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But for the love of sexy jesus, at some point you gotta just let go and immerse in life for reals with nothing to hold on to but your own trust in yourself and the world around you. At some point you gotta sit in your own stuff, feel what’s there for you to feel, and then take off the training wheels."
an excerpt from the latest *dirty secrets of self help land"
After I burnt myself out as a solo-preneur, broke up with the man I thought I would marry, and entered a psuedo sex cult, my life and my soul collapsed. And I went on a deep inner journey to untangle myself.
This is what I see. This is what I have to say. I’m gonna be real, raw and honest. You may like some of what I say and you may hate it. Thats a good thing.
This is my story.
Welcome to The dirty secrets of self help land.
Learning to clearly see the person behind the website, the stage, and the brand
Why? Because what he is saying is giving you a clue as to what he can handle (and can't handle).
At this point in my life, when a man says this, it is a big red flag that he is looking for a woman who is easy to manipulate with his pretty spiritual language and his big fat spiritual ego and possible status as a tantra guru. It's a sign that I'm walking into a big set of conditions in a space where unconditional is thrown around as though it's a play toy.
Run the other direction OR smile because you've just been given a chance to give a dude a taste of reality.
Women are fucking everywhere and we aren't perfect, and we need your help to grow. You need ours too.
Men who are holding out for a conscious spiritual relationship need a lot of rules and agreements to operate in a space of intimacy. And they often have no clue how to really be intimate and cultivate a real relationship.
Let me give you a picture of the kind of man you are looking for:
The man you are looking for is often the hardest to spot and you won't find him looking for him.
There is a beautiful passage from the Tao te Ching that says :
“A leader is best
When people barely know he exists
Of a good leader, who talks little,
When his work is done, his aim fulfilled,
They will say, “We did this ourselves.”
― Lao Tzu,
He who is the best leader often goes unnoticed.
So the man you are looking for, is basically invisible. And he will pop up seemingly out of the ethers only when you stop looking and start being still enough to own your shit.
The INVISIBLE MAN often times IS the INVINCIBLE MAN. Because what's more scary and difficult than being invisible but still doing your work in this world.
The man you are looking for is not in spiritual growth land. That man is still lost. The man you want is somewhere in the world doing his WORK. He has way more important things to be doing than chasing women around and going to weekend workshops and seminars.
You're not looking for a man who is SEEKING things. The man you want has stopped seeking to be still enough to know himself. And now he moves with purpose, presence, and as much integrity as he can muster (cause no one is perfect). Instead of seeking he waits and allows life to unfold. He isn't SEEKING you, he is waiting for you to show up in his world.
As women we have this attraction to a seeking man, as though it's this signal that he is doing something. While the activity of seeking does showcase drivenness and willingness to go into the unknown and courage, it's not actually a trait that will serve you as a woman who is whole and knows herself.
So while it's valiant and noble seeming to be on the hunt, the kind of man I am offering up to you as a shift is one who doesn't need to hunt out of desperation or self gratification.
A SEEKING man is not just seeking a woman, he is seeking to find himself inside a woman and attach to that.
As women we are attracted to man who is ON PURPOSE, and we so often equate this to DOING things. Purpose and doing things are two separate things.
There is a kind of man who is doing a LOT less, but getting a lot more done. He is leading other people, but it's not usually because he put himself there, it's because he found himself there or others asked him to.
He is likely leading from the back, without anyone even noticing or needing any credit because he doesn't need anyone to notice to feel good about himself.
He is LEADING FROM a place that you probably don't recognize.
<<<<Something took over me this weekend and I've been writing for hours and hours and hours>>>>>>>>
More to come....
When we think of femininity, we image a vibrant, beautiful, flowing, strong and adored woman. And we strive to be her.
Maybe you’ve read books to learn about how to own your feminine power. Or you’ve attend workshops and watch videos on how to step into your feminine essence. You’ve tried to run your business from your feminine. But something just isn’t clicking.
As women, we’ve been cultured to do-do-do, go-go-go, give-give-give. And while we’re desperate for support, we’re so afraid to letting go. We expect perfection – from ourselves, our work, and our partners – and we don’t trust anyone else to give it to us. So we pull from the limited source of energy. We’re left frustrated. And tense.
Showing up in the feminine isn’t about being perfect or about being the Super Woman who can do it all. It’s about owning your power and coming from a place of truth.
And the journey to stepping into your feminine in all areas of your life starts with taking off your armor.
Whether it’s been passed down culturally or we’ve gained it through physical or emotional trauma or abuse, a breakup, or just living life and going through tough experiences – we’ve guarded ourselves. We’ve built our own armor to protect and to keep us in this okay state.
It’s through the awareness of where this armor is and how to undo it that we’ll truly be able to tap into our feminine power.
And I want to teach you how.
“Dearmoring ourselves is about being able to pinpoint where the armor is and having the know-how to undo it on a regular basis.”
This Tuesday, February 17th at 7pm, I’m going to be hosting a FREE webinar to dive deep into this topic of dearmoring ourselves and stepping into our feminine. Sign up below to get the details.
Join me and Namaste Moore, author of the book "yoni egg secrets:the definitive guide" on Friday to hear how this beautiful practice can benefit you.
What's up in my world since we last spoke.
I have a lot lot of heart and a ton of courage. I have made tons of mistakes and have let myself and my life get really really really messy. I have also achieved a lot of things in my life for being still so young.
By the age of 26, I had built a life I thought I wanted and when I started to get really close to “success” (the man, the money, the freedom) I crumbled under the weight of it all. I crumbled and it fell away because while my intentions were good, I was aiming at the wrong target and in the process I lost myself.
I’ve built businesses, been apart of the growth of a 7 figure company, travelled the world teaching The Art of Feminine Presence, created a solid income for myself as a self employed 26 year old, met the man I thought I would marry, spoken on stages, been apart of high level business masterminds, learned orgasmic meditation, been to seminar after seminar, created lots of financial and time “freedom”….. and in the end none of it really got me where I thought I wanted to go.
So I gave it all up (not really by pure choice, it was the only choice I had if I wanted to live). I gave it all up and destroyed everything so that I could actually start LIVING my life.
I’ve spent the last 2 years giving up everything I built in my life and diving deeper than most people I have encountered into the depths of my heart and soul. My life is a work of art and dedication to my own wholeness and the journey I’ve been on has given me something I never realized I wanted all along:
Read more about my journey here http://iamlaurensheehan.com/who-i-am/
- Colorado State UniversitySports Medicine, 2004 - 2008
- The Art of Feminine PresenceTeacher-Facillitator, 2009 - 2013
- Authentic Speaker AcademySpeaker, 2010 - 2013
- OnetasteOrgasmic Meditation, 2012 - 2012