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Take This Dr. Eagleman!

As some of you know, I've been studying theories of narrative influence on behavior. Dr. Eagleman wrote a great paper for The Atlantic recently saying, essentially, that we have no moral culpability because the brain acts as it will, out of our control. It's a fascinating idea but then if you have kids, you immediately realize they start out maybe with no control, but then you "shape" their behavior every which way you can so they can enjoy their lives. My entire view of morality changed once I had children. One of the most important areas that is coming back in fashion (and, oddly, +Leland LeCuyer and I have been discussing this very thing for months) is the importance of habit to a good life. A new book recommended by +Fareed Zakaria last Sunday is "Habit." I cannot wait to read it. (+David Eagleman 's new book is "Incognito" ( and Fareed's recommended book "Habit" by Duhigg is here:
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Makes sense to me. I have always believed in the 'walk a mile in another man's shoes' theory of moral development.
+Jeff Jockisch It seems that moral values are being set aside in favor of greed ( not in all cases but enough) where the parent is so engrossed in making money that it encompasses all thoughts and actions and is being passed on to their children
+Firoze Shakir I look forward to his show so much! His questions are always so informed and the people he interviews are often so intelligent! I never miss his show. I usually read every book he recommends (but I could not finish "China" by Kissinger because it is WAY too long!)

It is so cool that you know his history! In the U.S. he's on too early in the day for me to think about deep questions so I tape it and watch in the late afternoon (my "deep" brain kicks in around 4 p.m. ;')). I often take notes. I feel as though he has the best commentary of anyone in the TV world. His essays are also often brilliant and cut through the baloney. I consider him my guru!
+William Johnston This is a question I brought up many years ago (in the late sixties, early seventies) to women at my college(s), are we CERTAIN that it is possible to have a profession and be a good mother? The jury is still out. I stayed home for nine years. My children seem to have developed a good moral compass. But their father always came home at 5 p.m. and spent oodles of time with them. We ate dinner together. It was pretty simple, but, apparently, rare nowadays, so you might be right.
+Firoze Shakir One of my favorite sayings is When the learner seeks, the teacher will appear. Blessings be upon you and your family.
+Jeff Jockisch I think I already told you this story. (You need to know that I have very big feet and can never find shoes that fit properly; and was in da agony of da feet (;') quite often.) OK, when I was in about sixth grade, I envied a girl in the neighborhood. My mother and I were driving past her house and I spoke my envy out loud. "I wish I could be Karen," I said. "She's got such great clothes and is so smart." My mother paused a second and said, "Honey, if you were Karen, you'd have to walk in her shoes." I took her literally. The pain that I felt vicariously through her advice was enough for me to "get" the lesson (;')). And I never wanted to be anyone else ever again. ;') Not exactly where you were headed, I know. But funny.
+Meg Tufano Yes you can be a good working Mother...Problems arise when the mother cares more about her job(position in the work place ) than she does about her family and men are no different..
Kid's today are given to much and not have to lift a finger to get it ..
Most have no work ethic or moral standings on what is proper and what is not.....
+William Johnston Our kids had jobs from when they were nine years old and we did our best not to let them get spoiled. They had to save up for what they wanted. But all bets were off for Christmas: we went insane and loved every minute of it. Then? Back to normal. I think there is a lot in the make-up (genetic, physical, etc.) of each person that ––even with the same "input"––similar environments, our two children could not be more different. Both are responsible, but one could survive with five dollars and a paper bag; the other could have millions and always be in need. I suspect it is disposition (which is a heritable trait).
+Meg Tufano We to had jobs as we grew up as we worked on a ranch/farm and had to work for our money. I have four kids and each is different in their own way ,but they also have a good work ethics that helps them now in life..If we could not afford to buy something we made it.. and I am one that likes to spend money but it doesn't bother me if I don't have money.... I learned to live off the land a long time ago and in a lot of places that I go money is worthless anyway..
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