Breaking news from Science Daily: The more children are spanked, the more likely they are to act out, defy their parents, engage in aggressive and antisocial behaviors and have both mental health problems and cognitive difficulties.
Take a moment to let that sink in.
According to a new study, published in the Journal of Family Psychology, spanking is associated with the above-mentioned unintentional detriments and is not associated with eit...
I work with a lot of kids with anxiety. Not all of them meet the diagnostic criteria for an anxiety disorder (some do, some don't), but they do have anxiety that is no longer manageable without help. To that end, I teach coping strategies to both children and their parents and listen to the worries that keep kids up at night.
While all children are different and have different sources of stress, I have found a common theme among my anxious kid...
Avoid avoidance? I know, sounds like I missed something there, but stay with me. In the past few weeks, my inbox has been overflowing with questions about helping anxious kids who have a tendency to avoid all possible anxiety triggers. Should parents push kids to face their fears? Should they encourage the avoidance because the anxiety seems to disappear as long as the child avoids the triggers? What's a parent to do?
Parenting an anxious chil...
The end of the school year can be tough. As parents, we feel like we're crawling to the finish line. We're so close, but there's still so much to be done before we close the books on another year. For kids, it can be a bit of a mixed bag of emotions.
They look forward to summer. More time for fun and less work to be done. Long summer days that fade to night. Swim-soaked hair and watermelon dripping down chins. They long for summer long before ...
Josh* was seven-years-old when his mom reached out to me. I will never forget the phone call. Two minutes into her description of her son’s temper tantrums that occurred frequently and seemed to last “forever”, she broke down into tears. Feeling alone in the situation, the family quietly dealt with Josh’s tantrums behind closed doors and didn’t seek advice from anyone. They were exhausted, embarrassed and frustrated. The tantrums, which I later d...
In the past two days, two wonderful small moments occurred. The first happened during a chemistry lesson in my daughter's classroom yesterday morning. When the teacher asked for volunteers to read the conclusion of the experiment out loud, my daughter raised her hand high in the air. Sounds like no big deal, right? The thing is that my daughter is never the first to raise her hand. She prefers to blend in and though she often knows the answers an...
Some kids are super hard on themselves.
For many years, I worked with a little girl who struggled to silence her inner critic. She constantly looked for approval and praise from her teachers, me or her parents. It wasn't just that she needed praise - she wasn't a kid raised on you're the best at everything! - she just couldn't stop looking for flaws.
One day she brought me a poem she had written in her free time. It was quite beautiful and ...
Psychotherapist and author helping parents raise happy kids one day at a time...
I am a Child & Adolescent Psychotherapist, Parenting Expert, and author (more on that later) in Los Angeles, CA. Practical Parenting provides simple parenting strategies to help parents raise happy and confident kids. I also write for Everyday Family, allParenting, and The Huffington Post. I have two happy kids and a rock & roll husband.
High School, 1993
Boston College 1997
Psychology/Women's Studies, 1997
University of Pennsylvania 1999
Katherine Hurley, Katie Godbout
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