More and more often, I have days where I'm just fucking tired of reddit's shit. I think it's because I've slowly drifted away from core hivemind philosophy, despite being an atheist straight white guy (with a literal neckbeard). It's like when you've kinda grown up past your friends, but you can never really move on, because you're still hanging out with the same people, you're just snootier and less satisfied about it.
I'm not sure whether there is a social media network (or framework) that is able to subvert the trap of people reacting according to the following checklist:
1. Determine what labels are applicable to person.
2. Use those labels to quickly summarize that person's entire identity and determine friend or foe.
3. React almost entirely based on the tuple of (topic, is_friend).
So maybe I'm just picky enough now that no online social group will not grate on me. I'm at a point in my life where my opinions are still a big soup of ideas that sometimes contradict, and I've always been able to see issues from too many sides not to have empathy, so there's really no environment where I can just glide frictionlessly by agreeing with everyone who's already there. I'm also at the point where I really want to support a platform that supports complex personal opinions and civil disagreement.
In the end, it's hard to say where the line of responsibility lies between the community and the software. While the software can steer the way the community reacts, 4chan is basically the same as any other image board under the hood, it's the people that make it notable (in good or bad ways, depending on the phase of the moon, and he who incites the loudest lulz).
This isn't really a call to action, or a big personal statement that I'm dropping out of any social network. Just a bit of good old-fashioned frustration venting. In the end, you can never expect perfection from anything - you just have to decide which level of imperfection you can put up with.