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This long weekend is a good time to really disconnect and spend time doing things that are relaxing and things we truly enjoy. Even if you have plans, try to set sometime aside just for yourself and let mind rest. 

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8 Tips to Manage the Pressure of the Holidays

The pressure of the holidays seems to start earlier and earlier every year. Every October the stores start to display their holiday merchandise even before Halloween has come and gone. Do you feel the pressure yet?

Expectations start early and can make the season seem even longer. We are bombarded with external messages telling us how things “should be” for our holidays.

Read the article below to learn 8 ways to manage the pressure this holiday season.

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How we view in things can really change how we feel about them. If you’re feeling down, unhappy, or just not excited about things, take a look around and see what you can find that you can be grateful for. Gratitude creates joy - give it a try!

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What If "I Love Him, But He Doesn't Love Me?"

One of the most common complaints I hear from unhappy female partners is some version of "I love him, but he doesn't love me." While it's not just women who say this, it does seem that more women feel this way than men.

Don't get me wrong, there certainly are plenty of unhappy men. Just read through the comments left on the articles on the Guy Stuff Counseling blog to find out. But in my experience more women are going to say, "I love him, but he doesn't love me," than men. A lot of guys are just more willing to distract themselves and put up with feeling this way.

Check out the article below and read Kristen's story and what I told her husband. Leave a comment here or on the article and let me know what you think.

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Therefore, if you desire love, try to realize that the only way to get love is by giving love. That the more you give, the more you get.
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It truly is the simplest of gestures that make for a wonderful, lasting relationship. Expensive gifts can be great and fancy nights out are fun, but that’s not what makes a relationship last. Making you laugh, putting forth efforts to understand you and make you happy, being apologetic when necessary, and even holding hands are all things that make relationships meaningful and lasting. If you have someone in your life like that – they're a keeper!

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I have found love to be my most trusted companion. A true gift of God. Which elevates my spirit high above the conflicts of man. It has provided me with a solid relationship with myself. The first and most important relationship. Keeping me free of many troublesome aspects I encounter in life. Teaching me I don't have to want for nothing. Life is so good this day. I just pray everyone gets this. People the world over can use a spirit of love. It's council will always be true. Even when my own fails me. Peace people. Keep it coming Kurt. Happy Thanksgiving My good man. 
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With the radio gearing up for non-stop holiday songs that everyone seems to sing along to, for this week's #fbf  we thought we would share this funny! Have a great weekend!
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Enjoy a Few Minutes of Silliness

Life is hard. Period. Fortunately, this statement isn’t always true. But there are certainly times we go through where nothing seems to be working out as planned and we’re really struggling. So I’d like to offer some advice on how to get through these challenging times – try a little silliness.

I don’t know about you, but I can’t carry a tune to save my life. If I attempt to sing, my dog generally leaves the room and my wife turns up the TV. And I don’t blame them one bit. However, I do have to say that when I listen to my awful singing it's generally good for a few laughs (my own included) and helps relieve stress. It doesn’t solve my problems or miraculously make life better. But it does help me keep things in perspective and relax for a bit.

So what’s something you’re really not skilled at? It could be singing or maybe it’s dancing or playing an instrument. Try doing it with reckless abandon the next time you need to blow off some steam. It may distract you just long enough to enjoy a few moments of silliness.

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There are many facts and myths surrounding Thanksgiving. Here is a fun infographic about some of them. Our favorites are that Thanksgiving lasted 3 days, and that "Jingle Bells" was written for Thanksgiving! What’s yours? Tell us below!

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This is the perfect time of year to evaluate what we've got going in our lives. This is a great check list to see if the things we're doing in our lives are truly worth your time. And since time is so valuable, we don't want to waste it. Do any of these signs ring a bell for you? 

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11 Signs you Should Quit What You're Doing Right Now
It's easy to get caught up in the moment. But sometimes you need to pay attention to the signs and stop before it's too late.
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A sure-fire way to make someone mad is to ask them if they're mad so many times that they actually get mad and scream, “I’m not mad!” It can be hard to take someone at face value when they appear angry – but we need to believe it when they say it, and not require “proof.” If someone tells you they’re not mad, then they either don’t want to talk about it or they just really aren’t mad. 

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Sometimes there comes a time with we're with either a partner or friend when we realize that we really have just outgrown them. It can be hard not to feel guilty about that, but ultimately we’re responsible for our own lives, and if the other person is weighing us down or we no longer enjoy being with them, we need to let ourselves be okay with moving on. Outgrowing people IS okay – and it’s okay to move on. *One caveat is that if you're in a long-term relationship, like a marriage, you really should try to fix it before ditching it.

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It feels as though people have forgotten that it’s okay to disagree about things and still remain friends. Things don’t have to be a ‘you vs. me’ scenario on everything we may disagree about. Agree to disagree, move on, and remain friends!

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It would be a better world if more of us (me included) would adopt this philosophy.
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Sitting or standing for hours at work (or anywhere) can take a toll on not just on our bodies but our mental state, too. Here are some fun, easy to do stretches, that can be done from a chair anywhere, that help release tension and stress. Give them a try. Let us know your favorites and how they worked! My favorites are the spinal twist and the sun pose. 

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Counseling Men - Marriage Counseling - Anger Management Classes - Divorce Counseling
I'm an expert in understanding men and women
  • Guy Stuff Counseling - Relationship Advice + Marriage Tips + Anger Management Help + Communication Skills + Divorce Advice
    Director, Lead Counselor, Speaker, Blogger, 2007 - present
  • The Effort/Family Service Agency
    Counselor, 2005 - 2007
  • Financial Disciplines
    Financial Counselor, 2004 - 2005
  • Cross Creek Counseling
    Counselor, 2003 - 2005
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Specialist in Counseling Men and the women who love them

I want to have conversations on Google+ that make me think, learn, and laugh. If you do too, then please engage with me.

Men, Women, Relationships, Love and Health . . . aren't these topics we all have in common . . . ones we all need to understand better . . . things we all could learn more about from each other??? So join the conversation and think, learn, and laugh along with us.

My Promise To You: Five days a week on Google+ I'll start a conversation about one of the above topics and I guarantee you'll have an opinion about it! You may like it, hate it, think I'm crazy or an idiot, possibly even brilliant, but I guarantee you'll have something to say about it.

Want to Connect on Google+? This page is one of the best places to do it. As one of the Top 50 Profiles on Google+ for engagement, my posts get +1, commented on, and shared . . . a lot (source: +CircleCount). Join in and get connected. If you want to get your stream rockin' and rollin', try sharing some of these posts and ask your followers to comment.

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  • "I don't know how you do this but lately is like you are posting this messages for me..." - +Ellie TheMoon
  • "This page reminds me of a support group (it's a good thing)  8~) This is really an enlightening conversation, seeing the different perspectives (wow, one can sure read different things in a statement). Also, the open sharing of thoughts here is amazing!" - +Dolly Piper
  • "Can i send this to my ex please????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!" - +Jayde Proffitt
  • "Every time I wander over to the "What's Hot/Explore" tab, I will see a post by +Kurt Smith. Each one of them original content, and invariably asking the reader a question about a sensitive topic."  - +Lori Friedrich
I'd really like to hear what you think too, so join the conversation by circling me, leaving a comment, and sharing a post.

What Makes Me An Expert?

I get asked this a lot - "so what makes you such an expert?"

Every week I provide counseling to men and the women who love them. I'm a relationship expert because my counseling work gives me inside knowledge into the secrets of relationship success, failure, and what makes people do what they do

As the Clinical Director and Lead Counselor at Guy Stuff Counseling & Coaching, we use a 'guy-friendly' approach in offering:

  • Counseling for Men
  • Counseling for Women
  • Marriage Counseling
  • Couples Counseling
  • Anger Management Classes
  • Divorce Counseling

We get fast, effective, solutions to problems like:

  • Communication Problems
  • Anger Management Issues
  • Cheating Spouse
  • Abusive Relationships
  • Porn Addiction
  • Alcohol Abuse
  • Midlife Crisis

You can learn more about me at Guy Stuff Counseling, and be sure to check out our extensive, free resources, including our widely popular Counseling Men Blog for more help.

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Escaped a broken family and now happily married 16+ years - Traumatic Brain Injury survivor
  • Iowa State University
    Financial Counseling, 2005
  • University of San Francisco
    Counseling Psychology, 2004
  • California State University, Sacramento
    Psychology, 2000
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