Basically (if you can't be bothered to watch the vid), instead of praising your child with "well done, aren't you clever" you should praise with "well done, you tried really hard". So they start to enjoy the process of working hard and improving, instead of assuming they are naturally smart and having to live up to that.
Great video - will change the way I praise and encourage my children from now on.
I think that's dangerous too. It leads to the expectation in academic environments that you should score well because you hard, even if you didn't achieve whatever it was you were supposed to be doing necessarily. It's a minefield, isn't it? I agree it's better, however, to have them internalize the need to work on things!
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