Huge hugs! Even though neither of mine likely have autism, I totally get where you're coming from. With Jack having an invisible disability (g tube, learning and motor delays) it often feels like you're completely alone in the middle of a crowded room. The discussions of parents of typical kids don't sound or feel quite normal. Where is the medical jargon? Why isn't there talk of doctors or diagnosis?
It doesn't matter that you speak the same language, on some level it still feels foreign, and you end up feeling like an outsider. It's hard on us moms, but even harder to watch our kids struggle with the same. You aren't alone. What you have to say is important and took courage to post so publicly, and I'm so glad you did (and others will be too, even if they never comment to tell you so). Sending huge hugs your way! You have a huge support group here if you start feeling too alone. XO