is influence - nothing more, nothing less.”

Essentially, if you are unable to influence others you are no leader. Instead you are the boss, the overseer, the authority figure, or the top dog. Your subordinates follow you because they are paid to follow you. And because they are paid to follow you, they will also give you the least amount of effort.

Why, because people don’t like to follow people because they have to follow people.

This is in stark contrast to why team members follow a leader. When you are a leader, people follow you because they want to follow you. So what happened between being the boss and becoming a leader?

Well, simply put your team likes you. Why, because you have take the time to understand them as individuals:

- To understand their strengths.
- To understand how they perform.
- To understand how they learn.
- To understand what are their values.
- To understand how they can best contribute.
- To understand where in the team do they add the most value.

Why is understanding such an important verb, and let me be clear understanding is a verb, because its action. If you want to succeed as a leader then you must understand the actions you take to build relationships is foundational.
Why is the building of relationships foundational, because that gives you the permission to influence other people.

Your influence will continue to swell when leaders focus on these three traits:

- Listen well. Because they know they are not the smartest person in the room.
- Observe well. Because they are calculating when to add more value.
- Learn well. Because they know they cannot help others until they learn how to help others.

Now when you are performing at this level you being to add value to the company you are working for. You might even start contributing to the bottom line and that forces others to take notice.

They might begin to ask intelligent questions like, “Why does his team lead so well?” or “How does his team continue to ship.” or “Why does his team continue to solve interesting problems?”

You see these questions need answers so other leaders within the organization begin to seek you out. For all intents and purposes you have now become their tour guide and momentum builds; because people do what people see.

Your success as a relational leader depends on the relationships you craft with others and the value you add to a problem. And the most important item to remember is that you don’t need a fancy title to be a leader, you simply need the want to serve.

I am a freelance writer, who helps you solve interesting problems and lead well. I currently contribute to The Huffington Post, covering topics on leadership and personal achievement. For more info, catch me at ramonbnuezjr.com.

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You're an adult and you are responsible for your own happiness. I hear, too often, you speaking about being sad and you would be happy only if…

- You were in a better relationship.
- You had a better job.
- You had better friends.

I am going to be brutally honest with you, “No one but you can make you happy.”

This is the best advice I have ever received. And when you can come to terms with who is responsible for your happiness you can start living a life with less regret and more purpose.

I dare you to try being happy without any external stimuli. How? Simple, invest in yourself. For me it’s never being at the service of someone else’s agenda. And I have developed a plan to become that person.

Your life is a finite moment in time. So are you going sit there looking dejected or are you going to be responsible for your own happiness? From one recovering despondent to another the grass is much green on this side.

http://www.ramonbnuezjr.com/blog/2016/8/22/who-is-responsible-for-your-happiness

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You're an adult and you are responsible for your own happiness. I hear, too often, you speaking about being sad and you would be happy only if… * You were in a better relationship. * You had a better job. * You had better friends. I am going to be brutally honest with you, “No one but you can make you happy.” This is the best advice I have ever received. And when you can come to terms with who is responsible for your ...
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Stop trying to be successful. It’s a selfish act that leaves you a slave to the circumstance.

Instead, deliver value. Solve interesting problems. Lead well. But most importantly endeavor to become so valuable that you are never at the mercy of someone else's decisions.

http://www.ramonbnuezjr.com/blog/2016/8/20/the-value-of

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You are struggling to get the work done. The work that moves you one step closer to your goal of writing that book, or building that mobile application, or starting that company. It’s not that you are uninspired by the work, it’s quite the opposite; the work is your purpose.

But when you are about to put pen to paper, without fail, you procrastinate. There is always something seemingly more important than doing the work -- cleaning the house, paying the bill, researching the topic again or tell yourself “today I am too busy I will start tomorrow.”

Does that sound familiar to you? It does to me.

Author Steven Pressfield calls this insidious force of nature, Resistance.

In the authors own words, “Resistance is the most toxic force on the planet. It is the root of more unhappiness than poverty, disease, and erectile dysfunction. To yield to Resistance deforms our spirit. It stunts us and makes us less than we are and were born to be. If you believe in God (and I do), you must declare Resistance evil, for it prevents us from achieving the life God intended when He endowed each of us with our own unique genius.”

So how is Resistance defeated? Unfortunately, it cannot be defeated. Beaten. Or demoralized. Resistance is an ever present construct.

But you can learn to dance with the Resistance. You can listen to the arguments Resistance will employee, and allow them to have little effect on the work. If you are unable to master Resistance, then you are destined to live a life plagued with regret.

http://www.ramonbnuezjr.com/blog/2016/8/18/resistance-against-the-work

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You are struggling to get the work done. The work that moves you one step closer to your goal of writing that book, or building that mobile application, or starting that company. It’s not that you are uninspired by the work, it’s quite the opposite; the work is your purpose. But when you are about to put pen to paper, without fail, you procrastinate. There is always something seemingly more important than doing the work -- cleaning t...
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Who are you?

That is the question that short circuits your nervous system. It leaves you bewildered and frantically searching for a coherent response. Sadly, your anxiety launches a coup d'é·tat, and you proclaim with a fabricated confidence...

- I am a dad!
- I am a husband!
- I am a writer!
- I am Puerto Rican!

While the labels are familiar, they are nothing more than partial responses, a safe retort to an otherwise perplexing question -- “Who are you?”

So who am I?

This question has less to do with the familiar labels, but more to do with my purpose; the reason for which I exist. For me, who am I, is a tapestry of affirmative propositions -- A steadfast curiosity for human capital, that fuels by my passion to create my envisioned future and gives birth to the unquenchable thirst to help others achieve their potential.

That is who I am.

So I ask again, “Who are you?” If you are still stumped then allow me to suggest this to you, “Be in wonderment. Be the exception that seeks out something more. Disconnect from your daily responsibilities so you can allow yourself to dream.”

That exploration lays the ground for a fertile environment where you to experiment with your curiosities. To discard those ideas that no longer hold your interests, until you are left with that one thing that effectively empowers you to say “No” to everything else.

Why is that important, because you have come to the understanding that it is impossible to have it all. Strategically, you can manage your anxiety, quiet the inner dialogue, so you can begin to believe in your potential to take action on that one thing so you can finally say, “That is who I am.”

http://www.ramonbnuezjr.com/blog/2016/8/15/who-are-you

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Who are you? That is the question that short circuits your nervous system. It leaves you bewildered and frantically searching for a coherent response. Sadly, your anxiety launches a coup d'é·tat, and you proclaim with a fabricated confidence... * I am a dad! * I am a husband! * I am a writer! * I am Puerto Rican! While the labels are familiar, they are nothing more than partial responses, a safe retort to an ot...
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“Do you feel that your conversations with others are pedestrian? Or perhaps the conversation originates with some exciting possibilities but then it quickly devolves into, “The weather has been crazy these last few days.”

Lately, I have been finding it difficult to maintain conversations of value with others. Yes, I am fully aware that not every conversation will develop into an intellectual orgasm, but my most recent conversations have left me feeling rather impotent.

So I began to ask myself:

- Is it me?
- Is it them?
- Or is it the question?

I opted to ask better questions hoping they would lead to an improvement in the conversation. I found two excellent questions on A Learning A Day:

- Question 1: What have been among your biggest learnings since we last caught up?
- Question 2: What are the decisions you are struggling with and how can I help?

I have been experimenting with these questions; modifying them per circumstance. On average, the results have been rather anemic and being met with blank stares. And I found myself quickly defaulting to “The weather has been crazy these last few days.”

But when the questions are responded too there is an orgasmic evolution of the conversation. A mind-melding experience that takes an otherwise vanilla exchange of words and transforms the trafficking of ideas into a hypnotic dialogue.

So why are some people dazed into being unable to answer the questions? Simple... the ability to search for your possibilities has been placed into a catatonic state.

Instead of sleepwalking through life, free yourself or as Albert Camus explains, “Life should be lived to the point of tears.”

You must be willing to lose yourself in the experience. But how do restart your cathartic journey... by listing your curiosities, experimenting with you passions and living your purpose to the point when you are solving interesting problems.

Simply defined as awaken the seeker within you.

http://www.ramonbnuezjr.com/blog/2016/9/5/asking-the-better-question

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Do you feel that your conversations with others are pedestrian? Or perhaps the conversation originates with some exciting possibilities but then it quickly devolves into, “The weather has been crazy these last few days.” Lately, I have been finding it difficult to maintain conversations of value with others. Yes, I am fully aware that not every conversation will develop into an intellectual orgasm, but my most recent conversations have...
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I was having lunch with a good friend, let’s call him John.

John explained that he is practicing gratitude over expectation. John expressed ever since he turned that practice into a habit; John has been happier, laser focused and deliberate about his actions.

After lunch I began to think, have I been grateful? The better question is, "Have you been practicing gratitude?"

You see expectation is a supposition that something will happen or be the case in the future. And when that future ”thing” does not materialize, as expected, you become upset. You might even carry that anger with you throughout the day and unconsciously be mean to your wife, your kids or a team member.

Admittedly, I have allowed my expectations to get the better of me. Have you?

Research by UC Davis psychologist Robert Emmons, author of Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, explains that keeping a gratitude journal and habitually writing reflections on moments for which we’re thankful can increase your well-being and life satisfaction.

I journal sporadically, but I am focusing on making it part of my daily habit.

I like using DayOne for the MAC and iOS; it’s clean and straightforward. But you can also use a notebook or whatever you like to use for journaling. The medium does not matter it’s the act of, that matters most.

A massive component of the value you add to your life, and the lives of others is based on your emotional health. So do you want to subscribe to a life of unregulated emotions? Or would you rather be mindful of your feelings and correct your state before it adversely affects your decisions?

http://www.ramonbnuezjr.com/blog/2016/8/23/why-i-practice-gratitude-and-you-should-too

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I was having lunch with a good friend, let’s call him John. John explained that he is practicing gratitude over expectation. John expressed ever since he turned that practice into a habit; John has been happier, laser focused and deliberate about his actions. After lunch I began to think, have I been grateful? The better question is, "Have you been practicing gratitude?" You see expectation is a supposition that something will happ...
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Tony Robbins, a motivational speaker, explains that your anxiety is the reason why you subscribe to an average life.

Do you agree? I do.

Why, because my anxiety kept me shackled while it fed me a steady diet of “I am not good enough. and over seasoned it with “Who do you think you are?”

So because I did not believe I had the potential, I took little action, and I gave birth to pathetic results. This shit became a self-fulling prophecy, and my life became nothing more than a psychedelic journey rooted in lottery dreams.

Robbins explains that the problem with living an average life is that you are thinking within the box. And because of your limited vision, you believe that you have no potential, so you take no action, so you get no results.

What if you thought outside the box or at the very least at the fringes of the box? What if you accepted without equivocation that you have the results you want? Then you would believe that you have the potential to take massive action.

Do you think that new mindset would help you move one step closer to your goal? Yes.

Try it. You can use strategies such as meditation, visualization or incantations. I rely on the ideal day exercise it’s a powerful tool that can reprogram you mind for success.

Living your life on purpose is hard but well worth the spoils of the journey. The alternative is you sitting in your comfortable chair at 90 years old looking back on your life with regret.

So the choice is yours. By the way… the choice has always been yours.

http://www.ramonbnuezjr.com/blog/2016/8/21/how-to-master-your-anxiety

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Tony Robbins, a motivational speaker, explains that your anxiety is the reason why you subscribe to an average life. Do you agree? I do. Why, because my anxiety kept me shackled while it fed me a steady diet of “I am not good enough. and over seasoned it with “Who do you think you are?” So because I did not believe I had the potential, I took little action, and I gave birth to pathetic results. This shit became a self-fulling pro...
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Persistently you are callously disarmed by negative words and disempowering conversations. You allow these experiences to dissuade from the work and reinforce the belief that you are nothing more that a cog.

You are wrong to allow the narrative to discourage you.

Why, because I was you. What makes us different today? I took an active role in reprogramming my mind, so I no longer gave in to the negative words and disempowering conversations.

I stole this system from author Brendon Burchard:
Develop five questions that you can ask yourself every morning, noon and night. These questions are designed to help reprogram your mind for positivity:

1. How am I feeling right now?
2. Who have I helped today?
3. Am I taking care of my health?
4. Is this work in line with my mission?

Develop 3 words that describe your ideal self, for example:

1. Confident
2. Fearless
3. Leader

What I do next is set an alarm on my iPhone. Each time the alarm sounds I read those five questions and the three words. This system has helped me not only to think positively but dance with my anxiety.

This system combined with your actions is what recondition your mind for success.

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Persistently you are callously disarmed by negative words and disempowering conversations. You allow these experiences to dissuade from the work and reinforce the belief that you are nothing more that a cog. You are wrong to allow the narrative to discourage you. Why, because I was you. What makes us different today? I took an active role in reprogramming my mind, so I no longer gave in to the negative words and disempowering convers...
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Do you seek to understand profoundly, to push back the darkness of conformity, to trudge through the anticlimax only to be in awe of your ontological relationships; the connections between you, your mental events and the world as it is; not as you want it to be?

I do. I took the red pill and followed Morpheus down the rabbit hole. I chose to no longer be blissfully ignorant and prescribe to a life that author Chris Guillebeau calls, the ”unremarkably average:”

1. Accept what people tell you at face value.
2. Don’t question authority.
3. Go to college because you’re supposed to, not because you want to learn something.
4. Go overseas once or twice in your life, to somewhere safe like England.
5. Don’t try to learn another language; everyone else will eventually learn English.

And I need to add two more important items:

6. When asked for help outside your area of responsibility, you say “It’s not my job.”
7. Treat change as the enemy combatant and selfishly protect the status quo.

“Who would live such a life,” you ask? The answer is trivial -- you.

Your life is the Matrix, a carefully orchestrated world, designed to keep you blissfully ignorant but strictly in compliance. You’re the mutt in Pavlov’s experiment, and the reward for your compliance is the white picket fence dream. You know the dream -- a fully detached house, two cars, 2.5 kids, one dog, and most importantly, your white picket fence.

But the truth of the matter is that you are nothing more than a replaceable battery, an inexpensive storage cell of energy, in the vast industrial complex.

So what can you do to break the cycle of generational enslavement? You must take the red pill. You must decide that the life of the unremarkably average is unacceptable. And you must redefine what do you want to get out of your life.

Do you seek to understand profoundly, to push back the darkness of conformity, to trudge through the anticlimax only to be in awe of your ontological relationships; the connections between you, your mental events and the world as it is; not as you want it to be? I do. I took the red pill and followed Morpheus down the rabbit hole. I chose to no longer be blissfully ignorant and prescribe to a life that author Chris Guillebeau calls, ...
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Are you scared to fail? Why?

I know that part of your self-limiting belief is your current narrative, “I am just not good enough.” But what is the other half of your story? Better question, “Who are you scared to fail in front of?”

I am scared of failing in front of you. The anxiety is crippling and imprisons me to operate, exclusively, within my comfort zone. Not only is my internal dialogue stuck on, “I am just not good enough.” but there is a chorus of, “Who do you think you are?” that I hear from you.

That mixture of words is the dream killer.

What’s the solution? Tony Robbins, a motivational speaker, believes for you to overcome your fears, you need either inspiration or desperation. You either need to be inspired to overcome your fear of failure or desperate to overcome your self-fulfilling narrative.

Today, more than another time in human history, you have access to the tools that can help you build your envisioned future. You don’t need permission from others to start building. All you need is to give yourself the permission to fail and not allow that failure to crush the second chance.

http://www.ramonbnuezjr.com/blog/2016/8/14/scared-of-failing-you

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Are you scared to fail? Why? I know that part of your self-limiting belief is your current narrative, “I am just not good enough.” But what is the other half of your story? Better question, “Who are you scared to fail in front of?” I am scared of failing in front of you. The anxiety is crippling and imprisons me to operate, exclusively, within my comfort zone. Not only is my internal dialogue stuck on, “I am just not good enough.” b...
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Ramon B. Nuez Jr. is a freelance writer who develops high-quality content for businesses. He has worked with many well-known brands and publications including Western Digital, the World Wide Web Foundation and the Huffington Post.

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