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Kurt Smith
Works at Guy Stuff Counseling - Relationship Advice + Marriage Tips + Anger Management Help + Communication Skills + Divorce Advice
Attended Iowa State University
Lives in Roseville, California
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While this is a bit of a chemist's joke, it also really highlights that how we look at life can change with our perspective! Change your perspective, and it changes your day. Change your day, and it changes your week. Change your week… You get the idea! We all know it, but need to get better at doing it.

#getperspective #behappy #saturday #kurtstips

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Yes kurt change the perspective and hold it tight tell yourself it's true otherwise normally v again get carried away

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We’ve all said things we regret in the heat of the moment. But are there other times when you say things you regret? If being “Hangry “ (an amalgam of hungry and angry) is a problem, keep snacks on hand to curb it. Being prepared for our triggers can save us all from unnecessary regret.

#beprepared #hangry #tuesday #kurtstips

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Lol... I liked the term 'hangry'...:D
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It seems like we're all on the go all the time. Work, sports, events, school, whatever else you can think of… Being home with nothing to do is actually good for us once in awhile, and since it happens so rarely for most of us, we should appreciate every second of it.

#relax #stayhome #saturday #kurtstips

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+Kurt Smith Yah, but not next time! :D
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Some words really are better left unsaid, as this repost for #TBT says. Don't avoid #communicating - we need to be sure to choose our words wisely. Once spoken, words can never be unsaid.

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Some Words Are Better Left Unsaid

Rock band Hawk Nelson had a hit in 2013 called, simply, “Words.” The lyrics clearly outline the immense power in what we say. As Hawk Nelson sings, words can make us “feel like a prisoner” or “feel like a king.”

Words are a tool nearly everyone has access to. And they’re one of the most powerful devices any of us possess. If you’re reading this post, then they’re definitely in your arsenal. But just as with any tool we have at our disposal, we need to use our words with care. Otherwise, this effective tool can quickly become a destructive weapon.

We use words to communicate with others. Often we communicate feelings of joy, fear, anger, pain, annoyance, excitement – the list is endless. And there’s nothing wrong with expressing emotions, positive or negative, but we need to be careful about the words we choose to express how we feel.

Especially when you need to let someone know you’re frustrated by their behavior or disappointed in their decision, it's important to take a second to think about how your words may be received. This doesn't mean we should avoid our communicating, but rather be conscious of the words we use. Make sure the words you’re choosing to speak aren’t ones you’ll regret later. Just remember – a spoken word can never be unsaid.

#powerofwords   #communicationskills   #kurtstips  
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Errrm.... I think it goes more like this?
A WISE HEAD KEEPS A CLOSED MOUTH!! ;-D
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Ghosting In A Relationship Is Hiding, Not Communicating

Ghosting in a relationship is really like the ultimate silent treatment. It’s not exactly new, but over the last few years, it has become a far more prevalent way for us to handle the ending our relationships.

The combination of phones, apps and online dating has made meeting people less personal, and therefore less worthy of taking the time to communicate how we feel.

Read the article below to find out why it's not the easy way out it seems to be, and how to handle it.

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Learn more about Ghosting In A Relationship. Find out why Ghosting happens and what to do about it.
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Be honest about your role in the relationship!
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Sometimes things just don’t work out for us in life. And that’s ok. It's just important to recognize what’s not working, remove that from our life, and refocus on what is working and moving forward.

#moveforward #bepositive #thursday #kurtstips

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Truely preventive measures must be taken
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Is Surviving Infidelity Even Possible?

At first, surviving infidelity isn't even imaginable. How can you survive when your life is over? How will you ever get your life back? Isn't it gone forever?

The shock, actually it's really horror, that your partner could do this to you makes surviving infidelity seem impossible. Then comes the hurt, which can be overwhelming and suffocating all at the same time. Next comes the anger. For some, these feelings are separate and distinct, but for others they come all wrapped up in one gigantic ball of pain.

Click the article below to discover how surviving infidelity isn't just a possibility, it can be a reality, and how some couples even learn to thrive afterwards.

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hlo g please help.my post in spam in famous quotes community.please release my post
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Real people are genuine and have no desire to impress anyone. They don’t need a lot of fake friends, just a few trusted friends – it’s a matter of quality over quantity.

#bereal #personalgrowth #thursday #kurtstips

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That's a very true statement.

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5 Lessons We Can Learn From Taylor Swift About Relationships

Recently Forbes named Taylor Swift as the highest paid celebrity of 2016, earning an estimated $170 million. In addition to her fortune being publicized, news of her breakup with Calvin Harris, romance with Tom Hiddleston or insight from Taylor Lautner about their past relationship seems to be all over the Internet, magazine stands and on the radio, at any given time. At age 26, the red-hot songwriting celebrity has yet to settle down and find “the one.”

She always seems to have a new beau in tow and we’re sure to hear songs about it on her next album when it doesn’t work out. Despite her revolving door of relationships, there are some things we can learn from Swift about relationships.

Click on the article below to learn what 5 lessons are that we can take away from her example.

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Recently Forbes named Taylor Swift as the highest paid celebrity of 2016, earning an estimated $170 million. In addition to her fortune being publicized,...
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+David Etim I think you need to be real you in relationships don't put your relationship into certain level because love comes with parts of pain and u may not see a good guy standing in front of you....If you protect yourself that much...
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Smart Tips for Couples When One Partner Makes More Money

It might sound pretty sweet to have your partner taking care of you financially, but some people can feel uncomfortable and even inadequate if their spouse or partner makes more money than they do. Many of us, particularly men, have been taught that it is our job to be the providers and protectors for our partners and children, and this role can seem threatened when our partner is bringing in the majority, or all, of the income.

For years men were almost exclusively in the breadwinner role. However, that has been changing for the last few decades, causing a big shift in roles and incomes as more and more women become the breadwinners in their families. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 37% of wives earned more than their husbands (including households in which the husband had no earned income) in the U.S in 2014.

Click the article below to learn what each partner can do to keep income differences from becoming a problem that harms their relationship.

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It might sound pretty sweet to have your partner taking care of you financially, but some people can feel uncomfortable and even inadequate if their spouse or partner makes more money than they do. Many of us, particularly men, have been taught that it is our job to be the providers and protectors for our partners and children, and this role can seem threatened when our partner is bringing in the majority, or all, of the income. For years men wer...
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Why do we find it so easy to criticize ourselves? We should talk to ourselves in the same way we speak to someone we love – building ourselves up and making ourselves feel good. No one else is as deserving of our own love and kindness than we are!

#loveyourself #mentalhealth #tuesday #kurtstips

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Need to to readjust yourself
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It’s really hard sometimes to have a conversation. This list is full of ideas that can help you have a great conversation. My favorites are #2, 4 and 10, as they really help one to have a positive, balanced conversation no matter how awkward or tricky the subject may be. What are your favorites?

#communication #conversation #saturday #kurtstips

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true kurt
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Specialist in Counseling Men and the women who love them
Introduction

I want to have conversations on Google+ that make me think, learn, and laugh. If you do too, then please engage with me.

Men, Women, Relationships, Love and Health . . . aren't these topics we all have in common . . . ones we all need to understand better . . . things we all could learn more about from each other??? So join the conversation and think, learn, and laugh along with us.

My Promise To You: Five days a week on Google+ I'll start a conversation about one of the above topics and I guarantee you'll have an opinion about it! You may like it, hate it, think I'm crazy or an idiot, possibly even brilliant, but I guarantee you'll have something to say about it.

Want to Connect on Google+? This page is one of the best places to do it. As one of the Top 50 Profiles on Google+ for engagement, my posts get +1, commented on, and shared . . . a lot (source: +CircleCount). Join in and get connected. If you want to get your stream rockin' and rollin', try sharing some of these posts and ask your followers to comment.

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  • "Always pertinent!" - +Sheree Morgan
  • "Thank you Kurt for inspiring us :)" - +La Belle
  • "I don't know how you do this but lately is like you are posting this messages for me..." - +Ellie TheMoon
  • "This page reminds me of a support group (it's a good thing)  8~) This is really an enlightening conversation, seeing the different perspectives (wow, one can sure read different things in a statement). Also, the open sharing of thoughts here is amazing!" - +Dolly Piper
  • "Can i send this to my ex please????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!" - +Jayde Proffitt
  • "Every time I wander over to the "What's Hot/Explore" tab, I will see a post by +Kurt Smith. Each one of them original content, and invariably asking the reader a question about a sensitive topic."  - +Lori Friedrich
I'd really like to hear what you think too, so join the conversation by circling me, leaving a comment, and sharing a post.

What Makes Me An Expert?

I get asked this a lot - "so what makes you such an expert?"

Every week I provide counseling to men and the women who love them. I'm a relationship expert because my counseling work gives me inside knowledge into the secrets of relationship success, failure, and what makes people do what they do

As the Clinical Director and Lead Counselor at Guy Stuff Counseling & Coaching, we use a 'guy-friendly' approach in offering:

  • Counseling for Men
  • Counseling for Women
  • Marriage Counseling
  • Couples Counseling
  • Anger Management Classes
  • Divorce Counseling

We get fast, effective, solutions to problems like:

  • Communication Problems
  • Anger Management Issues
  • Cheating Spouse
  • Abusive Relationships
  • Porn Addiction
  • Alcohol Abuse
  • Midlife Crisis

You can learn more about me at Guy Stuff Counseling, and be sure to check out our extensive, free resources, including our widely popular Counseling Men Blog for more help.

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I'm available to talk with you one-on-one using Google Chat or Hangouts. Here's a description of the meeting options/fees and the online calendar to reserve a time. I have specific meeting slots set aside for Google Chat on Mondays. Be sure to note that my calendar is Pacific Standard Time (PST), so please adjust the time accordingly when picking a slot. Please complete the request form on the online calendar page to reserve a time.

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Escaped a broken family and now happily married 16+ years - Traumatic Brain Injury survivor
Education
  • Iowa State University
    Financial Counseling, 2005
  • University of San Francisco
    Counseling Psychology, 2004
  • California State University, Sacramento
    Psychology, 2000
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Kurt Smith, MFT, AFC
Work
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Counseling Men - Marriage Counseling - Anger Management Classes - Divorce Counseling
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I'm an expert in understanding men and women
Employment
  • Guy Stuff Counseling - Relationship Advice + Marriage Tips + Anger Management Help + Communication Skills + Divorce Advice
    Director, Lead Counselor, Speaker, Blogger, 2007 - present
  • The Effort/Family Service Agency
    Counselor, 2005 - 2007
  • Financial Disciplines
    Financial Counselor, 2004 - 2005
  • Cross Creek Counseling
    Counselor, 2003 - 2005
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Roseville, California
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+1 800-764-8524
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2530 Douglas Blvd., Ste. 160 Roseville, CA 95661