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Positive and Negative Adoption Language: Who is Making the Rules?
I came across this list on my Facebook feed today, and felt really compelled to write about it.  I will admit that I generally do not read adoptive parent blogs (with one exception being this one ) and I also do not take part in adoptee support groups where...
I came across this list on my Facebook feed today, and felt really compelled to write about it.  I will admit that I generally do not read adoptive parent blogs (with one exception being this one) and I also do not take part ...
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An Open Letter to My Birth Father
Dear Julio: I have never taken the time to write you a letter expressing to you how I feel.  I have been actively searching for you for at least a decade now, and my search has taken me around twists and turns -- to shocking information and to mysteries tha...
Dear Julio: I have never taken the time to write you a letter expressing to you how I feel.  I have been actively searching for you for at least a decade now, and my search has taken me around twists and turns -- to shocking ...
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Narcissism and Adoption -- Very Likely Bedfellows
A pattern I have noticed when speaking with my fellow adoptees is how narcissism (narcissistic parents or just narcissistic thinking) can easily creep into adoption.  In fact, the adoption system is a minefield of narcissistic thinking. What are you talking...
A pattern I have noticed when speaking with my fellow adoptees is how narcissism (narcissistic parents or just narcissistic thinking) can easily creep into adoption.  In fact, the adoption system is a minefield of narcissisti...
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Well now! very interesting! but a one-sided perspective! Narcissism is not limited to one kind of personality or situation.
You state here that ....Narcissistic people and systems project an unreal idea of who you are on to you based on their own wants and needs...
From my understand...this applies to anyone! But, staying with adoptees... and adoption...I know that it was NOT JUST the adopted parents but the ADOPTED child THAT CAN became the narcissistic!
A really good narcissistic adoptee is excellent at PROJECTING on to EVERYONE. Your list proves that it can apply to anyone! And let's face it...much of behavior is LEARNED BEHAVIOR.
I am NOT narcissistic because I was not taught it. If the shoe fits...please wear it. And you know it's not always about the 'adoptee'..
In any event, great article!
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But What About Your Real Parents?
I was at a graduation party last weekend for a very dear friend's 18 year old daughter.  A very bittersweet occasion as this particular friend (her mother) passed away in 2006 of cancer, just a couple months before I found my birth mother. Another friend wh...
I was at a graduation party last weekend for a very dear friend's 18 year old daughter.  A very bittersweet occasion as this particular friend (her mother) passed away in 2006 of cancer, just a couple months before I found my...
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Hi Bob! Thanks for your viewpoint.  I've often wondered if sometimes these things are more a female issue.  My husband and I have talked at length about so many of the conversations that I end up having with other females.  He just doesn't get the same kinds of questions from men or women!  I can't explain it at all!  

Closed and sealed are a much bigger deal than "real" -- I agree with you!

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Raise Your Hand if You are Adopted
As I was sitting in church on Mother's Day, I was hoping for a great mom-parable or just something "light" and "happy" to celebrate this day -- a day where I actually wore high heals and a dress (rare!) to church.  Sitting next to my daughter in our pew wit...
As I was sitting in church on Mother's Day, I was hoping for a great mom-parable or just something "light" and "happy" to celebrate this day -- a day where I actually wore high heals and a dress (rare!) to church.  Sitting ne...
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Another interesting post, thank you.

Such ignorance is prevalent in our general populous, but that fact doesn't excuse the social faux pax of your pastor. As an accomplished leader/public speaker, one would hope his deliveries get reviewed for social acceptance. But as you noted, we adoptees are an extreme minority, so where does one turn for proper guidance on this topic?

Truth is, they don't seek it. We have to deliver it to them, directly or passively with efforts like #flipthescript. You wrote this post for you, or perhaps even for us. Maybe some more writing is needed, for him, in letter form?


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Positive and Negative Adoption Language: Who is Making the Rules?
I came across this list on my Facebook feed today, and felt really compelled to write about it.  I will admit that I generally do not read adoptive parent blogs (with one exception being this one ) and I also do not take part in adoptee support groups where...
I came across this list on my Facebook feed today, and felt really compelled to write about it.  I will admit that I generally do not read adoptive parent blogs (with one exception being this one) and I also do not take part ...
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Six new adoption books (with one to give away) from adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents, spanning memoir to nonfiction to fiction. Which needs to be on your shelf?

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Six new adoption books from adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents, spanning memoir to nonfiction to fiction. Which needs to be on your shelf?
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Spike of My Little Pony -- an Adoptee in Search of His Roots
Top (Rainbow Dash), middle left (Rarity), (Twilight), (Applejack), (Pinkie Pie), front (Fluttershy and Spike) In honor of Trotcon 2015 that was held this past weekend in Columbus, Ohio, my daughter (a HUGE fan of the show) gave me the idea of writing about ...
Top (Rainbow Dash), middle left (Rarity), (Twilight), (Applejack), (Pinkie Pie), front (Fluttershy and Spike) In honor of Trotcon 2015 that was held this past weekend in Columbus, Ohio, my daughter (a HUGE fan of the show) ga...
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An Open Letter to My Birth Father
Dear Julio: I have never taken the time to write you a letter expressing to you how I feel.  I have been actively searching for you for at least a decade now, and my search has taken me around twists and turns -- to shocking information and to mysteries tha...
Dear Julio: I have never taken the time to write you a letter expressing to you how I feel.  I have been actively searching for you for at least a decade now, and my search has taken me around twists and turns -- to shocking ...
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The Hazards of Adoption Reunion
Adoption Reunion is a goal for many adoptees and in conversations with hundreds of other adoptees, I have learned that for many of us, once we make the decision to search, we tend to dive in head first without realizing the pitfalls and hazards of adoption ...
Adoption Reunion is a goal for many adoptees and in conversations with hundreds of other adoptees, I have learned that for many of us, once we make the decision to search, we tend to dive in head first without realizing the p...
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Proud to be living in Ohio!
As a proud Ohioan, it brought me great joy to be able to stand beside my fellow Ohio adoptees this past weekend in celebration of the unsealing of adoptees' adoption files and original birth certificates for those adopted bet...
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Willing to help OH adoptees with OBC's find their birth families. Been doing search angel work for 20 years, and it's much easier once we have a name. No charges or games, just reach out via my G+ page.
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The Hazards of Adoption Reunion
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Adoption Reunion is a goal for many adoptees and in conversations with hundreds of other adoptees, I have learned that for many of us, once

Re-Post: Twelve Things You Can Do to Make Sure Your Adoption is Ethical
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* I posted this a year ago, right after I watched Beasts of the Southern Wild. The film made me think a lot about the ethics of imposed help

Adoptee Rights Coalition
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Your rights, your demonstration.

Adoptee Rights Coalition: Adoptee Rights Coalition Statement on Search, ...
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As U.S. adoption culture shifts to be more accepting and understanding of searching adoptees, the faces of those looking for lost family con

The National Council for Adoption:MOTHERS, MONEY, MARKETING, & MADNE...
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The NCFA promotes adoption and that promotion is benefitting the adoption agencies. They are a lobby group, pure and simple, bought and paid

Hell Freezes Over: Ohio Right to Life Supports OBC Access, March 6, 2013
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Hell froze over last Wednesday (March 6, 2013) when Ohio Right to Life, dropped its decades long opposition to OBC access and testified befo

The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck
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Ok, I have a confession to make. I have spent almost my whole life– 31 years– caring far too much about offending people, worrying if I’m co

Adoption Movie Guide: Identity Thief
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Who are you? And how do you know? Sandy Patterson is a responsible accountant. He lives in Denver, pays his bills and supports his wife and

Love Is Not a Pie: Five Survival Tips for Adoption Reunion
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1) Find appropriate outlets for your "adoption crazy." Adoption reunions can bring out the nutty in the best of us. Adoptees and first paren