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While I agree with you about the need of role models but I do believe that there are some men that are so "comfortable" with their anger that they feel it is their only defense. I like the idea of telling a story. There is much to learn through storytelling.Aug 11, 2013
- Would like your take on our discussionAug 11, 2013
- Thank youfor including me in the conversation.Aug 11, 2013
- I know for some the knee jerk reaction to this would be a flurry of "unfollows" (I just retweeted this on Twitter) and banishment from Circles, or "you don't really understand what we black men go through." But really the issue of anger in men is a real one, even more so in black men. That said I think it's important that we individually can be responsible for our anger and how we respond to the maligning of our group character.
As an black man I can truly say I've felt the fustration, anger and utter sadness at:
1.) The perpetual stereotyping of who they think I am
2.) My own brothers perpetuating that stereotype by responding incorrectly with many times even more violence.
How we respond to this kind of injustice is just as important as how we eradicate it. And that starts with self. As Leo Tolstoy once said:
"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself."
We need to model the behavior we want to see. We can be the role model in the small interactions we have with people in our everyday lives: our neighbors, co-workers, families or any other relationships we have.
When I think of role models I think of Sidney Poitier and Harry Belafonte. These men rose above the injustice of their time with strength, elegance, focus and intelligence. Finally, working on our individual emotional intelligence is key. How? Yes, visualizing may be one way, as well as acknowledging that those feelings of anger are actually a misinterpretation of hurt we as a group feel inside. These are just some of the building block's to countering the reactive nature of anger. Aug 11, 2013
- Wow, your response is a definite blog post.Aug 11, 2013
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