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Works at Guy Stuff Counseling - Relationship Advice + Marriage Tips + Anger Management Help + Communication Skills + Divorce Advice
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Happy Birthday, America!

This weekend we celebrate our great nation’s birthday – the day the Declaration of Independence was adopted by the Continental Congress, and the United States of America was born. We take for granted the freedoms we enjoy today because of this document, but it was radical thinking 239 years ago.

Not only was this very public opposition to the king by stating that the government should be chosen by the people to govern themselves, it states that all men were created free, equal and shared the same rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. The Declaration of Independence makes us citizens of a nation, rather than subjects of an empire

Have a happy and safe 4th of July. Tell us in the comments what you are doing to celebrate!


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'Loves Me But Is Not In Love With Me' - Understanding 'Why?'

My partner loves me but is not in love with me is one of the most painful things to have to accept. In fact, most partners cannot believe it when they hear it. Hearing these words typically comes as a complete shock.

What follows being told he loves me but is not in love with me is what makes hearing these words even harder to understand and accept. Often after this is said a bag gets packed and the partner leaves, separates or says they want a divorce. A woman I'm counseling right now came home to find a note on the kitchen counter saying not much more than, "I love you, but am no longer in love with you," and her husband had moved out.

Click below to read the rest of the story about 4 different real-life people struggling with a partner who says they love them but are not in love with them. Also learn what to do and not to do about it.

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Did you know that being dehydrated can affect our moods and behavior? And in the heat, it can be dangerous. If water is too bland, try some of these flavors.

H/T: +Peg Fitzpatrick 
12 infused water recipes to keep you hydrated all summer
Peach and sage sounds amazing to me.

#healthyliving   #summer   #foodie   #ns  
We all know we should drink more water, but it's just so...boring. We can do better than this! Click through for 11 takes on infused water that make staying hydrated fun!
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Real Apologies Have Follow Through

Sometimes we hurt or offend someone so much that saying, “I’m sorry” just isn’t enough. Sometimes we need to demonstrate how sorry we truly are. Fortunately, it’s not that hard to do.

We need to apologize, of course. We should also acknowledge what we’ve done and then let the person know how we’ll avoid making the same mistake again. The key here is to then ask for forgiveness, and see what we can do to make things right.

While we may be a bit uncomfortable doing this, it can to mean the world to the one we offended or hurt. It’s also an opportunity for us, as it can turn an ugly situation into a positive learning experience.


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Discover Your Own Kind of Bea-YOU-tiful

How did our view of what’s beautiful become so unrealistic? Every image we see in the media is manipulated to perfection – making us feel imperfect. How can we measure up to the waif-ish figures, flawless skin, chiseled muscles or whiter–than-white teeth? We can’t because it’s not real.

We need to shift our thinking away from what the media tell us is beautiful. We can define ourselves by staying healthy and focusing on our inner qualities. Being thoughtful and kind hearted is far more beautiful than any temporary makeup job, and being healthy is so much more than just how slim we are or what our muscles look like. 

Instead of hesitating to look in the mirror, we should take a good long look and smile. That’s who we really are, and we’re beautiful just as we are.

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Who Is The Other Woman In My Marriage?

What every wife fears the most is the other woman in my marriage. Whether it happens intentionally or innocently, the effect is still the same -- it's destructive.

As we all know, the technology we carry around with us gives us instant access to a lot of things that can become problems for us. One example is the ability to communicate with anyone, anywhere, anytime, which makes having another woman in your marriage something everyone is vulnerable to.

Take a look at the below article I wrote and learn the different ways the other woman can sneak into your marriage.

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Get Over FOMO And Embrace JOMO

Fear Of Missing Out is real. It’s when we’re constantly on social media or our cell phones so we don’t miss anything. FOMO is when we’re really tired, but go out anyway, or are the last to leave a friends’ house, because we don’t want to miss out. 

But FOMO robs of us JOMO - the Joy Of Missing Out. There are so many things we can do alone that are fulfilling and let us have some “me” time. We can go to an early show and see the embarrassingly silly movie we secretly want to see. We can go to the new exhibit at the museum without someone else being bored, or take a book to the park and read the afternoon away. 

The Joy Of Missing Out is more than just disconnecting. It’s taking the time to take care of ourselves. It’s great to try new things, or do nothing. It’s ok to not fill every moment of every day with other people. Let the FOMO go and enjoy 'me' time!


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Suffering Is A Choice - Say "No More!"

We'll all experience pain in our lives at one point or another -- it’s unavoidable. But we don’t have to suffer along with the pain -- that IS avoidable.

Pain is a necessary physical reaction to something that can hurt us somehow. Suffering over something is a choice we make. It’s our inner voice telling us how miserable we are, that we can’t do something, or that we aren’t worthy. 

It can be hard to practice positive thinking when we’re hurting in some way, but if we change how we’re thinking, we can end the suffering, put it behind us, and work on really healing. The next time you're suffering, choose "no more!"


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It’s Time To Disconnect Once In A While

Do you ever “disconnect’? Are you constantly on your phone scrolling Facebook, tweeting on Twitter, or pinning on Pinterest? As great as smart phones and tablets are, people seem to have forgotten how to just ‘be.’

It’s now seemingly normal to be on our phones while waiting at the doctor’s office, or killing time when picking up the kids. With our devices in hand, we have a constant stream of distractions, and that can be stressful. By disconnecting, we can relax, be alone with our thoughts, or just daydream

When we unplug, our minds get a much-needed break. Tell us in the comments if you ever deliberately disconnect, and if you feel less stressed when you do.


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A great reminder to not feel hopeless in light of recent events.
H/T +Babble 
With so many awful headlines in the news, there are times we all feel a little hopeless. But don’t let the darkness overshadow all the good in this world.
Yes, I brought a child into an imperfect world that can be terrifying at times. It can also be so incredibly beautiful, complex and awe-inspiring.
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Real Men Make The Time To Be A Dad

Some believe that moms are better at motherhood than dads are at fatherhood. Maybe that used to be true, but today it doesn’t have to be that way anymore.

Dads today can be much more involved with all phases of their kids’ lives than ever before. No longer are dads just greeted at the door after work, and relegated to playing catch. Dads today are helping with diapers, breakfast, packing lunches, picking up after school – and they love it, and their kids love it. What kids want most from their dads is time and attention, and it’s common now to give it in less traditional ways.

No matter how a dad may see himself, a dad is still his kids’ hero. Kids still need dads as a positive role model. But now, dads can be present in all the little ways, too, and have fun doing it.

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How To Handle A Know-It-All

We all know someone who's a know-it-all. It can be hard not to use a snarky comment to try and get them to shut up. But understanding why someone is this way can help us deal with it without being too extreme. 

The Internet gives us almost unlimited access to information, which for some gives them the feeling that they actually do know everything. Some people who feel very insecure try to make themselves seem smarter. It's insecurity that causes these people to never feel comfortable being quiet. 

Instead of running away, we can try to understand where they’re coming from. Maybe by showing someone a little understanding, they’ll realize they don’t need to demonstrate their knowledge constantly and we can have a more normal, balanced conversation.


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  • Guy Stuff Counseling - Relationship Advice + Marriage Tips + Anger Management Help + Communication Skills + Divorce Advice
    Director, Lead Counselor, Speaker, Blogger, 2007 - present
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    Counselor, 2005 - 2007
  • Financial Disciplines
    Financial Counselor, 2004 - 2005
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    Counselor, 2003 - 2005
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Specialist in Counseling Men and the women who love them

I want to have conversations on Google+ that make me think, learn, and laugh. If you do too, then please engage with me.

Men, Women, Relationships, Love and Health . . . aren't these topics we all have in common . . . ones we all need to understand better . . . things we all could learn more about from each other??? So join the conversation and think, learn, and laugh along with us.

My Promise To You: Five days a week on Google+ I'll start a conversation about one of the above topics and I guarantee you'll have an opinion about it! You may like it, hate it, think I'm crazy or an idiot, possibly even brilliant, but I guarantee you'll have something to say about it.

Want to Connect on Google+? This page is one of the best places to do it. As one of the Top 50 Profiles on Google+ for engagement, my posts get +1, commented on, and shared . . . a lot (source: +CircleCount). Join in and get connected. If you want to get your stream rockin' and rollin', try sharing some of these posts and ask your followers to comment.

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  • "I don't know how you do this but lately is like you are posting this messages for me..." - +Ellie TheMoon
  • "This page reminds me of a support group (it's a good thing)  8~) This is really an enlightening conversation, seeing the different perspectives (wow, one can sure read different things in a statement). Also, the open sharing of thoughts here is amazing!" - +Dolly Piper
  • "Can i send this to my ex please????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!" - +Jayde Proffitt
  • "Every time I wander over to the "What's Hot/Explore" tab, I will see a post by +Kurt Smith. Each one of them original content, and invariably asking the reader a question about a sensitive topic."  - +Lori Friedrich
I'd really like to hear what you think too, so join the conversation by circling me, leaving a comment, and sharing a post.

What Makes Me An Expert?

I get asked this a lot - "so what makes you such an expert?"

Every week I provide counseling to men and the women who love them. I'm a relationship expert because my counseling work gives me inside knowledge into the secrets of relationship success, failure, and what makes people do what they do

As the Clinical Director and Lead Counselor at Guy Stuff Counseling & Coaching, we use a 'guy-friendly' approach in offering:

  • Counseling for Men
  • Counseling for Women
  • Marriage Counseling
  • Couples Counseling
  • Anger Management Classes
  • Divorce Counseling

We get fast, effective, solutions to problems like:

  • Communication Problems
  • Anger Management Issues
  • Cheating Spouse
  • Abusive Relationships
  • Porn Addiction
  • Alcohol Abuse
  • Midlife Crisis

You can learn more about me at Guy Stuff Counseling, and be sure to check out our extensive, free resources, including our widely popular Counseling Men Blog for more help.

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I'm available to talk with you one-on-one using Google Chat or Hangouts. Here's a description of the meeting options/fees and the online calendar to reserve a time. I have specific meeting slots set aside for Google Chat on Mondays. Be sure to note that my calendar is Pacific Standard Time (PST), so please adjust the time accordingly when picking a slot. Please complete the request form on the online calendar page to reserve a time.

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Escaped a broken family and now happily married 16+ years - Traumatic Brain Injury survivor
  • Iowa State University
    Financial Counseling, 2005
  • University of San Francisco
    Counseling Psychology, 2004
  • California State University, Sacramento
    Psychology, 2000
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