let be honest here, sometimes you really
enable forgive people because they
a)have something you want
b)they provide either income/ financial support, protection, sexual satisfaction ...etc etc
c) your too lazy to kick them the hell out of your life and put up with their shit and make yourself feel better by telling yourself you "choose" to let them stay and you "forgive" them when all your really doing is firmly planting your head in the sand.