> 3. "I’m badly losing this argument; I need to work harder to prove I’m right" — becomes — "I’ll end up with more accurate beliefs and prove that I’m the sort of person that can change my mind if I acknowledge that the other person has made a good argument. It may even make them think better of me!"

> 4. "That person I thought I had a good conversation with never replied when I contacted them, so I must have done something off-putting" — becomes — "There are numerous reasons why someone wouldn’t reply — email inadvertently going to spam, forgetting to reply, personal crises, disinterest in making friends, travel — and this person doesn’t know what I’m really like. So it can’t be deeply personal, but I can certainly work more at making a great first impression to reduce the chances that this happens in the future!"

> 5. "I failed at this thing I tried really hard at, so there must be something wrong with me" — becomes — "If I never fail, I’m not trying things that are hard enough to challenge me. Each time I try something hard I will have some chance of failure, so failure is totally expected and normal, even though I should try my best to diagnose why it happened so I can improve."
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