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Dr. Kurt Smith
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Specialist in Counseling Men and the women who love them
Specialist in Counseling Men and the women who love them

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"I Married The Wrong Person, Please Help"

We receive many questions from married couples that are struggling. Thinking that you married the wrong person can be one of the toughest questions to answer. Below is a question we received from Andrew, who’s concerned that he may have made a mistake when he married his wife, and my answer.

To read more about Andrew, his wife, and what to do if you think you have married the wrong person, check out this article on our blog.

#marriageproblems #marriedmistakes #kurtstips
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6 Ways Your Therapist Knows You’re Not Telling The Whole Truth

Therapy can be a game changer for your mental health, but you get out of it only as much as you put in. For the sake of your wallet and your time, it’s best to be as honest and transparent as possible with your therapist.

“You only know part of the truth about yourself,” said Zach Brittle, a Seattle-based therapist and founder of the online couples therapy series for Better. “If you really want to get the most out of therapy and learn about yourself, commit to being honest, first with yourself and with your therapist. Otherwise, frankly, it’s a waste of time.”

To read more about why to be truthful with your therapist and how they know check out this article on +HuffPost.

#counseling #truths #kurtstips
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Every day is full of little upsets. How we handle them is what determines whether our days are good or bad. Controlling our responses to things can be difficult. If you're having trouble keeping things in perspective stop and consider where it sits in the larger picture of life. If we aren’t careful anger and frustration can take over. So does the fact that the restaurant screwed up your order, or that you sat in traffic an extra 20 minutes because of an accident, really warrant the emotional energy you're expending? Chances are it doesn’t. For more tips check us out at http://www.guystuffcounseling.com

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What Men Are Attracted To - It's Not What You Think

Let's find out what men are attracted to. Brianna told Guy Stuff that "my husband is not physically attracted to me." In the first article of this series we responded to her cry for help by exploring some of the reasons why this may be happening. Take a quick look at the first article to hear her story and some possible causes -- "My Husband Is Not Physically Attracted to Me" Mr. Marriage Counselor. Now let's look at what men are attracted to.

As we look into attraction, particularly as it affects sexual intimacy within a relationship, an important truth for us to remember is that sexual intimacy is a reflection of the relationship.When the relationship is poor, the sexual intimacy is typically poor. It's not surprising then that sexual problems are one of the big marriage problems.

To read more about what men are attracted to check out this article on our website.

#attraction #whatmenlike #kurtstips
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They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Hmm...maybe, but I think what maybe more true is that the way to a woman’s bed is through her kitchen (or any other household space) – by picking up, wiping down and putting things away as you go. When couples complain about their intimate lives are going stale it can be because they're each so tired from all the daily tasks that sleep seems more attractive than their partner. If you can see that your partner could use a hand, lend one. You might be pleased by the good will that comes your way at bedtime as a result.

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How To Handle Being In A Relationship With Someone Who Has Depression

There are literally millions of people suffering with depression. It is a difficult and debilitating condition for a variety of reasons. And for the person suffering just getting through the day can be a daunting chore. But what about the partners of those who are depressed? How do you handle being in a relationship with someone who has depression?

A lot gets written about depression. Because there are so many people who are afflicted with it, there are a lot of resources for those suffering on how to cope. There is less available for the partners of those that are depressed. Handling a relationship with someone who is dealing with depression can be very challenging. The condition changes the dynamic of the relationship a great deal. There are, however, a few key things that partners of those depressed should keep in mind.

To read more about being a relationship with someone who is depressed check out this article on our website.

#depression #partnerwithdepression #kurtstips

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You are largely in charge of how to do this within your own life. Yes, we all have troubles and some are far worse than others. And we all need help occasionally. But if you live your life in a way that doesn’t create unnecessary problems you'll ultimately be a happier and more content person. If you make the choice not to lie, not to cheat, and not to let anger rule your life, you'll have avoided more troubles than many. And you'll have yourself to thank for that. For more tips check us out at www.guystuffcounseling.com

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I Think My Husband Is Depressed - Can I Save My Marriage?

In our first post, How to Save My Marriage - When My Husband Doesn't Love Me Anymore, we introduced you to a couple, Carrie and Al, who are dealing with several issues that are threatening their relationship. Let's continue looking at Carrie's description of her marriage. With the problems they are facing she's now wondering, "Is my husband is depressed?"

Carrie's husband is unpredictable -- in his responses, behavior, and especially his emotions. She says she walks around on eggshells because of it. But could this really be a sign her husband is depressed?

#depression #depressedhusband #kurtstips
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There is a common misbelief out there that you can spare a person’s feelings by lying to them or keeping the truth from them. This is untrue. Doing this will only compound the pain and hurt that will be felt when the truth inevitably comes out. And the truth ALWAYS comes out. Just because it didn’t today doesn’t mean it won’t tomorrow, or next week, or next year. Do you really want to live your life knowing that lies could destroy it? Take responsibility for your actions now, deal with the consequences, and things will go far more smoothly than putting it off and hoping it doesn’t catch up to you. It will.

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Have you ever had this feeling? That “I don’t know what to say,” or “I can’t put these feelings into words” moment? I think we all have. It could be in response to some really strong positive or negative emotions. Either way it can be frustrating and even infuriating. If you find yourself in this situation take a deep breath, give it a moment and say whatever comes to mind. You'll probably find that the words come once you stop trying to think of them.

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