The "you're a winner if you try" approach to raising kids sounds great on paper, but it side-steps the harsh yet CRUCIAL truth: when a child loses, they need to KNOW that they've lost. I know, that sounds brutal. But it is possibly the most important lesson a person will ever learn. You have to teach them EARLY that there are going to be times when they lose. Not "there will be times when you're not #1," not "there will be times when you don't get the biggest trophy" they need to learn "there will be times when you LOSE." When you FAIL. When you fall flat on your face. Because that's how life works. At some point, EVERYONE is going to fail, and fail hard. And they're going to fail hard.
So, you've got two choices: you can have them start learning that lesson when it's a soccer game, and the result of said failure is that they don't go on to regionals, or they can learn that lesson when they don't get a job and the result is not knowing where they're going to get the money to live. And I'll tell you right now, if you chose the latter? If their first taste of real, true failure is when everything is riding on success, and they've not developed the skills to cope? If their entire lives, the only thing they've known of failure is "don't worry about it, as long as you tried, you get a trophy" and now they're being told "you tried your damnedest, but effort alone won't get you this job?"
That's a tough pill to swallow.
As parents, people want to shield their children from pain. That's totally understandable. No one wants to see their loved ones hurt. You kiss the boo-boos when they fall down and you do everything you can to make sure they have every opportunity as they grow. That's what good parents do. But you also make them get shots and swallow bad-tasting medicine and (HOPEFULLY) eat their veggies instead of giving them Capn' Crunch for dinner. Because you know that sometimes you have to do what's best for them, even if you know it will make them unhappy. Well, teaching them how to lose - and how to HANDLE losing, how to get back UP when they fall on their face - is just another plate of veggies. Failure and loss are VITAL teaching opportunities. For the good of your kids, don't pass them up. #parenting
Now, all that being said?
“Instead of controlling guns and inconveniencing those who would use them, we are rounding up and silencing a generation of schoolchildren, and terrifying those who care for them. We are giving away precious time to teach and learn while we cower in fear .”
Makes me mad. It’s gross over-simplification. And worse, it politicizes a tragedy to push an agenda that doesn’t really even apply to this situation.
He pontificates on the theoretical shooter’s “effortlessly obtained XM15-E2S rifle” while talking about the poor children and drawing on the emotional impact of that thought.
But here’s the rub. Let’s say, for a moment, that we instituted strict gun control tomorrow. Let’s say we adopted the same level of gun control Canada has. In fact, juuuust for the sake of discussion, let’s say we banned everything bigger and more lethal than a hand gun. IN FACT, let’s even go so far as to say we found a magical way to, in one swipe of a pen, passed such a law, AND simultaneously called in every single gun in this country that violated that law. Instantly. All gone.
Even with those laws in place, a man with no criminal background and no history of mental illness, who decided he wanted to do this? Who made a pre-meditated decision to go on a rampage? He could still purchase 2 9mm GLOC hand guns. Each of which come STANDARD with 2 15-round magazines, replaceable with 22-round magazines. That’s 44 rounds. The killer in Oregon? Killed 9 people. By my math, that’s almost 5 shots per person, who are being shot at point-blank range.
In short? Common-sense gun control is important. There are good, logical, fair, RESPONSIBLE reasons for that. But pretending that having such laws in place would put a stop to things like this? It’s not only illogical, it’s WRONG. It’s monstrously irresponsible. Because every time we turn a tragedy like this into nothing more than a reason for gun control, we are throwing away an opportunity to discuss mental health and what is actually DRIVING these people to do these things. Because THAT is the problem. THAT is what needs to be addressed – the WHY, not the HOW. A man who is determined to kill? He’s going to kill. The only way to totally stop shootings would be to impose a 100% gun BAN; which is not only rare in this day and age in ANY western nation, the logistics of it in a country with as many existing firearms of mine would be an utter impossibility.
So yes, we can, as the article’s writer says “control guns and inconvenience those who would use them” or we could address the source of the problem.
Then why can't you name a single reason?
There's a place for them and people fill their need with them
Yes, there is a place for them. It's called military and law enforcement. "I sometimes miss when I'm hunting" is a need for practice and training, not for assault weapons.
Other people want them
So what? People want a lot of things. "Cuz I want one" is not a valid reason for civilian to have weapons designed to efficiently kills as many people as possible.
and should be able to have them if they want. Period
Why? Why should civilians be allowed to have such lethal weaponry when they have no need for them?
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