Are we finding new ways to say old, polite phrases? Are good manners merely morphing? Or are they fading away altogether?
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- I am finding a very disturbing trend. Being polite, I often hold the door open for people to go through, only to find people entering without thanking me...it's as if they feel entitled to having the door being held open just for them!Mar 15, 2012
- Does anyone know where I can pick up a pair of those awesome rose colored glasses so many people in this thread are sporting?Mar 15, 2012
- , well said and right on... The words that are spoken don't matter in the slightest. The meaning behind the words do. When I speak to people I don't know I say "please" and "thank you." When I speak to family and loved ones I say things like "no problem," or "yup." When I feel emotionally connected to someone I don't know and I've done them a service and they thank me, I almost invariably say "for sure."
Regardless of what I say, the tone and delivery are what are heard. The only people I've encountered in my life that have any problem with me not using the words "please" and "thank you" in my life have been ignorant jerks. That seems to come out of nowhere in this discussion, I realize, but it's true. The only people in my life that have really cared about those words being said to them were ignorant and rude people that I didn't care to associate with. I'm not making the leap in logic to say "all people who care about those words are ignorant jerks;" I'm merely making the observation. My point would be that I think most people just don't care about the actual choice of words, just in the intention, tone and delivery of them.
I too have worked in the service industry, and one thing I learned about politeness is: It's mostly a waste of time. I preferred to do my job efficiently and save my "nice" for people that seemed like they needed it.Mar 16, 2012
- manners evolve, always have always will...they are culturally specific as well. I will not mourn the passing of words people feel inclined so speak out of propriety. Being thankful and demonstrate gratitude by one's actions is far better....Mar 16, 2012
- I think they can be both; the kinder your words the kinder you feel to others which follows to actions-the pinnacle in need being feeding & clothing our young.Mar 18, 2012
- Being civil matters, it confuses the young, and gives smiles to the not young.
It creates the human in "human being"; It can tell if one has "education" or can be "acceptable".
Not having civility is pandemic in the US to the point of most non US citizenry can tell if they are encountering one who is…NOT in a good way.
Test: try to be civil one day, and see what confusion and odd responses received.
Does "ugly american" come to mind?Mar 19, 2012